Communication Skills 2

Perception and communication

Self Perception

How do you see yourself? (10 characteristics) How do you portray yourself (10 characteristics) How do others see you (10 characteristics) Perceiving self Presenting self

Your moods or feelings Your appearance and physical condition Your social traits Talents you possess or lack Your intellectual capacity Your strong beliefs Your social roles

Perceived and Presenting Self - men

Friendly Active Responsible Independent Capable Polite Attractive Smart Happy Funny

Wild Able Active Strong Proud Smart Brave Capable Responsible Rough

Adapted from C. M. Shaw and R.Edwards,Self-Concepts and Self-Presentations of Males and Females: Similarities and Differences,Communication Reports 10 (1997): 5562.

Perceived and Presenting Self - women

Friendly Responsible Independent Capable Sensible Active Happy Curious Faithful Attractive

Active Responsible Able Bright Warm Funny Independent Proud Sensible Smart

Adapted from C. M. Shaw and R.Edwards,Self-Concepts and Self-Presentations of Males and Females: Similarities and Differences,Communication Reports 10 (1997): 5562.

How others see you, the communicated self

Is the communicated self, closer to the perceived or the presented self. How truthful is your friends evaluation of you? What characteristics did you successfully communicate? What characteristics did you fail to communicate?

Perceiving others

Narratives (our story, our description) Shared narratives

We judge others by their actions, we judge ourselves by our intentions Attribution (attaching meaning to behaviour) We notice the intense, repetitive and contrastive

Perceiving others

We cling to first impressions We assume others are similar Negative impressions outweigh positive ones

Perception and culture

Positive traits in Albanian culture Positive traits in Turkish culture Positive traits in British culture

Empathy: a key interpersonal skill

Empathy 3 elements: Perspective Emotion Concern

Discuss, is there a difference between empathy and sympathy?

Perception checking: a key interpersonal skill

Describe the behaviour Give at least 2 possible interpretations Request for clarification

Self-perception: a closer look

Intrapersonal communication Our experiences, relationships and interactions are the mirror that reflect our self-identity Process Culture (individualist/collectivist) Significant others (declining influence with time)

We view ourselves the way we imagine others see us C.H.Cooley

Personality

At least 10% is biological Personality is situational (more complex) Self-fulfilling prophecy, examples. 4 personality categories

Identity management
Multiple identities (student, child, worker, friend, stranger) Collaborative (reaffirming the presented selves) Conscious/unconcious High Self monitoring skills = better identity management How do we manage our impressions? Discuss, honesty and communication