WELCOME

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OBJECTIVES OF THE SESSION

LOOKING AT

LIFE

AFRESH

Self discovery and Awareness

OBJECTIVES

Taking a Flight Dusting off deep-rooted beliefs creating road blocks in our path

OBJECTIVES

Looking at the whole scene from Above to find out the truth

OBJECTIVES

Getting to know ourselves

SUCCESS?

WHAT , ACTUALLY, BRINGS US SUCCESS??

QUESTION TIME

WHAT IS THE MOST BASIC ASPIRATION OF HUMAN BEINGS??

If it

is achieved, success is achieved!!??

Free wheeling session>>>>>>>

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We will explore about ourselves, and we will

explore about the things around us,

the things we live with everyday.

When we look into ourselves, it turns out that

we ultimately want is something obvious:

We want
Happiness, Prosperity and their Continuity.

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SO MOST BASIC ASPIRATIONS OF HUMAN BEINGS ARE:

HAPPINESS PROSPERITY (is it wealth?) AND THEIR CONTINUITY

SUCCESS = HAPPINESS + PROSPERITY+ (THEIR CONTINUITY)

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N O W L E T U S F I N D O U T W H AT I S H A P P I N E S S ? ?

We made tremendous progress and advancements in

Science & Technology, Convenience, and Comforts..

Let us raise a question!!!

Are we satisfied (Happy) with the state of affairs today?

Referring to following levels: At the human level At the human relationships in the family At the human relationships in the society At the level of nature

At the level of human being

@ the level of human being

At human level, therere issues in individuals w.r.t. lack of clarity on Life goals, contradictions & stress

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@ level of human relationships in the family

We see problems in mutual understanding, increasing mistrust, Insecurity & generation gap

@ level of nature
We have increasing problems of

environment degradation, global warming,

Deforestation, floods, irregular rain Pattern, and so on. @ level of human relationships in society We see communal conflict, exploitation, terrorism in various forms.

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All well-planned human activity (carried in the name of progress ) Led to

All these problems

Where, then, lies the solution?

What exactly is amiss?

This is an important question intriguing the human mind today?

To get down to the root cause of this Problems, Let us take a backward journey From school level till college level to have a closer look at our lives

Life in School and College

Through our educational subjects, we have explored our world in certain ways & these have opened our eyes to many dimensions of our lives and of the world we live in.

Having studied at school and college levels, Can I answer these questions?
Do I understand lifes true meaning? What are my goals? How do I understand what is important for me? How do I use my education?

What am I going to do after my education?

What is Success? Whats it mean to be Successful? Do I know what I really want? My True Calling?

In whatever I have done so far, did I decide these things for myself, or was I merely acting under external influences?

Assumed learning to merely be an aid towards finding a job.

Making a career, getting a job, summarizes total purpose of all our education so far!!
Is this why we have been studying??

Is the education of children just about rote, memorization and eventually Getting plum jobs, OR. is it possible to have an educational alternative that not only helps children become thinking individuals but also better human beings

Decode this picture, what does it indicate?

"The PROBLEM that faces US is the problem of AWAKENING. What we LACK is not an ...ideology or doctrine that will SAVE the world. What we lack is MINDFULNESS of what we ARE, of what our situation REALLY is. We need to WAKE UP in order to rediscover our human sovereignty. We are riding a horse that is running OUT of CONTROL. The way of salvation is a NEW culture in which human beings are encouraged to REDISCOVER their DEEPEST nature. ~ Thich Nhat Hahn ~

Let us start a process of dialogue between What you are and What you really want to be !!!!

This basic contradiction has to be resolved which is the basic cause for our unhappiness.

What we are today is the result of our pre-conditionings, our predispositions, our impressions and our beliefs.

Life with family and Friends

At the same time, besides spending a lot of time in school, studying, and preparing for examinations-we have been living a good part of our lives at our home in relationship with our family and our friends. This network of relationship with our parents, grand parents, our siblings and our friends is an important aspect of our lives and brings to us a lot of Support and Joy.

Each one of us value the Beauty and Joy of growing up together

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Life with family and Friendscontd.

But many a time, these relationships turn unpleasant and we find ourselves in conflict

with the other person. At that point we become unsure and begin to blame, criticize the
other and sometimes even ourselves. Sometimes, we are frustrated at the behavior of other human beings and even our behavior with others. Many a time, we are at a loss to know how to handle these relationship issues properly and it ends up disturbing us.

Why does such contradiction happen amongst us

leading to disharmony in our Relationship?

How do we understand relationships? Is it important to to understand Relationships?

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Life around Us...contd.

We also live in the midst of a wide variety of animals and plants. The soil we walk on, the water we daily consume, the air we breathe. We may not pay attention to these things around all the time but they nevertheless form an integral part of our lives, and we are related to, and dependent on them. We keep hearing of issues in the environment and words like pollution, deforestation, global etc. nowadays. How do we interpret these issues? What role do we see ourselves in helping to resolve these issues ?

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Our relationship with Nature

We have increasing problems of environment degradation, extinction of various species due to our apathy and callousness, global warming, Deforestation, floods, irregular rain Pattern, and so on.

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The Earth Song

What I am

What I really want to be

What we have assumed are really true

This is a serious matter worthy of our attention.

Role of Education:
To enable Human being
To Live A Healthy life.. in Harmony with Self, Family, Society and Nature

To Create an Enduring value

To Work for Excellence and not unhealthy competition

Let us investigate which factors are responsible for our present state

Which does not let us coincide What I am and What I want to be

We never used education to be empowered to Think Beyond And Develop understanding to differentiate between Right and Wrong.

Life around Us
The media unleashes upon us ideas of what is right or what is wrong? what is socially acceptable and what is not?
and it does so by stating, as well as in a silent way through promotional ads.

As individuals, we consume all of this and become more fragmented in our opinions and become consumers of the media and its products.

Opinion

The media

Tastes

Choices

Absence of correct understanding of universal value set

leads into

wrong beliefs/ad-hoc values.

Beliefs::
1. A corporate job is the best job in the world 2. Money can bring happiness 3. Success is the ultimate thing by hook or by crook 4. If we have enough money, all relatives and friends will respect us

In the absence of correct understanding of universal human values, we are Driven by our ad-hoc values and beliefs. If we look deep into ourselves, we find that each one of us believes in something, and we base our Values on these beliefs, be they false or true which may or may not be true in reality. For example some one may believe that:

Infinite Money can bring Infinite happiness ???????

Success, Money, is the ultimate thing by hook or by crook ????

If we have enough money, all relatives and friends will respect us ?????
Our life is insignificant and we should remain self-focussed???? It is the world of competition????

See

Beliefs
Hear Parents tell us

Friends talk about

Media says

A whole body of belief-system constitutes our world-view.

Value of one belief system

contradi ction

Value of second belief system

Conditioned beliefs are not based on Right understanding and Universal values Living our lives based only on beliefs can not ensure Happiness .

What we really want to be

What we actually are

Why are We in this state?---Living with Wrong Assumptions

In Relationships: Wrong assumptions

Living on the basis of that wrong assumption leads to contradictions and disharmony.

Assumptions: We can become close to someone by being authoritative with them or taking decisions for them. By shouting/aggression we can get others round to our point of view. Respect can be elicited by speaking in derogatory manner with lower staff.

"When we were born, we were programmed PERFECTLY. We had a natural tendency to focus on LOVE. Our imaginations were CREATIVE and flourishing, and we KNEW how to use them. We were CONNECTED to a world much richer than the one we connect to now, a world full of ENCHANTMENT and a sense of the miraculous. So what happened? Why is it that we reached a certain age, looked around, and the enchantment was GONE? Because we were TAUGHT to focus elsewhere. We were taught to think UNNATURALLY. We were taught a very BAD philosophy, a way of looking at the world that CONTRADICTS who we are.

We were taught to think thoughts like competition, STRUGGLE, sickness, finite resources, limitation, GUILT, bad, death, SCARCITY, and loss. We began to think these things, and so we began to KNOW them. We were taught that things like grades, being good enough, MONEY, and doing things the RIGHT way, are more important than love. We were taught that we're SEPARATE from other people, that we have to COMPETE to get ahead, that we're not quite GOOD enough the way we ARE. We were taught to see the WORLD the way that others had come to see it. It's as though, as soon as we got here, we were given a SLEEPING pill. The THINKING of the world, which is not based on love, began POUNDING in our ears the moment we hit shore.
LOVE is what we were BORN with. FEAR is what we LEARNED here. The spiritual journey is the relinquishment, or UNLEARNING, of fear and the ACCEPTANCE of love back into our HEARTS. Love is the ESSENTIAL existential fact. It is our ultimate reality and our PURPOSE on earth. To be consciously AWARE of it, to experience love in ourselves and others, is the MEANING of life. MEANING doesn't lie in things. Meaning lies in US." ~ Marianne Williamson ~

On daily basis, we are bombarded with hundreds of ads which mislead us into believing and misconstruing many fakes

Role of media is under scanner for such Mass Brain Wash

The Question is is it Aloo patty which is going to ensure happiness everyday??

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Catching them young

Khatey Raho

OPEN HAPPINESS

Myths

EVEN SEEING IS NOT BELIEVING

We have to look at the whole picture from outside the box to find the truth, if we

only concentrate on what we are told and taught then we are blinded by
ignorance.

Buddha

Existing Assumptions:
1. Money is central to all human pursuit (Greed is Good)

2. Competition is necessary
3. Unlimited wants- limited resources ( freedom to consume) 4. Time is money 5. Networking, not family, friends 6. Caring and sharing only with a few 7. Survival of the fittest ('Winner Takes All' ) 8. Nature to be Conquered 9. Success is a measure of excellence

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Towards a New World View (Paradigmatic Shift)

Proposed

1. Need based conscious consumption

2. Realization & Understanding are the point of departure 3. Existence = Co existence = Relationship of mutual fulfilment 4. Self knowledge (human Being = Self + Body) 5. Primacy of continuity of happiness (Harmony = Happiness)

6. Clarity of goals at every level of existence 7. Relationship ... in mutual fulfillment with all 8. 'Excellence' is understanding harmony in existence and living accordingly 9. Education: Selfexploration of the harmony in existence 10. Relationship with nature : Mutual fulfillment

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Life is Need-basednot Want-based. Life is Need-basednot Want-based.

Legs down to the Earth Desires have no ends. Simplicity is way of life. & Eyes looking beyond the Sky 'Legs down to the Earth and Eyes looking beyond the Sky'

PREVAILING NOTIONS OF HAPPINESS & PROSPERITY

1.

By maximizing accumulation and consumption of physical facilities.

accumulation

This is an attempt to achieve happiness through pleasant sensory interactions

The physical facilities are not seen in term of fulfilling needs But As a means of maximizing happiness .

Keep buying, happiness is round the corner

This has resulted in wrong assessment of want for Physical facilities as being unlimited>>>>>

This pursuit is self-defeating. Neither can we hope to achieve continuous happiness through sensory interactions nor can we have prosperity. This effort is engendering problems at all the levels:
It is becoming anti-ecological and antipeople, and threatening the human survival itself.

Some of the consequences of such a trend are summarized: >>>>

1. At the level of individual ---Rising problems of depression, psychological disorders, suicides, stress, insecurity, psychometric diseases, loneliness .

2. At the level of Family -----Breaking of joint families, mistrust, conflict between older and younger generations, insecurity in relationships, divorce, dowry tortures, family feuds, wasteful expenditures in family functions

3. At the level of society --Growing incidences of terrorism, naxalism and communalism racial & ethnic struggle, genocide, fear of nuclear and generic warfare, etc.

4.

At the level of nature ---

Global warming, water, soil, noise etc. pollution, Resource depletion of

minerals, and mineral oils, sizeable deforestations, loss of fertility of soil.

It is therefore, calls for an urgent need for human beings

to correctly understand Happiness and Prosperity as well

as the sustainable way to achieve these.

Understanding the Human

Being as Co-existence
of

Self (I) and Body

Human Being is more than just the Body

Human Being

Body

Alive-ness

(I)

In co-existence with

RIGHT UNDERSTANDING in the self

1 RELATIONSHIPS with human beings and Nature

2 PHYSICAL FACILITIES with rest of nature

For animals: necessary & complete For human beings: necessary but not complete

MUTUAL HAPPINESS

MUTUAL PROSPERITY

1 RIGHT UNDERSTANDING in the self

Human Consciousness

2 RELATIONSHIPS with human beings

3 PHYSICAL FACILITIES with rest of nature

Animal Consciousness

MUTUAL HAPPINESS

MUTUAL PROSPERITY

Transformation& Progress

All our unhappiness, all our discomforts , all our unease is because of this contradiction within between what we are and what we really want to be.
Each one of us is faced with contradictions and problems in various aspects of life --Contradictions within ourselves, In our behaviour with people, In our interactions and thoughts about society, In our interactions and notions about nature. and

On careful self-exploration , we find that we are being driven by a number of assumptions/beliefs which are contrary to our natural acceptance and they cause contradiction within us.

2nd Basic Aspiration: Prosperity

Myth: It is related to material things or physical facilities only (physical concept). When we are able to cater to our physical needs infinitely, we feel prosperous.

Difference between ..Wealthiness and Prosperity???

prosperity

Wealthy but Not prosper

Basic needs (line) Prosper

Prosperity is a mental concept

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Purpose of education: A fulfilling life, in harmony with oneself, with family, society and nature.

Hence it becomes the primary responsibility of the teaching community/educators to enable the resolution of these issues, so that human society

can achieve the cherished goals of peace and harmony.

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What do you want to be?

Wealthy or Prosperous

Life is Need-basednot Want-based. Life is Need-basednot Want-based.

Legs down to the Earth Desires have no ends. Simplicity is way of life. & Eyes looking beyond the Sky 'Legs down to the Earth and Eyes looking beyond the Sky'

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Proper connectivity at following levels will ensure happiness

At the human (Self ) level At the human relationships in the family

At the human relationships in the society

At the level of nature

And Prosperity which will be ensured by taking the steps in the right direction Towards achievement of worthy goals and inculcating feeling of richness.

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EXISTENCE ALONE IS NOT SUCCESS!

RELATIONSHIP
PROSPERITY

INNER

HAPPINESS

HEALTH

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