A Rational Approach to Happiness embraces a

scientific and objective way of thinking whereby you are able to influence your emotional and behavioural actions by reflecting upon them and evaluating the extent to which they may help you attain your short term and long term goals.

1.DONT BLAME OTHERS FOR MAKING YOU UNHAPPY. Take responsibility for making yourself happy. Dont let anyone affect you personally. Try to solve your own problems by yourself without depending on anyone so there will be less chances of disappointment.

This is not a call for rampant selfishness. Rather it is a recognition that you have a right to be happy and that sometimes you will have to do things like making time for yourself (and. therefore, less time for others) even though others will upset themselves and get angry and tell you that you shouldnt be that way.

Sometimes you can be unhappy because either you are making excessive sacrifices to achieve what you want in the long-term or are giving too much of yourself away to others in the short-term. While hedonism and pleasure are not the same as happiness, it has been my experience that you can become happier by doing small and pleasurable things for yourself now.

The most unhappy people I know calculate everything they put into a relationship in terms of what they are getting out of it. The less their partner puts in. the less they put in. Also, the happiest people I know are involved in doing some kind of volunteer work for others. While its hard to give unconditionally, especially when you are feeling somewhat empty inside, I suggest giving it a try.

Relationships are difficult, no matter how good they are. If you want to stay in a long- term relationship you have to adopt a view that allows you to accepteven though you do not likethe frustrations of living with another person. And if you want to get out of a relationship because you consider that you will not be happy in it in the long run, you also have to be prepared to tolerate the extreme tension and anxiety of breaking up. At work, it is most important that you have an attitude that helps you to do those onerous and frustrating tasks that will help you get what you want in the long-term.

Those people I know who are unhappy and angry with others at home and work, fail to accept the fact that other people will act badly and inconsiderately some of the time and will make mistakes. Rather than accepting this fact and trying to do something constructive about it, they en- rage themselves by irrationally believing that people shouldnt behave that way. Giving others the right to be wrong saves you a pain in the gut.

This is at the very heart of un- happiness. Unhappy people put themselves down when they get rejected by significant people in their lives or are not successful at work. Replace your tendency to put yourself down with a view of yourself that includes both the positives and the negatives, and recognize that it is not sensible to use any one incident or even a list of incidents in one or more areas of your life as a measure of your total self-worth.

Dont stays at home rather than take risk Rejection and failure will happens, dont get upset due to that or stop yourself from that. You will be much happier if you are more willing to take risks.

Happy people realize that sometimes they have to go against convention in order to accomplish their goals and find the right person to love.

In order to get ahead in life, happy people are prepared to gamble a bit with their security and are willing at times to put themselves in challenging circumstances where they do not have control over what might happen.

 The purpose is to use relaxation to enhance cognitive

restructuring. Deep relaxation and hypnosis are excellent tools in facilitating cognitive restructuring. Firstly, help clients achieve a deep state of relaxation or light trance by means of one of the standard induction technique. After that help them enter a deep state of relaxation.

When clients are deeply relaxed, then model rational

disputations relevant to key problem situation in their lives. This might include a real event, such as an upcoming job interview, or more global issue, such as clients attitudes towards themselves and the world. This procedure also includes the use of posthypnotic suggestions. In other words, try to assume clients role, as if he or she were talking to themselves.

REI was invented in 1971 by MAXIE MAULTSBY, M.D. and used effectively by him in his clinical work and for his trainees. In Maultsbys version, you imagine an unfortunate Activating Event (A) happening in your life and let yourself spontaneously feel very anxious or depressed as point C. a harmful Consequence of A. Then you look at your rational Beliefs (rbs) about A

For eg- I dont like my failing this task, but I can stand it, it doesnt make me a complete failure) and you strongly say them to yourself, replacing your irrational Beliefs(iBs) that you used to create your anxiety and depression (C). In doing this, you change your inappropriate feelings (C1) to much more appropriate feelings (C2) of disappointment, regret of frustration.