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parent’s choice of
99% of all parents want to parenting style?
be good parents, and avoid 1. The way their parents
doing what they consider raised them.
to be a bad parent.
Regardless of their 2. The family structure,
parenting abilities, they whether it’s a nuclear
love their child. family, step-family,
single-parent family,
extended family, one
or both parents work
outside the home, etc.
3. Ethnic background
4. Individual parenting
skills and knowledge
All parents incorporate both love and limits in their style of
parenting, with the balance of love and limits determining a
particular style. There are 4 parenting styles, and most
parents use some combination of the 4. Each style has
strengths and/or weaknesses, but only the authoritative
parenting style combines both high love and high limits. It is
considered the best style in today’s society.
Authoritarian parents value Low love and high limits.
obedience, structure, and
respect. And they believe in a
family hierarchy, with dad
usually at the top, mom next,
and children last. They use
external control to teach right
from wrong, such as spanking,
and are quick to act on a
discipline problem. Children in The parents make the rules,
these families would not and the children obey them
describe the relationship with without question or
their parents as close, warm, negotiation.
and loving. The underlying If the young child asks “why
assumption in this style is that should I?”, the parent
“parents know best”. responds “because I said so”
(often a legitimate answer).
Low love and high limits.
Giving orders
Many individuals
or couples are
simply not
prepared for the
demands of good
parenting.
Children take time,
money, energy,
effort, and good
parenting skills.
A balance of freedom and High Love and High Limits.
responsibility. Sometimes called Giving choices
the democratic or balanced parenting
style, it relies on the principles of equality
and trust.
Parents and children are equal in terms
of their need for dignity and worth but not
in terms of responsibility and decision
making. Parents model right and wrong
by their words and deeds, and give
reasons for limits; discipline is used to
teach and guide, not punish or control.
Parents present expectations to gain a
child’s cooperation and respect,
including demands of maturity.
Children raised by this style learn to accept responsibility,
make wiser choices, cope with change, and are better
equipped to succeed in a work-force which relies on
cooperative problem-solving.