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to preserve knowledge, and from his mouth men should seek instruction - because he is the messenger of God.
- Malachi 2:7
Malcolm Gladwell
Respect.
Restraint.
Responsibility.
APPEARANCE
1.Grooming 2.Wardrobe 3.Color Analysis
BEHAVIOR
1.Body Image 2.Etiquette 3.Leadership 4.Protocol 5.Self Esteem
COMMUNICATIONS
1. Coaching / Training 2. Media 3. Negotiation
Ethical & Considerate Conduct Smooth & Harmonious Relationships Positive Image and Brand
Science prove that the more you smile, the more positive reactions others will give you. The most remarkable thing about a smile. When you give it to someone it causes them to reciprocate by returning the smile.
Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind. This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is like it. Love your neighbor as yourself.
-Matthew 28:37
In order to gain respect of others we should earn it we should be respectable in order to be a role model one should set a positive example in order to lead others, we must lead ourselves.
-Dennis Waitley, Empires of the Mind
BEHAVIOR
One of Three Basic Attitudes is subconsciously transmitted: 1. DOMINANCE - He is trying to dominate me, I d better be conscious. 2. SUBMISSION - I can dominate this person. He ll do what I want. 3. EQUALITY - I feel comfortable with this person.
BEHAVIOR
Research on Civility
80% believe that lack of respect is a serious problem (Remington and Darden 2002) 27% discouraged others from taking jobs done.
The Magic of
UNCIVIL MODEL
Shaming
Hostility
Team Sabotage
SHAMING
Humiliation Sarcasm Mistake Pointing
HOSTILITY
Passive Aggression Territorial Behavior Distrust of other s opinion Difficulty of Feedback Clueless of own toxicity
TEAM SABOTAGE
Teamwork meddling Authority to punish
COMMUNICATIONS
- Relationships , and communications are at the core of civility. And it is through training, coaching, education and motivation that we learn how to apply the tools of civility in everyday life. - Training on organizing your thoughts and how to use transition statements in
Ethics, according to Webster, is the "science that treats the principles of human morality and duty." Being ethical is "following the standards of a profession." Thus ministerial ethics demand that God's servants follow standards of morality and duty as taught in the Scriptures. -Minister Virgil Brown
1. When visiting another church, take a seat with the other congregation. 2. Never walk upon a pastor's pulpit without being invited. 3. Never walk into another church with your robe cross your arm if you are not schedule to speak.
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If you are asked to read the scripture or to pray, do just that and take your seat. No pretalks or comments, just what is asked. 5. Never speak dishonorably about a fellow minister, especially publicly or to another sheep.
6. Always assume that if a sheep speaks badly about a pastor or former pastor, they will eventually do so about you. So never agree with their criticism of another man of God.
ETHICS FOR GUEST SPEAKERS RULE OF THUMB: NO SURPRISES and SUBMISSION TO LOCAL SPIRITUAL AUTHORITY
1.Don t put out a mailing list sign up sheet without the host pastor's permission.
2.Don't assume it's all right to put out a book table. Ask permission of the host pastor. If you want to advertise your books from the pulpit before or after speaking, ask the host pastor if that's all right with him.
3. Never share one-on-one with a member of the church you are visiting the financial needs of your own ministry.
4.Don't share with the church congregation while you are speaking, a project of your own ministry for which you need financial support, without first clearing it with the host pastor in advance before speaking.
5. Never demand a certain guaranteed amount of love offering. Do it by faith, or don't do it at all.
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6. Never, never, never push, or rock, or shove a person backward to make them fall out "under the Spirit." Hype and pretense are fleshly. Gently lay hands on God's people.
7. Never spot the rich ones in a congregation and then flatter them as a pretense for a good offering, or go behind the pastor's back to recruit them as a financial supporter.
9. Always let the host pastor know up front that you are his servant and his guest. That you are submitted to his spiritual authority over that flock; that you are open to his critique.
10. Never challenge a teaching, or emphasis, or specialized doctrine that you know the host pastor is trying to train his people in. Don't create confusion. If there is a certain teaching of the host pastor that you disagree with or don't understand, you can exchange differing views in private.
do, always project an attitude that promotes the people's respect, submission, obedience, and cooperation toward their senior pastor and his staff. Always confirm God's leaders to God's people. (Heb 13:17)
12.Always be prompt, never be late to your meeting. Preferably, 30 minutes early. 13.Never purposely steal another pastor s sheep.
Dont have anything to do with foolish and stupid arguments, because you know they produce quarrels .
- 2 Timothy 2:23
The Lords servant must not quarrel ; instead he must be kind to everyone, able to teach, not resentful.
- 2 Timothy 2:24
Those who oppose him he must gently instruct, in the hope that God will grant them repentance leading them to a knowledge of the truth.
- 2 Timothy 2:24
great ideas
Verbal Judo
Tell them what they want to hear.
That their complaint is valid and they have the right to be upset.
Made up of your personal experience for maximized credibility. 1:50 minutes long. Fill with details.
MESSAGE Made up of what you want your listener to do. 3-5 seconds and one sentence long. GAIN Made up of how your listener will benefit from following your advice. 3-5 seconds and one sentence long.
PRESENT Observable facts still build agreement. FUTURE Point of view is expressed here in the form of a request. A soft sell.
REASON An explanation of why you made that stand. EXAMPLE Specific evidence used to defend that view. POSITION A restatement of the stand taken on the issue. Must be said with the same words as the first position.
POSITION
PRAISE