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Introduction
We have all heard of the
others the way they like to be treated. The Golden Rule is not a panacea. Think
about it: "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you." The Golden Rule implies
the basic assumption that other people would like to be treated the way that you would
like to be treated.
However, the alternative to the Golden Rule is the Platinum Rule Treat
others the way they want to be treated." Ah hah! What a difference, right? The
Platinum Rule accommodates the feelings of others. The focus of relationships shifts
from "this is what I want, so I'll give everyone the same thing" to "let me first understand
what they want and then I'll give it to them."
The Platinum
RELATER
SOCIALIZER
Guarded
DIRECTOR
SOCIALIZER
STYLE
STYLE
PRIORITY
- Goal
- People
SEEKS
- Productivity
- Participation
- Control
- Applause
- Administration
- Persuading
- Listening
- Planning
- Leadership
- Motivating
- Teamwork
- Orchestration
- Impatient
- Inattentive to detail
- Oversensitive
- Perfectionists
- Insensitive to others
- Critical
- Poor Listener
- Low follow-through
- Unresponsive
- Loss of Social
of
recognition
- Dictatorial
- Sarcastic
- Submissive
- Withdrawn
BECOME
- Critical
- Superficial
- Indecisive
- Headstrong
GAINS TRUST
- Control
- Playfulness
- Friendship
- Preparation
THROUGH
- Leadership
- Others approval
- Cooperation
- Thoroughness
WORKPLACE
- Efficient
- Interacting
- Friendly
- Formal
- Busy
- Busy
- Functional
- Functional
- Structured
- Personal
- Personal
- Structured
STRENGTHS
GROWTH AREAS
FEARS
RELATER STYLE
THINKER STYLE
- Relationship
- Task
- Acceptance
- Accuracy
- Precision
SOCIALIZER
CONTROLS
too much
TALKS
Too much
THINKER
RELATER
QUESTION
too much
AGREE
Too much
SOCIALIZER TRAITS
SO YOU
appearances
Seek enthusiastic people and
situations
Think emotionally
expectations
Need involvement and people
contact
Like changes and innovations
Do it together
RELATER TRAITS
SO YOU
Think emotionally
Need to know step-by-step sequence Provide outline and one-two-three instructions as you
personally walk them through
Avoid risks and changes
Dislike conflict
Accommodate others
Enjoy teamwork
DIRECTOR TRAITS
SO YOU
Think logically
Display reasoning
Like change
Vary routine
Need to be in charge
THINKER TRAITS
SO YOU
Think logically
Seek data
Avoid conflict
Need to be right
Like to contemplate
More
realistically
gauge risks.
Tell others the
reasons for
decisions.
Cultivate more
attention/respo
nsiveness to
emotions.
SOCIALIZER :-
Monitor socializing to
keep it in balance with
other aspects of life.
Write things down and
work from a list, so
theyll know what to do
when.
Become more organized
and orderly
in the way they do
things.
THINKER:-
RELATER:-
Feel sincerely
appreciated.
Speak up and
voice their
thoughts and
feelings.
Avoid doing
things the
same way.
In Social Settings:
DIRECTOR
-Give them your time and
undivided attention.
-Appreciate and acknowledge
them when possible.
-Listen to their suggestions.
RELATER
-Avoid arguments and conflict.
-Show them step-by-step
procedures.
-Respond sensitively and
sensibly.
SOCIALIZER
-Focus on a positive, upbeat,
warm.
-Listen to their personal
feelings and experiences.
-Give them your attention,
time and presence.
THINKER
-Respond rather formally and
politely.
-Use a logical approach.
-Privately acknowledge them
about their thinking.
SOCIALIZER
HOW TO
ADAPT TOTHE
STYLES
Sales and Service
Strategies
THINKER
In a Nutshell
The Platinum Rule provides powerful life-skills that
will serve you well in all your relationships:
business, friends, family, spouse, and children.
Improved relationships create infinite possibilities.
Sometimes I think of John Lennon's song, "Imagine
there's no conflict, it's easy if you try."
YOUR LIFE IS
YOUR MESSAGE
TO THE PEOPLE
AROUND YOU.
MAKE SURE ITS
INSPIRING,
because
LIFE IS PEOPLE