TEENAGE COMPANIONSHIP

The teen years lasts between the age 12 and 18, during which many biological, cognitive,
social and personality traits change from childlike to adult like.
Adolescents get themselves involved in so many kind of relationship within this period as
passionate relationships, companionate relations, and love relationships. Passionate
relationships entail mainly the individual’s continuous thinking about the loved one
which is usually accompanied by sexual feelings and emotional reactions.
Companionate relationship involves trusting and having tender feelings for someone very
close .It also involves a level of intimacy.
Love relationship involves trusting and having tender feelings for someone very close it
involves a level of intimacy.
Love relationships deal with extreme passion i.e. infatuation, romantic attraction,
intimacy and so on.
But major focus is on teenage companionate relationship. A companionship means a
friendly and comfortable relationship between two or more individuals.
Teenagers easily make companions.This is not where the problem lies, the problem lies
where the teenager cannot dwell on the positive side of the relationship. By this I mean
where the teenager fails to evaluate the relationship.
Most teenagers get hurt because they fall victim easily to wrong relationships especially
teenage girls. When companionship starts giving way to attraction and fondness then
utmost care needs to be taken. Most times such individuals are advised to see a counselor
instead o giving in to the attraction, assuming that they found true love without thinking
of the consequences.
Jide never told Clara he was going to date her. They were just good friends along –the
line, Clara wanted more than friendship from Jide. At the end of the day, Jide had to stay
away from her because he already had his own girlfriend and never had feelings for her
Rita was very close to her cousin. One day they were caught kissing by her parents and
were severely punished. But until they were both separated they never stopped
committing sexual atrocities with each other.
The above instances are as a result of long companionship which degenerated to
fondness mistaken to be love. Some companionship does give way to love. In such rates
The individuals involved are advised to keep away from immoral acts between each other
so as to remain chaste and not suffer evil consequences. During this period of time they
might even discover if they were truly in love or blinded by infatuation because of the
extreme closeness.
If you have a companion, especially one of the opposite sex, ask yourself the following
questions,
 Who is he \she to me?
 Do I know everything I need to know about him of her?
 Is there any motive behind the relationship?
 Is the relationship parasitic or symbiotic?
 Am I deceiving this person or am I being deceived?
 Do I really think its worth while being close to this person?
 Am I attracted to this person?
The answers to this question is the solution to whether your relationship with the
individual will yield beneficial and good results, if your answer to the last question is yes
it is better you see a counselor or you keep reasonable distance from the individual for a
certain period until you are very sure you can handle such attraction.
Teenagers are youngsters who are always eager to know each other better. Often times
than this leads to companionship which when developed with utmost maturity and
chastity yields memorable outcomes.
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