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Malay
Wedding
Merisik
Having decided upon one particular bride, Merisik
(investigation process) takes place. Representatives
from the bride grooms family pay a friendly visit to
the brides family.
Gift items
(a) A gold or diamond ring.
(b) A betel-leaf container (tepak sirih)
complete with betel leaves (sirih) and
other ingredients. This is known as sirih
meminang.
(c) A complete set of clothes.
The total number of gift-trays and the
number of items returned as gifts by the
potential bride must be in odd numbers,
usually 7 or more.
Meminang (engagement)
Here, both sides will talk and
determine the date of marriage
contract (akad nikah).
Usually the adat bertunang
(engagement custom) is normally
held at the bride's home.
In addition, adat of menghantar
tanda (token) also take place in
adat bertunang.
ACTUAL MARRIAGE
CEREMONY
AKAD NIKAH AND BERINAI
Adat Berinai
Berarak (Procession)
The ceremonial activities during the actual
day begin with the bridegroom walking
slowly in procession towards the brides
house for a distance of about a hundred to
two hundred metres.
The party, led by womenfolk and
accompanied by bearers of the decorative
flowers called bunga manggar.
The kompang troupe walks in procession
and performs various songs until the
bridegroom enter the brides house.
bersanding.
(enthronement)
The actual marriage day is
thebersanding. This literally
means the "sitting together of
the bride and bridegroom on the
bridal couch". Known as
thePelamin, this couch is the
centre piece of the whole
ceremony, and two pelamins are
required - one in the bride's
house and the other in the
Despite overall
similarities in the
respective ceremonies
as done in various
parts of the country,
there are certain
regional differences.