Professional Documents
Culture Documents
Quality of relationships
Managingconflict
What makes relationships work
= infatuation
Next comes intimacy
= romantic love
Commitment gradually established
= consummate love
Sternbergs Theory of Love
Hard to maintain
passion diminishes
=companionate love
Finding Someone to Love
(aka Mate Selection)
What do we want in a mate?
Men:
Young and attractive
Women: Ambitious and industrious
Theories of Mate Selection
Evolutionary Theories
adaptive
Parental Investment
Womens investment is large
cant do it often
Looking for men who are providers
quality of interacitons!
Proportionof nice to nasty in everyday
encounters
http://ca.youtube.com/watch?v=Xw9SE315GtA&feature=related
Conflict Management
Stable marriages Unstable Marriages
validating Hostile/engaged
couples couples
Disagree but still respectful argue a lot, but
volatile without fun
couples
Argue a lot; but still have Hostile/ detached
fun
Avoidant couples couples
Agree to disagree; Frequent arguments,
devitalized no emotional
connection
What Makes Relationships Work
Establishing love maps
Nurturing fondness and admiration*
Turning toward each other instead of
away
letting your partner influence you
Solving solvable conflicts
Intimate Relationships
Gay and Lesbian Couples
many similarities
Different views on monogamy
Singlehood
Isolated No
Advantages
Freedom
Cope better with loneliness
=STRESS
Marital satisfaction drops after birth
until kids leave home!
24 hours with a newborn: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=m9QndNXcnCU
Impact of Parenthood
Influenced by many
factors
work-family balance!
DINKs?
Steadier marital
satisfaction
Women have higher
income
but no kids