Professional Documents
Culture Documents
of Intimacy
Her (2013)
Ideal to Paradox
The ideal was sought in relationships
-Coquette vs Precieuses
Unity desired by the lovers, the main problem being the difference of the lovers
(and their freedom)
p.44
Gallantry
In the things it implies and the linguistic forms it takes, gallantry
retains a novelistic, idealistic semantics-suited for any purpose, thus
providing a socially binding style for deceptive and seductive
behaviour as well as for truly loving courtship.
p.77
Plaisir
The art de plaire becomes a technique of experimentation and
observation, a strategy for reconnoitring the dangerous terrain of
mundane relationships.
p.88
En Route to Individualization
French Classicism
p.107
Being in love thus means to internalize another persons
subjectively systematized view of the world p. 25
Understanding
Understanding is a complicated process. It is thought
to be improbable.
Love overcomes all boundaries, including
misunderstanding.
Romanticism
The Romantics emphasized the self, and its relation to
the world.
The individual was isolated from other systems.
One sees the world according to his own terms.
Impact on consciousness
Different world-views meant different definitions of
love.
Identity in terms of the ego and not of other systems.
Luhmanns terms: Different systems meant different
self-referentialities, which meant different realities.
Misunderstanding
Codification of Intimacy
Rules for what constitutes meaningful communication
Legitimizes paradoxes, misunderstandings, and
subjectivity of love.
Hopes to overcome misunderstanding
Overcoming and Self-referentiality
Only thus did one arrive at Romanticism, whose love semantics referred to a
relationship between the individual subject and the world p. 133
Love as a system of interpenetration