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Relationships and the Bible

Dr. Jobe Martin


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BIBLICAL CHRISTIANITY
One Book to obey.
One God to serve.
One Life to live.
That ye might walk worthy of the Lord
unto all pleasing, being fruitful in every
good work, and increasing in the
knowledge of God.
Colossians 1:10
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MANY PROBLEMS IN THE CHRISTIAN LIFE


RESULT FROM LACK OF:
1. Discipline
2. Commitment
3. Obedience
These surface as:
Pride and Selfishness (Lust)
The Root Cause is:
Lack of Faith and Unbelief
(Rebellion against our Lord)
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WHAT MUST WE DO?


Understand our times and know what
we must do about it!
1 Chronicles 12:32
Surrender our will to the will of God.
Do our work heartily as unto the Lord.
Seek the approval of God, not men.
Live and speak in the power of the H. S.
Live within the framework of Scripture.
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Respect for life
Wealth
Truth Fruit of the Spirit
Happiness
Health
Loyalty

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he. Proverbs 23:7

WHAT IS A FOOLISH YOUTH?


[He] may be a teenager who has
attended church for years. He is there
because his parents make him come.
He will daydream during most of the
lesson, and the part that he does hear,
he has already made up his mind to
ignore. He is foolish.
Jerry L. Ross, The Teenage Years of Jesus Christ,
(ISBN 0-87398-898-1) p. 8
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John 12:48
48 He that rejecteth me, and
receiveth not my words,
hath one that judgeth him:
the word that I have spoken,
the same shall judge him in
the last day.
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THE THREE BIG DECISIONS

Who is my Master?
What is my mission?
Who is my mate?
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THE BIG FLIP-FLOP:


MATE-MISSION-MASTER
Most Christian youth are seeking a
mate and attempting to establish their
mission (work) in life and, then, they
begin to get things in order with their
Master, the Lord Jesus Christ, often
after costly mistakes!
Mistakes happen when Gods intended
order is flip-flopped!
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WHO AM I AS A CHRISTIAN?
Member of the family and household of
God:
Galatians 6:10; Ephesians 2:19
Complete in Christ:
Colossians 2:10
Possessor of every spiritual blessing:
Ephesians 1:3

Born of the Spirit:


Baptized with the Spirit:

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John 3:6
1 Cor. 12:13

Indwelt by the Holy Spirit: Jn. 7:39; Rom.


5:5, 8:9; 1 Cor. 3:16, 6:19; Gal. 4:6; 1 Jn. 3:24

Sealed by the Spirit: Eph. 4:30; 2 Cor. 1:22


Given spiritual gifts: 1 Cor. 12-14; Rom. 12
We are IN CHRIST:
Jn. 14:20; Col. 1:27
A member in Christs body: 1 Cor. 12:13
A branch in the Vine:
John 15:5

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Recipient of eternal life: John 3:15 and 16,


John 10:28, 1 John 5:11-13

Seated in heavenly places:


Eph. 2:6
Minister of the N.T.:
2 Cor. 3:6(KJV)
Ambassador of Christ:
2 Cor. 5:20
A living letter:
2 Cor. 3:3
A minister (servant) of God:
2Cor. 6:4
Gods inheritance:
Eph. 1:18
Redeemed: Rom. 3:24; Col. 1:14; 1 Pet. 1:18
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Christians are Gods house on earth:


1 Cor. 3:9; 2 Cor. 5:1

An heir of God:
Rom. 8:17; 1 Pet. 1:4
Joint heir of Christ:
Rom. 8:17; Heb. 9:15
Have access to God:
Rom. 5:2; Eph 2:18;
Heb. 4:16, 10:19

A called and protected people: Titus 2:14,


1 Peter 2:9

Delivered from the power of sin: Rom. 6:2;


Phil. 3:3; Col. 2:11
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A living stone:

Eph. 2:21,22; 1 Pet. 2:5

A sheep in His flock: John 10:27-29; Matt. 7:21


A part of Christs bride:
Eph. 5:25-27
A priest in Gods Kingdom:
1 Pet. 2:9
A new creature:
2 Cor. 5:17
A child of light:
Eph. 5:8; 1 Thess.5:4,5
In the Spirit:
Romans 8:9
Positionally glorified:
Romans 8:30
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Delivered from the kingdom of Satan:


Colossians 1:13, 2:15

Foreknown: Acts: 2:23; Rom. 8:29; 1 Pet. 1:2


Elect: Rom. 8:33; Col. 3:12; Tit. 1:1; 1 Pet. 1:2
Predestined:
Rom. 8:29; Eph. 1:5,11
Chosen:
Matt. 22:14; 1 Pet. 2:4
Called:
Matt. 22:14; 1Thess. 5:24
Reconciled by God: 2 Cor. 5:18,19; Col. 1:20
Reconciled to God:
Rom. 5:10; 2 Cor.5:20
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Redeemed how I love to proclaim


it,redeemed by the blood of the lamb!
Rom3:24;Col 1:14

All condemnation removed: Jn5:24;Rom8:1


Crucified with Christ: Rom. 6:6; Gal. 6:20
Dead with Christ: Ro 6:8; Col 3:3; 1 Pt 2:24
Buried with Christ:
Rom. 6:4; Col. 2:12
Raised with Christ:
Rom. 6:4; Col. 3:1
Regenerated: Jn. 13:10; 1 Cor. 6:1; Tit. 3:5
Born Again:
Jn. 3:7; 1 Pet. 1:23
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I am forgiven all my sins!!! Eph. 1:7, 4:32;


Colossians 1:14, 2:13, 3:13

Child of God: Gal 3:26; Jn 1:12; 2Cor 6:18


A New Creation: 2Cor 5:17; Gal 6:15; Eph 2:10
Adopted:
Rom. 8:15,23; Eph. 1:5
Acceptable to God:
Eph. 1:6; 1 Pet. 2:5
Made Righteous Ro 3:22; 2Cor 5:21; Phil 3:9
Perfected forever:
Hebrews 10:14
Justified: Ro 3:24;5:1,9; 8:30; 1Cor 6:11 Tit 3:7
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We have heavenly citizenship:


Luke 10:20; Eph. 2:13,19; Phil. 3:20

Within the much more care of God:


Romans 5:9,10

Object of Gods love:


Eph. 2:4, 5:2
Object of Gods power: Eph. 1:19; Phil. 2:13
Object of His faithfulness: Phil 1:6; Heb 13:5,6
Object of Gods peace:
John 14:27
Object of Gods consolation:
2Thess 2:16

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Object of Gods intercession:


Romans 8:34; Hebrews 7:25

Object of Gods grace:


For salvation:
For keeping:
For instruction:

Ephesians 2:8,9
Rom. 5:2; 1Pet. 1:5
Titus 2:12

These are 64 I.D. distinctives of who


we are as Christians.
By the way, to lose our salvation these
would all have to be stripped away.
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THREE WORDS IN THE MIND OF A


BRIDE:

Aisle, Altar, Hymn


Ill alter him!
No you wont!
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A CRUCIAL DAILY PRAYER:


In the relationships of life let us pray as
Jesus prayed when He faced the cross:

Heavenly Father, not my will,


but Thy will be done.
[Luke 22:42 paraphrase]
Is it Gods will or my will?
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PROVERBS 31:12
In speaking of the relationship of
the wife to her husband, Proverbs
says:

She will do him good and not


evil all the days of her life.
Your single days are included in
all the days of your life!
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GENESIS 2:24, 25
Therefore shall a man leave his father and his
mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they
shall be one flesh. And they were both naked,
the man and his wife, and were not ashamed.
naked = transparent, open, honest, laid bare,
unselfish.
Gods original plan for marriage: husband and
wife unselfishly loving their Lord and each
other. NO SELFISHNESS!!!
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MARRIAGE IS NOT A CONTRACT,


BIBLICAL MARRIAGE IS A COVENANT!
A CONTRACT:

A COVENANT:
1. Mutual Trust: based
1. Based on distrust:

no knowledge of
others character.
2. Limited liability:
(terms of the
contract).
3. Can be altered (if
conditions change).

on a personal
relationship.
2. Unlimited Responsibility: (never ends).
3. Unchangeable: It
cant be changed
even if conditions
change.

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EPHESIANS 5:31, 32
For this cause shall a man leave his
father and mother, and shall be joined
unto his wife, and they two shall be one
flesh. This is a great mystery: but I speak
concerning Christ and the church.
A biblical marriage is to be an audio-visual
picture to the world of Christs relationship
to His bride, the church. (unbreakable!)
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MARRIAGE PICTURES
SALVATION AND ETERNAL LIFE
GENESIS 2:23:
Adam said about Eve: This is now bone of my
bones, and flesh of my flesh.
Adam and Eve became one flesh. Gen. 2:24
Eve was as much a part of Adam as were his
own bones and flesh.
The only way to separate Adam from his bones
and flesh was by death
Only death could separate Adam and Eve!
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GODS PLAN FOR MARRIAGE:


TIL DEATH DO US PART.
Gods Blood Covenant and its permanency is
pictured in the marriage ceremony:
Couples end their vows by saying, til death do
us part.The blood covenant was binding until
the death of the parties involved.
The husband and wife walk down the aisle
hand in hand symbolizing entrance into a
Biblical Blood Covenant.
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THE IRREVOCABLE
BIBLICAL BLOOD COVENANT:
The Blood Covenant was established as the
two parties would walk hand in hand between
the separated halves of a sacrificed animal.
The wedding guests for bride and groom sit on
opposite sides of the church and the new
couple holds hands and passes down the aisle
between the separated guests, symbolizing the
covenant walk between the two pieces of the
sacrificial animal which establishes an
irrevocable covenant until death.
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COVENANT
HEBREW LANGUAGE DEFINITION:

BINDING BY PASSING
BETWEEN TWO PIECES
OF FLESH.

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GODS CREATION ORDER:


God is sovereign and over all.
The man (Adam) is in submission to God.
The woman is in submission to her husband.
The animals are in submission to mankind.
WHEN SIN ENTERED THE RACE OF ADAM:
The woman (Eve) submitted to the animal (Serp
The man (Adam) submitted to his wife (Eve).
God is under all creation order flip flopped:
animals are more important than people!!!
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WHAT ABOUT DATING?


2 Corinthians 6:14-18:14 Be ye not unequally yoked
together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath
righteousness with unrighteousness? and what
communion hath light with darkness? 15 And what
concord hath Christ with Belial? or what part hath he
that believeth with an infidel? 16 And what agreement
hath the temple of God with idols? for ye are the
temple of the living God; as God hath said, I will dwell
in them, and walk in them; and I will be their God, and
they shall be my people. 17 Wherefore come out from
among them, and be ye separate, saith the Lord, and
touch not the unclean thing; and I will receive you, 18
And will be a Father unto you, and ye shall be my sons
and daughters, saith the Lord Almighty.
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JOHN 14:15
Jesus said:
If ye love me,
keep my
commandments.
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Now about DATING?


It is good for a man not to touch a
woman.
1 Corinthians 7:1 ( KJV)
It is good for a man not to touch a
woman.
1 Corinthians 7:1 ( NASB)
It is good for a man not to marry.
1 Corinthians 7:1
(NIV)
NIV USES DYNAMIC EQUIVALENTS AND
NOT LITERAL TRANSLATION.
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Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man


have his own wife and every woman her own
husband.
1 Corinthians 7:2

1 Cor. 7:1: man = Anthropos = men or


mankind.
1 Cor. 7:1: to touch = Haptomai =
touching that lights a fire or kindles a flame or
further relations result.
1 Cor. 7:2: fornication = PORNEIA Most
commonly used for immorality among
singles, incest, beastiality, idolatry, not
usually meaning adultery of married ones.
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Singleness is Gods gift to you to equip


you for a life of ministry!!!
Joshua Harris in I Kissed Dating Goodbye
1997, Multnomah Press, writes:

Dating leads to intimacy, but not


necessarily commitment.
Dating tends to skip the friendship
stage of a relationship
Dating often mistakes a physical
relationship for love
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Dating often isolates a couple from other


vital relationships.
Dating, in many cases, distracts young
adults from their primary responsibility
of preparing for the future.
Dating can cause discontentment with
Gods gift of singleness.
Dating creates an artificial environment
for evaluating another persons
character.
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LUKE 6:46
Jesus said:
And why call ye me,
Lord, Lord, and do
not the things which
I say?
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RESPONSIBLE OR
IRRESPONSIBLE?
DATING
Little parent involve
The two alone together much time
Recreational entertainment for fun
Can breed
irresponsibility

COURTING
Much parent involve
Open accountability
with others presnt
Ministry with others
for fun
Nurtures
responsibility

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MEN: ARE YOU READY TO PROVIDE FOR


AND PROTECT A WIFE?
DATING
Can be careless
about situations that
lead to immorality
A series of broken
relationships does
not help you to learn
loyalty

COURTING
Puts guards on you
to prevent slipping
into immorality
Withhold your
emotional
attachments until
you are ready to
marry

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LADIES: ARE YOU READY TO MARRY


AND RAISE A FAMILY?
DATING
Trusts in strong
romantic desires to
guide
Tends toward the
physical at the
expense of the
intellectual and
spiritual

COURTING
Distrusts emotions
and trusts Godly
counsel + planning
Tends toward the intellectual and
spiritual and waits
for the physical until
marriage

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1 JOHN 1:4-7
And these things write we unto you, that your
joy may be full. 5 This then is the message
which we have heard of him, and declare unto
you, that God is light, and in him is no darkness
at all. 6 If we say that we have fellowship with
him, and walk in darkness, we lie, and do not
the truth: 7 But if we walk in the light, as he is in
the light, we have fellowship one with another,
and the blood of Jesus Christ his Son cleanseth
us from all sin.
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HEBREWS 11:6
But without faith
it is impossible to please him:
for he that cometh to God must
believe that he is, and that he is
a rewarder of them that
diligently seek him.

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WHAT DOES GOD WANT?


Everyone longs to give themselves
completely to someone, to have a deep
soul relationship with another, to be
loved thoroughly and exclusively; but
God to a Christian says:
No, not until you are satisfied, fulfilled
and content
With being loved by Me alone
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With giving yourself totally and


unreservedly to Me
With having an intensely personal and
unique relationship with Me alone,
Discovering that only in Me is your
satisfaction to be found
Will you be capable of the perfect
human relationship that I have planned
for you.
You will never be united with another
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Until you are united with Me,


Exclusive of anyone else or anything else,
Exclusive of any other longings or desires
I want you to stop planning, stop wishing
And allow Me to give you the most thrilling
plan existing
One that you cannot imagine.
I want you to have the best;

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I WANT YOU TO HAVE THE BEST!


Please allow Me to give it to you.
You just keep watching Me, expecting the
greatest things,
Keep experiencing the satisfaction that I am
Keep listening and learning the things that I
tell you.
You just wait; Dont be anxious, dont worry,
dont look at the things you want - - -

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You just keep looking off and away up to


Me or youll miss what I want to show you
And then, when youre ready, I will surprise you with a love far more
wonderful than any you dream of.
You see, until you are ready and until
the one I have for you is ready,
(I am working even at this moment to
have you both ready at the same time)

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Until you are both satisfied exclusively with


Me and the life I prepared for you,
You wont be able to experience the love
that exemplifies your relationship with
Me,
And this is the perfect love.
And dear one, I want you to have this
most wonderful love,
I want you to see in the flesh a picture of
your relationship with Me, and to enjoy
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The everlasting union of beauty, perfection


and love that I offer with Myself.
Know that I love you utterly.
I AM GOD.
Believe and be satisfied.
Author unknown

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COLOSSIANS 3:2-3:
Set your affection [mind and heart]
on things above, not on things on
the earth. For ye are dead, and
your life is hid with Christ in God.
Is there anything that could take a
Christian Singles affection away
from a focused love of our Savior?

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KISSING
Some thoughts by a 1996
Summit Excellence Graduate
A Students Viewpoint

THE SUMMIT GRAD SAYS:


Would you kiss this guy if your parents
were watching?
Does kissing cause your relationship to
center in on the Lord Jesus Christ as the
center in your relationship, or on the
physical aspects of your relationship?
Do you really think that kissing is a
necessity to getting to know your friend?

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If you think kissing is a necessity, then


you are centering in more on the
physical partof your relationship
instead of the spiritual. I believe that if
you focus your relationship more on
spiritual things - i.e. How does God
want us to be? - then you will have a
much more successful marriage and
less chance of divorce.
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I also believe that kissing before marriage


shows a lack of self control and a weakness to
give in to peer pressure. True love is patient.
(1 Corinthians 13)
Is kissing really good for anything when done
before marriage?
Is there really any reason for kissing other
than to please your own physical desires?
Why are you kissing people?
I think the best gift you can give your mate on
your wedding day is the gift of your first kiss!
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HISTORICALLY, WHEN THE


MINISTER SAID:
You may now kiss the bride! . . .
This was the couples first kiss!!!!
Our culture says you must try the
physical things to see if you are
compatible. Physical compatibility is
not a problem in marriage. 99.9% of
all people are wired right!!!
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WHY NOT SAVE YOUR KISSES


FOR YOUR MARRIAGE?
Physical involvements before marriage lead
to broken relationships and lengthy
recovery periods during which concentration is difficult, tests are flunked , jobs
are lost, and our future is thereby limited.
God gives us singleness to equip ourselves
with excellence for a life of ministry for our
dear Lord Jesus. Dont throw it away!!
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A TEST OF TRUE LOVE:

STOP
EVERYTHING
PHYSICAL UNTIL
MARRIAGE!!!
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1 JOHN 2:15-17
15 Love not the world, neither the things
that are in the world. If any man love the
world, the love of the Father is not in him.
16 For all that is in the world, the lust of
the flesh, and the lust of the eyes, and the
pride of life, is not of the Father , but is of
the world. 17 And the world passeth away,
and the lust thereof: but he that doeth the
will of God abideth for ever.
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AND BY THE WAY:


In 30 years of counseling women the #1
complaint my wife gets is: My husband is
not the spiritual leader in our home!
#2 is: My husband loves his mother more
than he loves me!
Ladies, stop calling the men. Stop taking
the leadership as you court or date. Stop
training men to follow your lead before
marriage.
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1998 SUMMIT GRAD:


Are you ready to get married?
What are your goals and plans for the
future?
Will this relationship help us grow
spiritually or take our focus from God?
Will you respect and uphold my beliefs
and morals?
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FEELINGS BEFORE FRIENDSHIP OR


FRIENDSHIP BEFORE FEELINGS
Are you willing to talk to my family?
What are your intentions with this
relationship?
Is this a friendship or an exclusive
special friendship?
At any given moment in our
relationship, is our dear Savior pleased
with us?
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JAMES 4:17
Therefore, to him that
knoweth to do good, and doeth
it not, to him it is sin.

NUMBERS 32:23b
. . . be sure your sin will find
you out.

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KEVIN: 4TH SESSION 1998

Do not ever tell a woman


you love her until you
are ready to say will you
marry me? in the same
breath!!!!!
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REMEMBER: John 12:48


He that rejecteth me, and
receiveth not my words, hath
one that judgeth him: the word
that I have spoken, the same
shall judge him in the last day.

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KEY RELATIONSHIP SCRIPTURES


Philippians 2:1-4
1 Peter 3:8, 9
Colossians 3:12-14
Ephesians 4:29-32
Colossians 1:10

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SCRIPTURE AND MARRIAGE


Therefore shall a man leave his father
and his mother, and shall cleave unto
his wife: and they shall be one flesh.
Genesis 2:24
For the Lord, the God of Israel, saith
that He hateth putting away.
(DIVORCE)
Malachi 2:16
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SITUATIONS AND REGULATIONS


Deuteronomy 22:13-21
Situation: A man marries a woman and
discovers she is not a virgin.
Regulation: She was to be stoned to death.
Deuteronomy 22:22
Situation: A man lies with a married woman.
Regulation: They were both to be executed.

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SITUATIONS AND REGULATIONS


Deuteronomy 22:23, 24
Situation: A man lies with a betrothed woman in
the city and she does not cry out for help.
Regulation: They were both to be stoned.
Deuteronomy 22:25-27
Situation: A man forces and lies with a
betrothed woman in a country field, she cries out
but no one hears to help.
Regulation: The man is executed, but no
penalty for the woman.
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SITUATIONS AND REGULATIONS


Deuteronomy 22:28, 29
Situation: A man lays hold and lies with a
virgin who is not betrothed.
Regulation: He must marry her and can
never divorce her.

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Deuteronomy 24:1-4
Situation: A man takes a wife and finds some
uncleanness in her (This must be something
different from Deut. 22). KJV says: Let him
write her a bill of divorcement, and give it in her
hand, and send her out of his house. And when
she is departed out of his house, she may go
and be another mans wife.
Regulation: If she marries another man and he
dies or he divorces her, her first husband is not
permitted to take her back and remarry her.
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SITUATIONS AND REGULATIONS


SITUATION: Notice a difference in the KJB vs
NASB. KJB seems to give permission for
divorce and remarriage. (Let him write bill of
divorce, and she may remarry)
NASB: He writes her a certificate of divorce
and puts it into her hand, and sends her out
from his house, and she leaves his house and
goes and becomes another mans wife,...
NASB reports situation as something that
happened, but no let him or she may.
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KJB AND NASB USE SAME HEBREW


TEXT, BUT THE TEXT IS AMBIGUOUS.
The Jewish people have argued about the
meaning of this text down through the
centuries, but the author, Jesus, clarified it
when he was here on earth!
Matthew 19:8
Jesus said, Moses because of the hardness of
your hearts suffered you to put away ( divorce)
your wives: but from the beginning it was not
so. Jesus says: NO DIVORCING WIVES!
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MATTHEW 5:17-18
Think not that I am come to destroy the
law, or the prophets: I am not come to
destroy, but to fulfill. For verily I say unto
you, Till heaven and earth pass, one jot or
one tittle shall in no wise pass from the
law, till all be fulfilled.

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MATTHEW AND THE EXCEPTION


CLAUSE
Matthew was written to the Jewish mind.
The Jewish people had a custom unique to
them in the Middle East: BETROTHAL
Betrothal was a one year engagement.
Joseph and Mary were Betrothed
(Espoused), were not married and had not
consummated their marriage when Joseph
learned Mary was pregnant.
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DURING BETROTHAL DIVORCE


IS PERMITTED
Now the birth of Jesus Christ was on
this wise: When as his mother Mary
was espoused to Joseph, before they
came together, she was found with
child of the Holy Ghost. Then Joseph
her husband, not willing to make her
a public example was minded to put her
away (divorce) privily.
Matthew 1:18-19
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BUT WHAT ABOUT THE EXCEPTION


CLAUSE IN MATTHEW?
Matthew 5:31, 32: It hath been said,
whosoever shall put away his wife, let him give
her a writing of divorcement: But I say unto you,
that whosoever shall put away his wife, saving
for the cause of fornication, causeth her to
commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry
her that is divorced committeth adultery.
Fornication is Porneia (Greek term).
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ISNT FORNICATION THE SAME AS


ADULTERY?
Matthew gives us his commentary on the word
fornication (porneia) in Matthew 15:19.
For out of the heart proceed evil thoughts,
murders, adulteries, fornications,
He uses porneia three times (Matt.5:32, 15:19
and 19:9). Twice as reason for divorce and
once side by side with adultery. Adultery
happens to married people, fornication to
betrothed (stronger than our engagement.)
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MATTHEW 19:1-12; (5:31-32)


The Matthew 18 topic is Forgiveness
Jesus said: Whosoever shall put away
his wife, except it be for fornication, and
shall marry another, committeth
adultery: and whoso marrieth her which
is put away doth commit adultery. His
disciples say unto Him, If the case of the
man be so with his wife, it is not good to
marry.
Matthew 19:9,10
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FORNICATION OR ADULTERY
Porneia is the Greek word for fornication.
Porneia is most commonly used for
immorality among unmarried singles.
Moichao is the Greek word for adultery.
Moichao is most commonly used to refer
to immorality between married people.
The Exception Clause uses Porneia.

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MATTHEW IS WRITTEN TO THE


JEWISH PEOPLE
Matthew alone has the Exception
Clause.
The Jewish people practiced Betrothal
Luke and Mark are written to Gentiles.
Gentiles did not practice Betrothal!
Mark 10 does not mention EXCEPTION
Luke 16 does not mention EXCEPTION

DIVORCE IS NEVER AN
OPTION for married people!!!
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GODS BEST IS NO DIVORCE,


NO REMARRIAGE!!!
If a man divorces his wife and marries
another woman he commits adultery.
Mark 10:11

If a woman divorces her husband and


marries another man she commits
adultery.
Mark 10:12

What do these verses mean?


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A FURTHER COMMENT ON THE MATTHEW


EXCEPTION CLAUSE:
A married person who commits
adultery was to be stoned.
Deuteronomy 22:22
Stoned, dead, people do not get
divorced or remarried!!!!!!!!!!!
Matthew 19:9, with the use of porneia
must surely be talking about the
betrothal period and not marriage.
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The disciples understood Jesus to say,


Divorce is not an option.
That is why the disciples say in Matt. 19:10:
If the case of the man be so with his wife, it is
not good to marry.
In other words the disciples, in the midst of a
Jewish culture that permitted divorce at the
whim of the husband, realized that in Gods
eyes marriage is til death. Marry a loser and
there are no biblical grounds for divorce. So
maybe we better stay single!
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IS REMARRIAGE EVER AN OPTION


FOR A CHRISTIAN?
For the woman which hath a husband is
bound by law to her husband so long as he
liveth; but if the husband be dead, she is
loosed from the law of her husband. So then
if, while her husband liveth she be married to
another man, she shall be called an
adulteress: but if her husband be dead, she
is free from the law; so that she is no
adulteress, though she be married to another
man.
Romans 7:2,3
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IS REMARRIAGE EVER AN OPTION


FOR A CHRISTIAN?
In regards to younger women whose
husbands have died:
I will therefore that the younger women
marry, bear children, guide the house,
give none occasion to the adversary to
speak reproachfully. For some are already
turned aside after Satan. 1 Timothy
5:14,15
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1 CORINTHIANS 7:39
The wife is bound by the law as long
as her husband liveth; but if her
husband be dead, she is at liberty
to be married to whom she will;
only in the Lord.

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God has called us to be


peacemakers
Yet if the unbelieving depart, let him depart.
A brother or a sister is not under bondage
in such cases: but God hath called us to
peace.
1 Corinthians 7:15
The real issue here is that the Christian
should be a peacemaker in the
marriage so that the unbeliever will not
want to leave but to stay and come to
faith!!!
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1 CORINTHIANS 7:15
not under bondage. Literal translation:
has not been enslaved.
If the unbeliever insists on leaving, the
believer is not enslavedyou can let them
go, but you are not free to divorce or
remarry.

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THE PRINCIPLE OF
PREDECIDING
Dr. Jobe Martin
Biblical Discipleship Ministries
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HERES THE IDEA:


1) You have a recurring problem such as:
laziness, cheating, stealing, swearing,
anger, lust, pride, lying, immorality, lack
of self control, pornography, drugs,
selfishness, etc.
OR
2) You have a potential problem, a
problem that might pop up some day in
the future such as: (see above )

HERES WHAT TO DO:


Find a Scripture that deals with the
problem.
Memorize this Scripture.
Meditate on this Scripture.
Personalize the Scripture (put your
name in it wherever possible).
Pray the Scripture back to God.

THEN WHAT?
Ask the Lord to use this
Scripture in your life the
next time (or first time)
you are confronted with
the problem, test or
temptation!

FOR EXAMPLE:
If you have an anger problem you
might memorize Ecclesiastes 7:9,

Do not be eager in your heart to


be angry, for anger resides in the
bosom of fools.
This can be uncomfortably convicting!
God calls eagerly angry people fools!

ARE YOU SELFISH?


Memorize, Meditate, Personalize and
pray back to God Philippians 2:3:

Let nothing be done through strife


[selfishness, NASB] or vainglory
[pride, NASB]; but in lowliness of
mind let each esteem the other
better than themselves.

IS YOUR TONGUE OUT OF CONTROL?


Memorize, Meditate, Personalize and
pray back to God Ephesians 4:29:
Let no corrupt communication proceed
out of your mouth, but that which is
good to the use of edifying, that it may
minister grace unto the hearers.
Pre-decide to let God use this Scripture
the next time your tongue needs taming.

LUST OF THE EYES


For all that is in the world, the lust
of the flesh, and the lust of the
eyes, and the pride of life, is not of
the Father, but is of the world.
I John 2:16
I will set no wicked thing before
mine eyes.
Psalm 101:3a

LUST OF THE FLESH


But put ye on the Lord Jesus Christ,
and make not provision for the flesh to
fulfill the lusts thereof. Romans 13:14
Keep watching and praying, that you
may not come into temptation; the
spirit is willing, but the flesh is weak.
Mark 14:38

PRIDE OF LIFE
Pride goes before destruction, and a
haughty spirit before stumbling.
Proverbs 16:18

Therefore let him who thinks he stands


take heed lest he fall. I Corinthians 10:12
. . . Do not be wise in your own
estimation.
Romans 12:16b

YOU ARE TEMPTED TOWARD


IMMORALITY
Memorize I Corinthians 10:13: There
hath no temptation taken you but such
as is common to man; but God is
faithful, who will not suffer you to be
tempted above that ye are able; but will
with the temptation also make a way to
escape, that ye may be able to bear it.
For example, what are the ways of
escape?

ROMANS 8:5,6 & 13:14


For they that are after the flesh, do mind the
things of the flesh; but they that are after the
Spirit the things of the Spirit. For to be carnally
(fleshly) minded is death; but to be spiritually
minded is life and peace.
But put ye on the Lord Jesus Christ, and make
not provision for the flesh, to fulfill the lusts
thereof.
Watch ye and pray, lest ye enter into temptation. The spirit truly is ready (willing), but the flesh
is weak.
Mark 14:38

THE PRINCIPLE OF PREDECIDING


Find a Scripture that deals with the
problem.
Memorize this Scripture.
Meditate on this Scripture.
Personalize the Scripture (put your
name in it wherever possible).
Pray the Scripture back to God.

THEN WHAT?
Ask the Lord to use this
Scripture in your life the
next time (or first time)
you are confronted with
the problem, test or
temptation!

MARRIAGE
Genesis 1: God (Elohim) creates the
universe and climaxes that with the
creation of man.
Genesis 2: The Lord God ( Yahweh
Elohim). Yahweh is the covenantal name
of God. In Genesis 2 the covenant
keeping God takes man into his
covenant keeping relationship:
marriage.
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GENSIS 2:24-25
24)Therefore shall a man leave his father
and his mother and shall cleave unto his
wife: and they shall be one flesh. 25) And
they were both naked, the man and his
wife, and were not ashamed.
Vs. 24=masculine=men leave momma!!!
Vs. 25=naked=open, unguarded, laid
bare, fully transparent=no selfishness!!!
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THE SPIRITUAL TEST!


A FAITH THAT CANT BE TESTED
CANT BE TRUSTED!
And the Lord God commanded the man
saying, Of every tree of the garden thou
mayest freely eat.
Genesis
2:16
Millions of perfectly legitimate options of
things to do, but Adam and Eve begin to
zero in on the forbidden fruit.
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THE SPIRITUAL TEST!


But of the tree of the knowledge of good
and evil, thou shalt not eat of it: for in the
day that thou eatest thereof thou shalt
surely die.
Genesis 2:17
Adam had the choice--to serve God or to
serve self =satisfying the lust of the eyes,
the lust of the flesh and the pride of life.
Adam needed help to face this spiritual test.
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GENESIS 2:18
And the Lord God said, It is not good that the
man should be alone; I will make a help meet
for him.
The serpent spoke to the woman, she ate and
the creative order was flip-flopped.
ORDER = God, in submission is man;then in
submission= woman; in submission=animals

DISORDER = animal, woman, man, God


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DISORDER
The serpent deceives the woman and she
has submitted to the animal. Then Adam,
the man, submits to the woman, his wife.
Instead of man submitting to God and the
woman submitting to her husband and
the animal submitting to people the order
is flip-flopped. The woman submits to the
animal, Adam to Eve, God is out!!
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HOW DID THIS DOWNWARD SPIRAL


GET GOING?
The serpent said, Yea, hath God said, Ye
shall not eat of every tree of the garden?
Genesis 3:1b
In other words you cant really trust the
Word of God even tho He said regarding
the tree of the knowledge of good and evil
Thou shalt not eat of it: for in the day that
thou eatest thereof thou shalt surely die.
Genesis 2:17b
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HOW DID THIS DOWNWARD SPIRAL


GET GOING?
And the serpent said unto the woman,
Ye shall not surely die (reincarnation). For
God doth know that in the day ye eat (lust
of the flesh) thereof, then your eyes (lust
of the eyes) shall be opened, and ye shall
be as gods (pride of life), knowing good
and evil
Genesis 3:4-5

Satan is the father of lies!


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John 8:44

HOW DID THIS DOWNWARD SPIRAL


GET GOING?
And when the woman saw that the tree
was good for food (lust of flesh), and
that it was pleasant to the eyes (lust of
eyes), and a tree to be desired to make
one wise (pride of life), she took of the
fruit thereof and did eat, and gave also
unto her husband with her; and he did
eat.
Genesis 3:6
Adam is with Eve, but totally passive!!!!
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CONSEQUENCES
And unto Adam he said, Because thou
hast hearkened unto the voice of thy
wife, and hast eaten of the tree, of
which I commanded thee, saying, Thou
shalt not eat of it: cursed is the ground
for thy sake; in sorrow shalt thou eat of
it all the days of thy life; thorns and
thistles shall it bring forth to thee.
Genesis 3:17-18
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CONSEQUENCES
Unto the woman he said, I will greatly
multiply thy sorrow (pain,NAS) and thy
conception; in sorrow (pain,NAS) thou
shalt bring forth children; and thy desire
shall be to thy husband, and he shall
rule over thee.
Genesis 3:16
Genesis 4:7=desire=to overrule,
overpower or overthrow=wifes desire
for husband is to overthrow, etc.!
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SOLUTION TO CONSEQUENCES OF
THE FALL
Husbands, love your wives, even as
Christ also loved the church, and gave
himself for it;
Ephesians 5:25
Husbands, love your wives, and be
not bitter against them. Colossians
3:19
Husbands, give honor unto your wife.
1Peter 3:7
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SOLUTION TO CONSEQUENCES OF
THE FALL
Wives, submit yourselves unto your
own husbands, as unto the
Lord.Therefore, as the church is
subject to Christ, so let the wives be to
their own husbands in everything.
Ephesians 5:22,24
Wives, submit yourselves unto your
own husbands, as is fit in the Lord.
Colossians 3:18
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Family Projects
Compose a definition of success for you
and/or your family made up entirely of
Scripture. Success for me/us is.
Compose a doctrinal statement of
Scriptures that you and your family will not
compromise.
Start memorizing a chapter of the Bible.
Think of ways to minister to other people.
Purpose to know and share the Gospel.
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OTHER RESOURCES:
Of Knights and Fair Maidens, Jeff and
Danielle Meyers
Best Friends for Life, Michael and Judy
Phillips
Her Hand in Marriage, Douglas Wilson
Passion and Purity, Elizabeth Elliot
His Chosen Bride, Jennifer Lampe

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