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ESTRELLA D. BRIGOLE
DSWD Field Office XI Davao City
Importance of Family
Source of security, belongingness, emotional and economic growth, Foundation for childs physical, social, emotional, and moral well-being.
Parenting
Parenting is raising children that takes time, attention, patience, strength and love. A total caregiver caretaker, teacher, counselor, friend Parental skills are necessary to help you meet childrens basic needs physical, emotional and intellectual.
Parenting
Physical needs include good nutrition, rest, and exercise. Emotional needs include love, acceptance, security, guidance, order and praise to ensure wholesome home life. Intellectual needs include communication, stimulation, exploration, creativity and lots of opportunity to learn and master new skills.
Remember!!!
Each child is an individual with unique needs. Guide children to appropriate behavior and encourage consideration for others. Discipline with love Teach social skills like good manners, sharing, listening and respecting others. Encourage independence and exploration Talk to your children, take time to explain objectively and calmly.
PARENTAL ROLES
Parenting is a process that extends over time Fathering or mothering is not the same as parenting Emotional attachment is established as the parents become involved throughout their development cycle. Development of attachment starts as early as during pregnancy period where the parents becomes emotionally engrossed with their new born baby Psychological-emotional bonding is deepened with the child as the parents becomes involved with his childs growth and development
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PARENTING STYLES
Permissive-Indulgent
Authoritative Authoritative-Democratic
Neglectful
PERMISSIVE-INDULGENT
Child manipulates Parents follow their desires Easily carried away with tears of the child Children usually becomes impulsive and aggressive, low in self reliance and achievement, quick to anger and domineering
AUTHORITATIVE
Domineering Words and rules must be followed without complaint Dont listen to children nor understand their feelings Obedience is of prime importance Child usually becomes fearful, moody, unhappy, passive, hostile, withdrawn and irritable.
AUTHORITATIVEDEMOCRATIC
Practice open communication with children Dont easily get mad at childrens misbehavior Try to find meaning and reasons in the acts and ways of children Listen to their opinions and feelings Discuss rules and conduct that should be observed inside the house Children usually becomes friendly, self-reliant, self-controlled, cooperative and achievementoriented.
NEGLECTFUL TYPE
Perceive children to be of secondary importance in your life Dont give so much care and concern to the children Entrust the needs and problems of children to themselves or to other members of the house Dont give much time and attention Have trained children to give time and attention to material things, career, friends, hobbies, vices and other interests.
GENDER SENSITIVITY
Husband and wife should both be gender sensitive Each should be aware of each others skills and capabilities. They are not confined to the mindset of this is what husbands should do, or this should what the wives should do They should recognize and share the duties and responsibilities according to interest, ability, competence and time.
BASIC ASSUMPTIONS
This is not the war of the sexes
GENDER
Refers to the social differences between men and women that are learned, changeable over time and have wide variations within and between cultures. It is the differentiated social roles, behaviors, capacities and intellectual, emotional, and social characteristics attributed by a given culture to women and men. Assigning status Cultural assignment Culturally constructed Constantly changing
SEX
Refers to biologically determined differences between men and women that are universal. It is used whenever reference is made to women and men as different physical categories. (e.g. statistical data are disaggregated by sex)
Biologically Socially determined determined Physical Culturally defined characteristics Constant across time Changes across time and culture Constant across cultures Learned behavior
PROCESSES OF SOCIALIZATION
Manipulation the way babies or children are handled. Canalization people direct childrens attention to gender appropriate objects Verbal Appellation words that are used to tell children what they should be Activity Exposures - These ensure that children are familiarized with genderappropriate tasks.
There is clearly an inequality of distribution of duties and responsibilities between the husband and wife.
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PARENTAL RESPONSIBILITIES
Affection, companionship and understanding Moral guidance, self-discipline and religious instructions Supervision, activities and recreation Inculcate positive values Stimulate interest in civic affairs Set a good example Provide adequate support
RESPONSIBILITIES OF CHILDREN
Lead an upright and virtuous life Love, respect, and obey parents and cooperate with them in the strengthening of the family Extend to their brothers and sisters their love, thoughtfulness, and helpfulness, and endeavor with them to keep the family harmonious and united Exert their utmost to develop their potentialities for service, particularly by undergoing a formal education suited to their abilities to become an asset to society.
Respect not only their elders but also the customs and traditions of our people, the memory of our heroes, the duly constituted authorities, the laws of our country and the principles and institutions of democracy.
ENHANCING RELATIONSHIPS
Understanding and accepting each others differences i.e. men are from Mars, women are from Venus (Brain Hemispheric Lateralization) Open communication and loving confrontation Trust, respect, and love Mutual affirmation giving positive remarks Sharing of roles or mutual cooperation Putting God at the center of relationship Focusing on the positives to help boost each others self-esteem Satisfying sexual relations Putting your family above everything else after God
Acceptance
Respect Admiration Approval
Understanding
Appreciation Devotion Validation
Encouragement
Reassurance
LEARNING INSIGHTS
Parents need to know their children very well and children likewise need to know their parents.
Only through immersing and spending time together talking, going out, playing, working and solving problems and concerns can intimacy be enhanced between parents and children.
RESPONSIBILITIES OF CHILDREN
Strive to lead an upright and virtuous life
Love, respect and obey their parents and cooperate with them in strengthening of the family Extend to siblings love, thoughtfulness and helpfulness, and endeavor with them to keep the family harmonious and united. Exert utmost to develop potentials for service by undergoing a formal education suited to their abilities.
RESPONSIBILITIES OF CHILDREN
Participate actively in civic affairs and in the promotion of the general welfare Help in the observance of individual human rights, the strengthening of freedom, fostering of cooperation among nations , and the furtherance of world peace.
FAMILY SPIRITUALITY
The parents are the spiritual leader in the family Worship and pray together Bless your children Use biblical verses in teaching your children Husband love your wife, wife submit to your husband, and children obey your parents FOR THIS IS RIGHT