Dr. N.

Samba Siva
 TYPES OF HUSBAND – WIFE RELATIONSHIPS

PATTERN ONE : The thrusting husband and the caring wife: no cause for stress

PATTERN TWO : Both husband and wife are thrusting. A lot of stress can be seen.

PATTERN THREE : Two involved people: not only are they enjoying their own careers but are
also understanding each other

PATTERN FOUR : Involved husband and a caring wife: the husband may have guilt feelings
leading to problems

STAGES IN A MARRAIGE
The three stages in a typical marriage are :-
1. Mad for each other
2. Made for each other
3. Mad at each other
 Role of Relationship

Raj : “ you can never do things right. Try working

on this project. If you are lucky you may not redo
it.”

Raj : “ This is an interesting project. Do you think

you would be able to do it. I know last time
something went wrong with the project, but every
one makes mistakes. Suppose we sat down and
discussed it threadbare I’m sure you would be able
to do wonders.”
 Instead of trying to force
employees into a homogenous
corporate mould of the
company’s strategy, structure
and systems, an alternative
philosophy may be based on
purpose, process and people.
Such an approach focuses on
developing and leveraging every
employee’s unique talents,
abilities and skills.
 The Characteristics of Relationship

 Interpersonal relationships begin with awareness

 Interpersonal relationships develop through coordinated

interaction

 As relationships unfold, we begin to analyze and evaluate them

 Our relationships are influenced by outside forces

 Our relationships can control us as much as we control them

 Relationships are constructed and maintained through

communication
 Think
Use your imagination

3 and 3 can make 33

3 and 3 can make 0
3 and 3 can make 27
3 and 3 can make 1
3 and 3 can make 6
 Relationship Stages
CONTACT
•Perceptual Exit
•Interactional

INVOLVEMENT
•Testing Exit

•Intensifying

INTIMACY
•Interpersonal commitment Exit
•Social Bonding

REPAIR DETERIORATION DISSOLUTION

•Intrapersonal repair •Intrapersonal dissatisfaction •Interpersonal Exit
•Interpersonal repair separation
•Interpersonal dissactisfaction
•Social/public
separation
 Win/Lose Conversation Model

Me

Lose Win
Lose
Both lose I win – you lose
You

Win
You win – I lose Both win
 Parallel Win/Lose Conversations

Polarization Effect Fixation Effect

Position X
Position X

Conversational
Conversational Distance
Distance

Position Y Position Y
Time Time
 Sequential Win/Win Conversation

Persuasion Effect Co-operation Effect

Position X Position X

Conversational Conversational
Distance Distance

Position Y Position Y
Time Time
 Conversation Direction Chart

Rejection
Disagreement
Consideration
Agreement
Commitment
1 2 3 4 5
 Complementary Transactions

P P P P
Stimulus S
A A A A
Response
C R
C C C

Agent Respondent Agent Respondent

Crossed Ulterior
P P P P
R R
A A A A
S S
C C C C

Agent Respondent Agent Respondent

Johari window : A model of inter-personal process

Known to self Unknown to self

I II Known to
Public Blindspot others

III IV Unknown
Private Unknown to others
 Life positions

You are O.K

I am O.K I am not O.K.

I I
You are O.K. You are O.K. am
am
O.K not
O.K
I am O.K. I am not O.K
You are not O.K. You are not O.K

You are not O.K

 The sources of self-concept

Other’s Images
How do significant others see me ?

Your Interpretation and

Social Comparisons Evaluations
Self concept
How do I compare to my How do I evaluate my own
peers ? feelings and behaviors ?

Cultural Teachings
How do I fulfill the teachings of my
culture ?
What is personality :
Personality is the brand image of an
individual. It is made up of three Broad
aspects :
Character
Behavioural Traits
Attitude

Character Traits :
Integrity
Discipline
Dedication
Behaviour traits :
Interpersonal Skills
Communication Skills
Leadership qualities
Stress Management
Time Management

Attitude :
Positive Attitude
Win-Win Situation
Keeping the end in mind
Synergistic Approach
Developing an Assertive Personality
Developing an assertive personality calls for
paying attention to eight major components. These are
progressive and hierarchical in order

Building self – esteem

Knowing how to listen
Taking risks
Knowing how to say NO
Knowing how to give a constructive feedback
Handling Criticism
Knowing how to express and receive a positive
feedback
 Handling Feedback

Stage I : our S Surprise , Shock

normal Feeling Angry, Annoyed, Irritated and
reaction to A Imaptient
criticism Defensiveness – giving reasons,
D explanations, excuses

Stage II : F Force yourself to hear out the other

person
What we Ask probing questions
need to do A
Find out what you must do differently
D