Habit 4

Think win-win
Name:Kirthna a/p Murali
Student ID:(B1602350)
 WIN-LOSE THE TOTEM POLE
The opposite of win-win strategy, also known as distributive bargaining.
An attitude towards life that says the pie of success is only so big, and if
you get a big piece there is less for me, so Im going to take the slice first
as I want the bigger piece.
My experience is when I was in secondary school. There was this one girl
who was literally so smart in every subjects. She always scores the highest
marks no matter what it is, quizzes, tests, so on. And she never share her
lab materials with others and always tend to do it all by herself not giving
anyone else the chance of doing something. But she has this one attitude,
she never like to share her notes or answers with anyone. The reason,
because this helps herself in being the top scorer in class. She has this
attitude of win-lose where she always wants to win and shes not willing to
help anyone into success and shes always insisting on getting her ways
without thinking about other peoples feelings
 LOSE-WIN THE DOORMAT
Also known as the peacemaker. Setting low self expectations and
compromising to your own standards again and again.
My experience in this situation
 LOSE-LOSE THE DOWNWARDS
SPIRAL
Lose-Lose says If Im going down, then youre going down with me,
sucker! War is a great example of Lose-Lose. This usually occurs when
someone becomes obsessed with another person in a negative way.
My experience in this situation
 WIN-WIN THE ALL-YOU-CAN-EAT
BUFFET
Is a believe that everyone can win. Its both nice and tough. One cares about
other people and they want that someone to succeed, but cares about
themselves and want to succeed as well. Win-win is abundant.
My experience in this situation is during my university time. I had so much of
homework and assignments with due dates around the corner and I dont
have much time to complete them. So I called my boyfriend and I asked him
to help me with my assignments and I told him that I would help him with his
homework and assignments if he had any. I made a deal with him and he
said that he could help me with my assignments and homework. This is a
Win-Win situation where it is a win for me as my boyfriend is helping me with
my assignments and homework and it is also a win for him as the next time
he knows that he wont be having so much to do as I promised to help him.
We both agreed on this situation as it is a win for both party.
 AVOID THE TUMOR TWINS
Competing
Competing can be extremely healthy, as it drives us to improve, to reach
and to stretch. Without competition, we wont be able to know how far we
can push ourselves.
Too much of competition can also be very bad for someone. Competition
tends to become dark when someone ties their self-worth into winning or
when you use it as a way to place yourself above another.
As for me, I like to compete against myself. I want to do better than
something I have completed before. I like competing in my studies. I
prefer competition as over time, it becomes interesting and it tends to
make me better than what I was before.
 Comparing
Comparing is competitions twin.
I dont prefer to compare myself with someone else as not everyone is made to be
the same. Everybody has their own feelings, their own goals, their own
characteristics, their own behaviour and their own ability in completing certain
stuffs. Were all on different development timetables. For example, since we all bake
differently, we shouldnt keep opening the oven door to see how well our cake is
rising compared to our neighbours, or thinking that our own cake wont rise at all.
For my experience, our elders usually compare ourself to someone elses daughter
or son that they are doing well and we are not improving at all. They compare us in
every possible ways. For example, our behaviours, our attitude, our success and so
on. Im sure it happens to many of you whos reading this.
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