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They are
typically
social late
bloomers
They
are
typically
social
late bloomers
They have
lessless
socialsocial
experience
than their peers
They
have
experience
than thei
Many have negative early experiences (bullying) that
peers
they carry
with them
emotionally
Many
have
negative
early experiences
Many are distrustful
of neurotypicals
(with good
reason)
(bullying)
that they
carry with
them
They dont initiate social contact (fearing rejection)
emotionally
Why ASD Adults Have Difficulty with Relationships and Dating
They dont
to maintain
relationships
Many
arefollow-up
distrustful
of neurotypicals
(with
They reason)
spend to much time with special interests and
good
neglectdont
the relationship
They
initiate social contact (fearing
Relationships are complicated and confusing
rejection)
They dont follow-up to maintain
relationships
Healthy
Characteristics
of
Characteristics
of Healthy Relationships
Relationships
Internet
Dating
Suggestions
Internet
Dating
Suggestions
Talk about your likes and dislikes in your personal
Talkinformation
about your
likes and
dislikes
in
(dont characterize
dislikes
as complaints)
Describe
your
personal
information
(dont
your physical
features such as
eye and hair color
Look for datingdislikes
sites with easy
and flat fee
characterize
asaccess
complaints)
structures
Describe
your physical features such as
Use a current photo that looks like you
eye
and hair color
When you contact someone dont lead in with a request
Look
for afor
date dating sites with easy access
Keep
and
flatyour
fee
structures
messages
short
Keep
track of yourphoto
contacts and
messages
Use
a current
that
looks like you
Dont discuss personal subjects or opinions in e-mails
When
you contact someone dont lead
Internet Dating
Internet Dating Suggestions (Cont.)
Suggestions (Cont.)
Dating Suggestions
Dating Suggestions
about
food
preferences
Keep the
first date
under four hours (even if
youre having
a gooddate
time) under four
Keep
the first
Ask questions about the other person to get to
hours (even if youre having a good
know them
time)
Ask questions about the other
person to get to know them
Dating
Suggestions
(Cont.)
Dating Suggestions (Cont.)
Listen to the other person and
Listen to the other person and show you are
show inyou
aresay
interested
interested
what they
(dont talk aboutin what
yourself
much)
theytoo
say
(dont talk about
Dont spend a lot of money (allow the other
yourself too much)
person
to pay
if he/she
Dont
spend
a offers)
lot of money (allow
Dont talk about personal topics on the first
the other person to pay if he/she
date
offers)
Relax and be yourself
Dont talk about personal topics on
the first date
Relax and be yourself
The
Biology
of
Attraction
*
The Biology of Attraction
Men
are
more
in
Men are
more
visuallyvisually
oriented in oriented
their initial attraction,
the sight
of an attractive
woman activates
the brain
s
their
initial
attraction,
the sight
of an
pleasure centers
attractive
woman activates the brain
Smell is an important element of initial attraction for
s
pleasure centers
women, the scent of a man can cause romantic feelings
Smell
is an important element of
You must have a face-to face encounter with someone
initial
attraction for women, the scent
to know if you are physically attracted to them (not just a
ofphoto)
a man can cause romantic feelings
must
havecauses
a face-to
You
Gazing
at someone
our brainface
to feel linked to
encounter
with
someone
to know
the other person
and emotionally
attuned
(usuallyif
before
kissing)
you
are physically attracted to them
Social
Intelligence,
Daniel Goleman (2007)
(not
just
a photo)
Gazing atfrom
someone
causes our brain
*Information
Social Intelligence,