Basic Difference

Between Male and

Female
Characteristic MALE FEMALE
A. Physical
1. Body built Robust; Delicate; soft
muscular
2. Hormone Higher Higher level
` level of of estrogen
androgen
Anatomical Reproductive Reproductive
organs organs
mostly mostly
outside of internal;
body; Gonads-
Gonads- Ovaries
Testes
B. Emotional
MALE FEMALE
1. Disposition Predictable; Moody
emotions (associated
are usually with
stable but hormonal
become changes
violent brought by
when menstrual
aroused cycle)
2. Psychological Discouragement, Loneliness; great
weakness needs need for
continuing vote interpersonal
of confidence communicatio
for his work n; needs
husband’s
reassurance of
being loved
3. Significance of Viewed as objects Puts high person
gifts meaning to
gifts
 MALE FEMALE
5. Longing Periodic but Spreading
for each intense out and
other lingering
6. Sense of Found not Centers on
fulfillment only in jobs and
marriage family
but in job,
too
7. Behavior Tends to Tends to nag
after neglect wife to get
marriage emotionally attention;
; takes nagging
marriage as could be a
proof of result of
love for emotionalis
wife and m, mother
finds no instinct and
reason to concern for
verbalize detail
feelings
8. Priorities Achievement How she
looks
9. Work Aggressive; Person-
task oriented;
oriented; more
desire to passive;
achieve/co desires to
nquer be
conquered
C. Social
MALE FEMALE
1.Interest Are interested in Are interested in
things, objects people
D. Sexual

1. Expression of Passionate; easily Romantic, slowly

physical love aroused; sex aroused; sex
drives stronger ad drives not as
demand strong and often
immediate sublimated’ first
gratification; first attraction then
attraction then love before sex in
sex with or that order
without love
E. Spiritual
MALE FEMALE
1. Faith Less religious; he More religious but
takes religion less more on
seriously emotional level
2. Perseverance Has less patience Has more patience;
and though she can endure
physically strong, and persevere
endurance is less longer
F. Mode of Logical; objective Intuitive, subjective;
essential-minded; detailed minded,
Thinking more materialistic more spiritual
than earthly
G. Mode of Goes straight to the Expresses self in a
point; direct, round about
Speaking blunt and brief manner; can be
verbose and
puzzling
H. Societal Head (not so much Hear of home,
to wield authority helpmate Queen
Roles but to serve) King who reigns in
of home – home; provider of
governs/ rules; understanding
provider of and forbearance
materials needs homemaker;
Authority/power; comforter; source
decision-maker; of warmth and
protector; source tenderness
of strength
Communication in
Marriage
Importance of husband-wife communication

It is the only way to really

know the other person

It leads to better

understanding
 Without communication we can
never know the needs of the other
person. (Since men and women are quite
different, they can make their needs know to each
other through communication)
 It is a concrete expression of love. It
is a very important tool for
building the marital relationship.
 Important attitudes in communication

 Mutual trust
On the part of the speaker, this would
mean faith in the listener’s capacity to
respond with love to what is said.
On the part of the listener, this would
mean faith in the speaker’s intention and
concern.
Where there is trust, openness will result.
 Openness
 On the part of the speaker, this would
mean honesty and sincerity as well as
the willingness to move on to gut-level
sharing.
 On the part of the listener, this would
mean the willingness to put oneself in
the shoes of the speaker and view
things as he sees it.
 Openness entails mutual acceptance
 Mutual Acceptance

The capacity to accept each

other’s faults, weaknesses
and defects
A sign of Christian LOVE
 Listening
It is important that both parties
develop the art of listening.
It is not enough to listen to the
content of the message; it is
equally important to listen to
the feeling behind what is said.
How to become your husband’s best friend

Share common experiences

together
Attack and conquer tragedies
as a couple, not as individuals
Make important decisions
together
Develop a sense of humor
Understand your own
personality traits and
your husband’s
 How to handle disagreements

I. Deal with the issues

before they build up. If
we talk freely and
regularly, it will be rare to
have a big problem.
 II. Be objective and focus
on the issue
- Avoid calling each other names
- Do not be judgmental
- Do not allow the discussion to lead
you to discussing other issues and
losing focus on the issue at hand
 III. Have the right
motivation. The goal is
unity based on love,
not on determining
who is right and wrong.
IV. When bringing
up a problem, do
not start with an
accusation.
Learn to accept correction
without being defensive.
Do not question your
spouse’s love and
commitment to you.
 Do not handle
issues when you
are angry or
tired.
 But what if a disagreement actually turns into a fight?

Both should agree that whoever

recognizes that the disagreement
has taken a bad turn will
immediately begin to change
things but repenting for his/her
responsibility in it. The other should
respond in kind.
Evaluate the argument
- Discuss the dynamics (what caused
each person to react wrongly? How
could such reactions be avoided in the
future?)
- Make agreements (e.g., not o be silent,
not to walk out, to try and control
emotions, to be eager to repent)