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of traffic. In some ways, the city never seems to change, even as it’s
constantly changing: a schizo mix of glossy new high-rise condo
towers, side by side with nineteenth- century arch-windowed
stone houses with graceful balconies draped in geraniums and fra-
grant jasmine and gardenia, and bombed-out shells of old houses
and hotels destroyed in the war, all lined up along the narrow
winding streets flanked by pink bougainvillea bushes and bright
green Sukleen dumpsters, the neighborhoods ringed by multilane
autostradas wrapping around and through the city, and every-
where brand-new Ferraris and SUVs, and beat-up 1970s Mercedes
and Peugeots, and street vendors pushing wheelbarrows through
the traffic, and young messenger boys on mopeds riding up on
the sidewalks. Honking and yelling from car windows every-
where, the mournful and sweet ballads of the singer Fairuz, the
iconic voice of Lebanon, competing with Method Man thumping
out heavy hip-hop jams from the next car over. Running along-
side all this daily mayhem, and curving around the Beirut coast-
line on the city’s north and west sides: the glittering bright blue
Mediterranean.
The Corniche, the wide and busy promenade along the wa-
terfront, looks out onto the magical sea. Now, in August, women
in string bikinis are lounging at luxurious beach clubs just steps
below the Corniche, while others wear full head-to-toe hijabs and
stroll along the sidewalk, jockeying for space with hell-on-wheels
skater dudes and spandex-wearing cyclists and miniskirted young
women and elderly street vendors selling sesame bread and fresh-
squeezed pomegranate juice while, down on the rocky shore, the
Mediterranean waves roll and splash.
That sea has, for centuries, brought so much destruction to
Beirut, from the ships bearing invaders and their weapons—the
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this disoriented and down. My head is pounding from jet lag, and
everything in me aches, from my feet to my neck to my heart to the
inside of my brain.
I allow just one what the fuck am I doing here? self-laceration
tonight, as I’m opening my suitcase and taking out a nightshirt to
sleep in.
The doubts come crashing in: What am I doing? I’m leaving
behind my close friends, and a New York life I love, and a relation-
ship that might have a future, and I’m turning my entire reality upside
down for—what? To relive my childhood, to recapture a life that was
interrupted so long ago? Shouldn’t my childhood be over already, damn
it? Beirut was just an early, long-gone chapter of my life. The New
York life I’ve worked so hard to build is the now, the present, the real-
ity. Isn’t it?
But if that’s true, then why is my relationship with Beirut,
which sometimes feels like yet another one of the volatile on-again
off-again romances in my life, still unresolved? Why do I crave a
final reckoning with this place?
I need to do this, I remind myself, and I need to do it now.
Before I make any firmer commitments in New York, or to Rich-
ard if we make it that far, and before I potentially have kids (I’m
thirty-eight, so I’m not breaking any speed records on that front),
I need to make sure I’m living in the right place and that my head,
on this one issue anyway, is straight.
Despite my smooth journey from New York, and a loving
cousin and aunt who filled my fridge and drove me home from the
airport and kept me company over dinner, my first night in Bei-
rut sucks. I wake up at five o’clock to the sound of water crashing
down on my dresser. It’s cold water from the air-conditioning sys-
tem backing up through the pipes into my bedroom—a problem
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but not far enough. I sit in bed as the hour turns six, then seven,
and listen to cars start their compulsive honking on the already
trafficky streets below, and hear shopkeepers clanking open their
aluminum shutters.
I’m hungry again, exhausted, sleepless and sad, and I need se-
rious comfort food. A little after seven, I walk out in search of the
breakfast I’m craving, a man’ouche. I find it at a tiny old bakery
around the corner from my building. This is the seminal Beirut
breakfast: doughy flatbread smeared with olive oil and zaatar—a
spice mix of sumac, thyme, and sesame seeds—and served hot,
straight from the oven. I like mine slathered with labneh, the
creamy yogurt-cheese. My head is a mess, but my mouth, my eyes,
my stomach, they’re really enjoying this man’ouche, this warm,
life-giving morning bread. I could eat this every single day, for-
ever. No body-sculpting or health expert would ever advise such
a thing, and I don’t care—well, maybe just a little, but definitely
not today.
After going back to bed until noon post-man’ouche, but failing
to make up for the night’s insomnia, I take a long hot shower and
decide to spend my first day exploring a little bit instead of nap-
ping and crying alone in the apartment, a powerful temptation.
I set out on a stroll around the Hamra neighborhood, to get my
bearings again, and as I take tentative steps down forgotten blocks
and get a little lost, I’m sure I look like a clueless tourist despite
my Lebanese olive skin, dark-brown eyes, and long brown hair.
I walk along a half-dozen of the crammed side streets shooting
off from the main Hamra Street drag, poke into bookstores and
record shops and clothing stores old and new, too zoned out to
pay much attention to the merchandise as I spacily pick things up
and put them back down, just to feel my body moving, feel myself
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somehow interacting with city life, even if I’ll need at least a half-
night’s sleep, after all the travel, to function at a minimal level.
On my way back to the apartment, I reintroduce myself to the
aging grocer and his wife who own the small, cluttered food shop
on the ground floor of my building, and to the hunched man who
has run the stationery store down the street since my mom was
a teenager, and to the tall white-haired man, reportedly a star of
Egyptian films in his youth, who opened a flower shop across the
street some decades ago. I muster enough pep for a few sputterings
of “Hi! I’m back to live here now. It’s been so long, I know. How
are things?” They’re all surprised I’m back. Life in Lebanon is not
easy; why would I leave America? But they all greet me warmly,
give me a cheek kiss or an affectionate pat on the back. “Ahla w’
sahla!” Welcome back!
Not much accomplished in one day, but I’m already sapped
and it’s only midafternoon. I return to the apartment, field some
checking-in phone calls from Josette and from my mom’s sister-
in-law Nouhad upstairs, who passes by later in the day to sit with
me a bit and welcome me back to Beirut and to the building, and
smiles when she sees I look drained.
“We’ll get together and catch up properly this week, whenever
you like. And just come by or call anytime. So wonderful having
you here.” She hugs me, her pixie-short hair brushing my cheek.
The leftovers from last night are even more welcome right now,
and after heating up some dinner, I climb into bed with a copy of
Alain De Botton’s tongue-in-cheek self-help book How Proust Can
Change Your Life, based loosely on the life and writings of Marcel
Proust. Each of the five times I’ve read the slim little volume, I’ve
felt I’d stumbled into the best head-straightening drug.
I flip to the chapter titled “How to Suffer Successfully”:
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friends and for Richard, and I don’t have much of a life or routine
to speak of yet in Beirut—I haven’t mustered the energy to pick
up the phone much. A catch-22.
One blue afternoon—clear sky outside, stubborn blues in my
head—my aunt Zelfa calls. She lives in London, but this week
she’s passing through Beirut with her husband, Randal, her father,
Cecil, and her daughter and son, Soumaya and Skandar, the latter
better known as Skandar Keynes, the teen heartthrob who played
Edmund in the Narnia films.
I’m looking forward to seeing them, my witty and tirelessly
well-traveled British relatives. It’s been a few years since I last saw
Skandar, when Zelfa invited me to hang out on the red carpet at
the New York City premiere of The Lion, the Witch, and the Ward-
robe. (I’d mostly gawked at Tilda Swinton and was, of course, ut-
terly ignored by the photographers.) Skandar, a serious-minded
university student back in England, is also the one person in our
family to have somehow stumbled into Hollywood fame, and he’s
barely in his twenties.
For the most part, the rest of my clan has never been prone to
the glamorous life or been exceptionally good at making money.
But a few people in my family are prominent in their fields. Be-
sides Edward Said and the Keynses—Randal, an author, is a
descendant of both Charles Darwin and John Maynard Keynes—
there’s the late, renowned Oxford historian Albert Hourani, my
mother’s uncle. He was the author of a number of scholarly works
including History of the Arab Peoples, a serendipitous bestseller
since it happened to be released just as the first Iraq War kicked off
in 1990. A handful of business-savvy, charismatic relatives, both
here and abroad, run the international food-production companies
Cortas and Clic, which may be where I got the food gene. And a
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number of uncles, aunts, and cousins lead low-key lives but are
brilliant historians, political scientists, mathematicians, physicists,
and doctors. Many are based in Europe or the States, although a
few in my generation have returned to Beirut to raise their kids
and pursue their careers in Lebanon.
As we chat on the phone, Zelfa asks me to drop by the apart-
ment where she and her family are staying on their Beirut visit. I
walk over to catch up with them over tea. They want to know how
I’m holding up so far, and I tell them about my somewhat rocky
first couple of weeks in Beirut. Skandar tells me about his stint
filming another Narnia sequel on Australia’s Gold Coast. An hour
later his sister Soumaya, restless with the whole parent-sibling
scene, asks me to walk off with her to a café to play backgam-
mon. I’ve only played backgammon, a staple of old-man village
life in Lebanon, once in my life. She’s dying for a game. I’m not
sure why a recent Cambridge graduate with a posh British accent
and a taste for trendy clothes is so addicted to backgammon, but I
learn that her grandfather taught her to play. She ends up playing
both her and my sides of the board, after we find one on a shelf at a
café nearby. I haven’t spent this much time with her since she was
much younger, but I already love her sharp wit and glowing smile,
peeking out from under a mass of curly brown hair. Alas, she’s
headed back to England in a few days.
Spending that time with Soumaya, even just a couple of hours
fumbling through a backgammon game and taking a stroll after-
ward, has an unexpected effect on me. Soumaya spent the entire
summer living in Beirut and studying Arabic, and she got to know
some great little hangouts around Hamra. One is the café where
we’d played backgammon, a cozy little spot with fragrant cof-
fee and classic Arabic music on the sound system, and I’m eager
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New York it wasn’t so easy to find at the time, although that’s im-
proved lately. Some mornings I like to make coffee at home, while
other days I’m eager to get out the door first thing. On those days,
I pick up coffee to go and cling to the warm cup like a security
blanket, nursing it for as long as I can as I slide into the day.
So far in Beirut, my caffeine routine is still up in the air. Some-
times at home I brew Arabic coffee—stirring spoonfuls of the
ground dark-roast beans into a small iron kettle filled with water
and letting it boil three times. Arabic coffee is meant for drinking
in tiny porcelain cups though, black or with a speck of sugar, and
I prefer to have a shot or two as a postmeal digestive. In the morn-
ings, I like my coffee milkier and in a bigger cup. But despite the
recent influx of American-style takeout coffee spots in Beirut, I’m
having a hard time finding a place that serves decent drip coffee or
milky espresso drinks to go.
A few blocks from my apartment is a place called Café Younes,
the flagship coffee shop of an old Beirut brand of coffee beans,
and I adore it for its smells and its Beirutness and its history.
On visits here in past summers, I’ve stopped in just to inhale the
roasty smell. I love walking through the narrow Hamra streets
to Younes, gazing at the antique coffee-making equipment in-
side, lounging at the outdoor tile tables under the big shade trees,
smelling the aromas wafting out the door, and drinking small cups
of Arabic coffee in the afternoon. In the past couple of weeks, I’ve
experimented with their coffee-bean varieties and picked out a
few that brew up beautifully in the French press at home. But I’ve
found Younes’s takeout coffee unfortunately mediocre, lukewarm,
and flat-tasting on the days I’ve tried it.
So my search for good-to-go coffee continues. Morning after
morning I walk through the busy streets around my apartment.
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The main Hamra Street drag was once the site of boisterous cafés
that attracted intellectuals and artists from all over Beirut, Cairo,
Alexandria, Baghdad, and Istanbul in the 1950s and 1960s, and
was a beating heart of the era’s artistic and literary and political
movements. Since that street and the surrounding neighborhood
near the apartment took a heavy drubbing during the civil war,
many buildings are now dilapidated, the bombing damage still vis-
ible, or else they’ve been torn down to make way for condo tow-
ers and shiny retail chain stores. Now international coffee chains
line the main street—Starbucks, Costa, Caribou—occupying the
spaces where legendary Beirut cafés like Horseshoe and Modca
used to sit. Funny enough, I’ve noticed that the new chains at-
tract groups of elderly men who sit around all day, nursing cup
after cup of Arabic coffee and debating politics, just as locals used
to do in the old days. It’s as if these lifelong Hamra habitués are
willfully ignoring the sterile furniture and décor of the new chain
cafés and thinking: As long as there’s a coffee shop on the corner where
we can gather and drink coffee and talk all day, then good enough.
On my coffee search, I’ve ducked into the Starbucks on Hamra
Street now and then; unsurprisingly, a latte here tastes exactly
like it does in SoHo or on the Upper West Side. But it feels a
little shameful to get into the Starbucks habit in Beirut. I’m not
crazy about the coffee at the British chain Costa, which tastes dull
or burnt to me most days, but the coffee at Caribou I find I like
quite a bit: it’s strong, with the fresh-roasted smell I crave. The
Minnesota-based chain, its Hamra branch furnished with leather
club chairs and a faux fireplace, is a more recent arrival in the
neighborhood, and it’s just a three-minute walk from my apart-
ment, so I’ve been succumbing. I feel weird buying American
chain-store coffee in a city with such a historic coffee shop culture,
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however they want, but they are still struggling for equal rights
and a voice in government. And as an adult woman here, if you’re
not married—or if you’re married but don’t have kids—you’ll be
made well aware that you’re living an alternative lifestyle. In some
conservative families and more traditional villages, unmarried or
childless women are harassed and shamed. Premarital sex, though
widely practiced here, is still secretive. As a single woman in my
thirties, I wondered before I arrived whether my status would
be considered risqué here, even in the twenty-first century—or
whether there are more women here like me now, taking their time
with big decisions and trying to make choices that feel authentic
and meaningful, rather than caving in to social and family pres-
sures. Is my lifestyle going to fly in a place like Beirut? I’ve wondered.
Too early to tell.
Well, at least I’ve finally sorted out the coffee problem. What-
ever nasty looks or interrogations come my way, I’ll be caffein-
ated enough to have a fighting chance.
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