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May Portugal
DCBC College Youth Camp
13 Jan. 2015
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The worlds
perspective
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Do not be conformed
to the standards of
this world, but be
transformed by the
renewing of your
minds.
How does this apply when
it comes to romantic
relationships (RR)?
Romans 12:1-2
Therefore, I urge you, brothers and sisters, in view of Gods
mercy, to offer your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing
to Godthis is your true and proper worship. Do not conform to
the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of
your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what Gods
will ishis good, pleasing and perfect will.
three kinds of
relationship
with the opposite
sex...
1. friendship
2. brother-sister
relationship in Christ
(1 Jn. 3:1, Gal,5:13, Heb. 10:24)
3. marriage
1:2)
We can say
that...
God desires for you to experience friendships
with others before marriage.
What is dating
?
a way of spending time together
for two people of the opposite sex
who are attracted to each other
can be defined in two ways
relationship dating - getting to know each
other without romantic intimacy
romantic dating - getting to know each
other w/ romantic intimacy
As you date...
When is it right
to show
intimacy?
GENESIS 2: 23-25
This sexual union is an intimate experience that is both emotional and physical.
In marriage, romantic/emotional and physical intimacy has several purposes:
(1) to express love and pleasure between a husband and wife (Prov.5:18-19, Song of Songs),
(2) to become emotionally and physically united as husband and wife (Gen. 2:24, One flesh"), and
(3) to have children (Gen. 1:28). In the N.T. a Christian marriage was also used as a picture of intimacy between Christ
and His Church. (Eph.5:23-33) This was and has always been God's plan for romantic/emotional and sexual
intimacy.
Physical intimacy -
corrupted by man.
Jesus repeated and re-emphasized God's original plan and instructions (Matt. 19:3-12, Matt. 5;27-28)
The N.T. condemns sexual intimacy outside of marriage = sexual immorality (Heb. 13:4, 1 Cor. 6:1318, Gal. 5:19, and 1 Thess. 4: 3)
Rom.13:14 says not to provide yourself an opportunity for the flesh to lust. 1 Cor.6:18 says we are to
flee these lusts. Run from them. Stay away from them. 1 Tim. 5: 2 says that God desires that
Christian men treat Christian women as sisters in absolute purity.
Sexual intimacy/contact is more than just the act of sexual intercourse. It is by its very nature any
physical contact, which stimulates a sexual response in either participant (even if nakedness is not
uncovered). Sexual intimacy is not just an act, it is a whole process of developing physical intimacy.
Engaging in activity of this nature with someone outside of marriage is sexual immorality.
Full romantic intimacy outside of marriage should be avoided.
Romantic intimacy is a warm closeness a man and woman share together on an emotional level as they love each other
as husband and wife. This is clearly shown (as mentioned earlier) in Song of Songs (see 4:9-10). It is also the path
to physical and sexual intimacy. It is for marriage. Romantic feelings should be based on a solid foundation of love
and concern for each other. It should never drive the relationship, but complement it. A man and woman should be
careful to keep from developing this romantic intimacy too early or too quickly before they married. It is like a rose
bud that is opened in marriage and must be opened only a little before they are married, lest it develop their
intimacy before the proper time.
Promises I can
hang on to...
Proverbs 3:5-6
5
Trust in the Lord with all your heart
and lean not on your own understanding;
6
in all your ways submit to him,
and he will make your paths straight.
John 14:23
Jesus replied, Anyone who loves me will obey my
teaching. My Father will love them, and we will come
to them and make our home with them.
Romans 8:28
And we know that in all things God works for the good of
those who love him, who have been called according
to his purpose.
Psalm 37:4
Delight yourself in the Lord, and he will give you the
desires of your heart.
Application and
Reflection Time
(See handout for questions.)
References
New International Version (NIV) Bible
Girao, W.(1991).Not Just
Sundays:Being a Christian in the
Everyday World. Manila: OMF
Literature, Inc.
Dobson, J. Love for a Lifetime.
Dobson, J. Romantic Love.
Harris,J. Not Even a Hint.
References
https://scenariosusa.org/shop/hiv-aids
/just-like-you-imagined/
Relationships and dating in the Bible.
http://www.titusinstitute.com/datingb
ible/relationshipsdatingbible.php
Sex, dating, marriage, and the Bible:
Gods plan for romantic and physical
intimacy.
http://www.titusinstitute.com/datingb
ible/datingmarriage.php
https://www.youtube.com/watch?
v=tobD9jp6Khs