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Self-concept: Picture or perception of ourselves Self Esteem: Feelings we have about ourselves
Self-ideal: The way we would like to be
INFANCY
When parents fulfill baby's needs, baby feels loved
Feed Dry diaper Being held This begins development of good self-esteem
LOVE
Babies have been known to die from not being touched
CHILDHOOD:PRE-SCHOOL YEARS
SCHOOL AGE
Peers begin to be very important in terms of their acceptance and approval
Why aren't you as smart or pretty or athletic as your brother? Are you going to be a goof-off like your brother?
CONDITIONAL LOVE
Love with strings attached I will love you if If you behave If you get good grades If you play football
UNCONDITIONAL LOVE
I love you for yourself Because you are unique Because you are worthwhile This is how GOD LOVES US
SELF-ESTEEM
Feel good about who I am Ability to stand up for what I believe Enjoy happiness about being yourself
How much do you believe in your self? On a piece of paper write down the percentage of how much you believe in yourself. 100%? 75%? 50%?
What are you achieving with that percentage? What would happen if you believed in yourself 25% more?
Dreams and self belief are free. You can take all you want and walk away.
Leader to others
Appreciate life
REPAIR KIT
IN ELDER AGE
Accept yourself: Stop worrying about the things you cant change. Be more accepting of others and the things they cant change.
Try not to compare with others. Its unfair. You may compare their strengths with your weaknesses. Judge yourself in terms of your own growth
Have Realistic Expectations We expect to much from ourselves. Perfection is not possible but bettering ourself should be a lifetime goal. We grow with models who appear to be perfect at everything. Heros are good to look at but they have their problems too.
There are two different people in the world. One that says I wish I had and the one that says Im glad I did. Remember you can have anything in this world if you just believe in yourself.
Attitude
"Your attitude is more important than your aptitude in determining your altitude" (i.e., whether you have high self-esteem and happiness) according to Zig Ziglar.
Strengths
Find out what you do the best and build or improve on it. Spending time doing the things you enjoy and are good at. Keep a portfolio or scrapbook of your successes and strengths. Find a way to showcase your achievements in an appropriate way.
Associates
Associate with people of high selfesteem and those who generally care about you (e.g., friends, family, mentors). You only need one adult who really believes in you and from whom you gather strength.
Positive Input
Watch your language and eliminate negative selftalk (e.g., putting yourself down or comments that discourage you). Your mind acts on what you feed it. If you put negative information in, you will get negative information out. Constantly seek to put into your mind information that will result in growth. Listen to self-esteem experts on videotapes or audiotapes or read their books. Learning is a life-long journey.
Self-Knowledge
Identify your personal interests, strengths, weaknesses. How would you describe yourself? What adjectives would you like others to describe you? Take time to learn about your ethnic heritage. Read books about people who share that ethnic background.
Self-Advocacy
If you have a disability, you eventually must develop the maturity, self-esteem, and confidence to take responsibility for it. You need to be informed about what it is, be aware of how it affects you, know what you can do about it, and what accommodations to which you are entitled. For example, if you have a reading disability, you may need to have tests read to you, books on audiotape, or extended time on tests. It might not be appropriate for you to have to read aloud in class.
Problem-Solving
Feel more empowered by thinking of different solutions to a problem.
"Dream
Cope
Learn to cope with adversity in life. It can strengthen you. The community leader, the self-made millionaire, and the homeless person all faces frustration, defeat, disappointment, and sadness, but they have a different reaction to the negatives of life. We can't control the situations which confront us, but we can control our reactions to them.
Connect
Connect yourself to something bigger than yourself such as joining a club, organization, a religious group (if you are a person of faith, a team, et cetera).
Be Well-Rounded
Build your self-esteem by being wellrounded. Do not have "all of your eggs in one basket." Learn several skills. Cultivate many interests and many close relationships. Help many people and causes. Like smart stock market investors, put your money in many businesses so if one or two decline in performance, others will make money.
Get Motivated
If you want to get motivated, determine how dissatisfied you are about a situation. This can inspire you to change. Another way to become enthusiastic is to learn everything you can about something--whether it's a topic, a
job, a sport, or a hobby.