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With repeated exposure to someone, our infatuation may fix upon almost anyone who has roughly similar characteristics and who reciprocates our affection
Anticipation of interaction
Expecting that someone
unfamiliar describe our prejudice when confronting those that are different
The more attractive a woman was, the more he liked her and wanted to date her again. The more attractive the man was, the more she liked him and wanted to date him again
Matching phenomenon
The tendency for men and women to
choose as partners those who are a good match in attractiveness and other traits
Physical-attractiveness stereotype
The presumption that physically attractive
To be attractive is to be perfectly average Beauty signals biologically important information: health, youth and fertility
Contrast effect: exposure to perfect 10s is to make ones own partner seem less appealing
Warm and likeable people seem more attractive. Love sees loveliness
The more similar a persons attitudes are to your own, the more likeable you will find the person
Complementarity: the popularly supposed tendency, in a relationship between two people, for each to complete what is missing in the other
A persons liking another cause the other to return the appreciation We perceive criticism more than sincere praise
Ingratiation: the use of strategies by which people seek to gain anothers favor
not-so-nice words. Or perhaps after being withheld, they are especially gratifying
Low self-esteem individuals tend to underestimate their partners appreciation for them and reciprocate with less generous views of their partners and therefore less happiness with the relationship
We are attracted to those we find it satisfying and gratifying to be with Reward theory of attraction
We like those whose behavior is rewarding to
Equity principle of attraction: what you and your partner get out of a relationship should be proportional to what you each put into it.
Results to a relationship where trust displaces anxiety and where we are free to open ourselves without fear of losing the others affection
Disclosure reciprocity effect: Disclosure begets disclosure.
Married after age 20 Both grew up in stable, two-parent homes Dated for a long time before marriage Are well and similarly educated Enjoy a stable income from a good job
Live in a small town or on a farm Did not cohabit or become pregnant before marriage Are religiously committed Are of similar age, faith and education
Myers, D. (2012). Exploring social psychology (6th ed.). New York: McGraw-Hill