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WE CANT MAKE THEIR DECISIONS FOR THEM, BUT WE CAN GIVE THEM THE RIGHT TOOLS THEY NEED TO MAKE RIGHT DECISIONS.
HOW DO EFFECTIVE TEENS MAKE CHOICES? THEY BASE THEM ON: PRINCIPLES VALUES
What is a Habit?
Habits are patterns of behavior composed of three overlapping components: Knowledge Desire Skill We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, Skills but a habit. (how to) Aristotle Knowledge (what to, why to)
HABIT
PARADIGM
The way you see something, your point of view, frame of reference, or belief.
Two battleships assigned to the training squadron had been at sea on maneuvers in heavy weather for several days. I was serving on the lead battleship and was on watch on the bridge as night fell. Shortly after dark, the lookout on the wing of the bridge reported, "Light, bearing on the starboard bow." "Is it steady or moving astern?" the captain called out. Lookout replied, "Steady, captain," which meant we were on a collision course. The captain then called to the signalman, "Signal that ship: We are on a collision course, advise you change course 20 degrees."
Back came the reply, "Advisable for you to change course 20 degrees." The captain said, "Send, I'm a captain, change course 20 degrees." "I am a seaman second class" came the reply. "You had better change course 20 degrees." By that time, the captain was furious. He spat out, "Send, I'm a battleship. Change course 20 degrees." Back came the reply, "I'm a lighthouse." We changed course.
Steven Covey (in The 7 habits of Highly Effective People) tells that story to teach that principles are like lighthouses. They are natural laws that cannot be broken.
To show regard
Habit 1 Be Proactive
Teenagers are the product of their environment, upbringing, and choices. Are their choices proactive or reactive? They need to choose how they act. They need to take responsibility for their choices and their life.
CIRCLE OF NO CONTROL
Birthplace CIRCLE OF CONTROL Ourselves Attitudes Weather Choices & Responses What other people say and do
Parents
Not Urgent
Quadrant II:
Preparation Prevention Commitment Relationship building
Important
Not Important
Quadrant IV Quadrant III Unimportant phone calls, Trivia email, meetings or reports Busy work Time wasters Interruptions
We want Quadrant II > Quadrant I. Quadrant II comes from Quadrants III and IV.
y Estimate how much time you spend in Quadrant II (and what IS Quad IV?) ... y How do you plan your day? Datebook? Palm Pilot? y How much is your time worth to you, in dollars/hour?
Relationships
From transactional to transformational
Agreements
What needs to be done not how
Processes
Third alternative
Supporting systems
Habit 6 Synergize
Open-mindedness. Teamwork. New ways to do things. Work together to achieve more. Celebrate differences.
A fruit salad is delicious precisely because each fruit maintains its own flavor.
your soul
SOLUTION ORIENTED PROBLEM SOLVING 1. Name the problem, and who owns it. (Be sure it is the REAL problem) 2. Describe it specifically. (Name the parts of the problem.) 3. Brainstorm. (Name all the solutions you can think of, no matter how crazy they may seem.) 4. Think about each solution: *Does it honor the values of your family, yourself, and others whom you respect? *Would it solve the problem? *Would it affect yourself and others for better or worse?
5. Choose a solution, and act on it. 6. Evaluate the outcome: *Is the problem solved? *Did the solution produce the results you expected? *How did the solution fit with your feelings and values? *Did the solution fail to meet your or the other partys needs in any way? *What else happened? *Would another solution work better?
Expected Outcomes
Increased engagement and motivation Greater responsibility for learning Increased peer collaboration skills Greater confidence and self-esteem Increased listening skills Greater content mastery Better peer collaboration More time on task More skill in analyzing and solving problems