Complete guide to assertive living

Unit 11
Its a skill you can learn

How can one best bring about

life changes?

By first changing attitude to

positive?
By changing behaviour first,
attitude will follow?
By changing thoughts first?

This is gradual and progressive

Think positive and realistic thoughts,
Follow through by behaving positively
Keep a positive attitude

Both thinking and behavior are vital

elements in the process of bringing
about personal growth.

Getting from here to there:

Negative thoughts about yourself

will produce negative behaviour
which in turn will beget negative
response towards you confirming
to you that you are really no good.
You can reverse this cycle.
Start by thinking positive
thoughts about your ability to
handle situations.
This increases self worth and
helps us be more assertive.

Dont make sudden change

statements for example you wake
up in the morning and say;
I am assertive
Nor statements in the future:
I will be assertive
But in the present continuous
progressive:
I am becoming more assertive
day by day.

Feeling words: Synonyms of

In a circle all to take turns.. can give a
synonym of, pass. ..or say change
Clap clap snap snap
Start
Words for:
Happy
Sad
Angry
Frightened
Confused
Doubtful
Eager
Hurt
Confident

Happy, Relieved,
Happy, joyous, contended ,content,
glad , pleased, delighted, thankful,
cheerful, thrilled, satisfied, elated,
euphoric,, ecstatic, sanguine,
positive, overjoyed, excited . jubilant
,triumphant, exultant, proud
Relieved, reassured, comforted,
calm, tranquil, peaceful, composed,
serene, poised, unruffled, relaxed,
soothed, collected self possessed,
unperturbed, reassured

Charmed, Loved,

Charmed, captivated, enamoured,

admiring. Appreciative, approving,
flattered , thrilled. Infatuated,
besotted, lovesick, smitten ,
obsessed. Heads over heals in love,

Loved, appreciated, precious,

valued , esteemed, treasured,
cherished, respected, prized, dear,
honoured, venerated, well regarded,

Eager, Confident, Grateful,

Eager, keen, eager, enthusiastic,

energized, ardent, devoted, excited,
ready to go, passionate, fervent, zealous,
dedicated, committed, loyal , faithful,
staunch, unswerving , animated, vibrant,
vigorous, vivacious, lively, bubbly,
spirited, sparkling, dynamic, motivated .
Confident , certain ,convinced, positive,
sure, secure, positive, upbeat, optimistic,
buoyant , assured, definite, protected,
safe, sheltered, cozy, cushy, cosseted
Grateful, appreciative, obliged,
indebted , beholden, thankful,
approving, enthusiastic, privileged

Unhappy, Anxious,
Unhappy, sad, low, depressed, miserable,
sorrowful. Gloomy, forlorn, dejected,
wretched, desolate, isolated, deserted,
lonely, pitiful, despondent, hopeless,
discouraged, dismal, Distressed.
Misunderstood , disconsolate,
demoralized, ominous, worrying ,
menaced. intimidated. Threatened, in
danger, in jeopardy, at risk, in peril,
Anxious, worried, concerned,
apprehensive, nervous, agitated,
troubled, disturbed. Perturbed, uptight,
frantic, tense, panicked, frenzied,
hysterical, afraid, alarmed, fretful,
irritable, anxious, cross, petulant,
touchy, prickly, Desperate,

Confused , Doubtful, Apprehensive,

Confused ,puzzled, perplexed, baffled,
bewildered, mystified, at a complete
loss, befuddled, bemused
Doubtful, uncertain, unsure, hesitant,
cynical, untrusting distrust, shy,
irresolute,
Undecided, tentative, cautious, timid,
dubious.
Apprehensive, nervous, edgy, jumpy,
panicky, tense, alarmed, unnerved,
scared, frightened, terrified, petrified,
overwrought, uptight, horrified,

Shocked, Hurt, Angry,

Shocked, startled, amazed, surprised
traumatized, disturbed, distressed,
flabbergasted, Dazed, stunned,
astonished, astounded , incredulous,
dumbfounded,
Angry, livid, fuming, incensed, enraged,
irritated, exasperated, aggravated,
provoked, maddened, wound up, goaded,
irate Bitter, resentful.
Hurt, upset, wounded, injured ,
indignant, wronged, ill treated,
offended, resentful, put off, aggrieved,
bitter, dejected, disappointed, dismayed,
rejected , unwanted, discarded,
redundant, superfluous, frustrated,
thwarted, disillusioned.

Ashamed: Guilty: Unworthy

Ashamed: embarrassed, discomfited,

self-conscious. mortified, humiliated.
Dishonored, disgraced, shown up,
debased, defiled, violated, sullied,
despoiled, desecrated.
Guilty: responsible, culpable, at fault,
blameworthy, liable, answerable.
Unworthy: undeserving, worthless,
not good enough for, not fit for,
contemptible, disgraceful, shameful,
insignificant, of no consequence,
trivial, useless, hollow, void.

Helpless, Mistreated ,

Helpless, vulnerable, powerless,

susceptible, weak, unaided,
Feeble, frail, pathetic, in danger,
at risk, exposed, defenseless,
unprotected, unguarded,
Mistreated , harmed, maltreated,
abused, battered, neglected,
ignored, abandoned, deserted,
discarded, forsaken,