Preparing children

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sexually

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Go around and hug everybody in this room.

What is your response?

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Child playing with his genitals. Child looks at an bra ad and ask what is she wearing?

When watching TV with Child an intimate kissing scene comes up?

Your child tells you today one child removed his pants in the class and something was hanging out? Why it does not hang out from my body? Child asks What is Rape? Child does not ask such question

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Beliefs

Motivation Feelings Empower

Self Esteem Habits of mind

Creativity

Behaviour Multiple Intelligences

Is this your response?

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Scold the child?

Avoid answering?
Wish child had not asked? Change channel / topic?

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So what do these responses do to the child?

I am bad
Its wrong to discuss such things with

YOU Its eembarrassing

There is something SPECIAL about it You dont want to talk about it - so WHY to bother. Avoid/ Ignore

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It has to begin with you

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Sex education is more about beliefs than actual information.

Our Beliefs

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1 Give the Vocabulary

It is not something

it has a name:
penis, vagina

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2 Functions of ALL body parts

The function of

Urination does
not make Vagina

or Penis DIRTY.

3 Awareness
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Public body parts v/s Private body parts Public and Private (body) actions

4 Sensitize
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Good touch, Bad touch Sexual touch

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Body Education
1.Give right vocabulary 2. Correct function of body parts 3. Private and public body parts 4. Private and public actions 5. Sensitize Good touch, bad touch

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Why Body Education ?

Nothing

is dirty or bad. ALL parts of their body are good. It will help make it easier for them to come to you when they have questions. You be the FIRST to give them information. Easy to talk about BODY when they grow. Children need to feel good about themselves, whether they are boys or girls.

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Break your own barrier

What you believe, what you feel and what you say, do, and not do - will have an impact on your children's sexual life

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So, lets see what we can do (role play)

You find your child and his friend (both 7 years) are naked and playing with reach others body parts

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- Pre Primary

Exploring private body parts. Touch and play with them. Interest in the physical characteristics of the opposite sex. Undressing with another preschooler and playing doctor together. Wondering where babies come from.
Key source: Australian Research Centre in Sex, Health and society

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Sexual Behavior - Primary

Modest and conscious Kissing games and marriage pretend-play. Babies come from? Sex play; playing doctor Curious about gender differences, sexual intercourse and pregnancy

Key source: Australian Research Centre in Sex, Health and society

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Puberty
Physical

Changes Girls Physical changes Boys

Also..
Emotional changes Your thinking will change Your relationship with your parents

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Sex Education - Socio - Emotional

Myths

related to How to behave

like a man and a woman

Boy

friends and Girl friends feelings attraction for stereotypes

Sexual

opposite or same sex, crushes.

Media

Sex education Social

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Homo

sexuality, Premarital sex. Smoking, Drugs Syndrome, Depression, media, Pornography sexual behaviour

Alcohol, Fatigue Violent

Responsible

Media

stereotypes

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If you are late.

Start NOW Talk about the BODY education and then

move to

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Benefits

You be the FIRST to inform You are approachable Your family values Healthy relationship

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So, lets see what we can do (role play)

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So, lets see what we can do (role play)

You child comes and tells you that a adult relative of yours has been fondling with his/her genitals

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Sexual Abuse
1. 2. 3.

4. 5.

6. 7. 8.

9.

Listen completely without any judgement Empathize with childs emotions If required express your emotions (only emotions) Assure its not childs mistake State that whatever maybe you are with the child Ask child for opinions and options Establish that saying NO to anybody is FINE Discuss more options Reiterate you are always THERE

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Check your own beliefs Make it a regular topic Mark it important Be open & relaxed when talking about sex If not, tell that child that youre not comfortable Dont react - Understand the ACTION Do not give wrong or fanciful information Educate yourself
Use books, articles or videos, youth websites that can help. You could suggest someone you both trust as a good person for your son or daughter to talk with. A hysterical response will probably guarantee your child may never risk asking you anything about sex again

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TOOLS
Role

plays Puppets Casual Discussions Books Draw pictures Yoga Body Awareness

Jagriti
Remember sex is a natural and biological motivation 2. Check your own beliefs 3. Empathise with child feelings. Express yours. 4. Remember your response will determine how the child will think about himself or herself 5. Empower the child to face sexual situations 6. Child is creative enough to create own understanding; Be creative in how you show your points / concerns 7. Awareness then understanding. Strategies they can create themselves. 8. Use Multiple ways to reach to the child - draw, role play, discuss, songs, give data about abuse, 9. Sex is natural behaviour and in most cases the intention is to enjoy oneself. 10. Prepare the child mentally, emotionally, socially and sexually. Learn from life for life.
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Complete Sex education

Myths - Sex Education

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There is an age Responsibility of school. They will undesrtand as they grow Sex eductaion only means menstruation (girls), penis, hair growth (boys) and biology of sex. Touching genitals is not normal harmful for growth. It distracts from studies. Talk about sex issues - kids will become sexually active. Its okay to say God put baby in mummys tummy kids will not understand the facts. Only mothers should talk to girls and fathers talk to son. Boys do not need to know about periods and Girls do not need to know about wet dreams.

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No age - Talking with your children about their bodies is

easier if you start when they are very young. Not only school - Home plays a major role Sex education is as important as maths or engilish or sports Not only biology - Complete education to all the genders. Sex play normal. It can be soothing. Talking early about sex - will help make it easier for them to come to you when they have questions. They will understand - You give factual and age appropriate information. Both parenst talk bonds the family Well informed kids behave sexually responsibly.

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Sex education - 1
Body

education Awareness - Good touch, bad touch, sexual touch Awareness of Abuse physical, emotional and sexual Empower at home Sexual behaviour of pre-primary and primary children.

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Sex education
Puberty

Changes hormones, feelings, body appearance Changes with teenage like Acne, hair growth, skin change Do boys have Breast? Breast and size

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Sex education - 3
Boy

friends and Girl friends Menstruation When do periods starts and stops, Accidents like blood stains, Exercise and periods, Mood swings, Cramps, Pimples and periods, Light and heavy periods. Wet dreams, Erections, Hair and skin
Hair

growth shaving, waxing,

Sexual

feelings attraction for opposite or same sex, crushes

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Sex education - 4
Myths

related to How to behave like a man and a woman Reproduction, Pregnancy Homo sexuality, Premarital sex. Condoms, birth control, contraception, unplanned pregnancy, Abortion Sex diseases and STD (sexually transmitted diseases), Infections like Urine infection

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Alcohol,

Smoking, Drugs Fatique Syndrome, Depression, Violent media, Pronography Responsible sexual behaviour

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Skills develop

Being able to communicate, Be aware Decision-making Seek help from adults - including parents, carers and professionals. Be able to differentiate between accurate and inaccurate information, Discuss a range of moral and social issues and perspectives on sex and sexuality, including different cultural attitudes and sensitive issues like sexuality, abortion and contraception.

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HOW ?

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How to answer?
Think

honestly what you think about the questions Check your beliefs Express your thought Give appropriate and factual information Ask and respect childs opinion
Children need most of all to feel loved and lovable

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young child undressing and playing doctor with another friend at home.
FACTS: It is Natural and Normal Does not mean the same as it does for adults. If you stop they hide

Playing Doctor - You see your

Playing Doctor - YOUR ACTION:

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2.

Do not act in horror or scream or punish. Remind them about

My body other cannot touch only you can touch Private and public body parts Private and public actions Give them options put your clothes and play same game (if they are playing family, doctor) or any other game If books are handy read one for them Take it easy - remind yourself it is natural

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Your young child likes to touch your private body parts.

Facts: Exploration, Curious, Not a sexual act Your action Role play
My body your body My feelings Give option

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Two friends taking bath together or sleep in the night

FACTS: Enjoyment

Your Action
Prepare them Awareness of My Body Empower to say NO Ask their opinion

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Your child playing and rubbing genitals in the night and enjoying.

Facts: Natural, Soothing Your Action

Accept Private and Public action My Body

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How does baby come in Mummys Tummy ?

Avoid fanciful explanations Keep your answers simple.

1. 2. 3.

Baby grows in mummys tummy. Created from a sperm from their Dad and an egg from their Mum. Grow in mummys organ called Utreus. Sperm comes from Dad's penis and the egg from Mum's ovaries.

Your own pregnancy, the pregnancy of a friend or even pets giving birth. Your Family Values

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Your young child likes to touch your private body parts.

Facts:
Exploration, Curious, Not a sexual act

Your action Role play

My body your body My feelings Give option

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