INTRODUCTION

We've all lost someone in our lives and it's been tough to deal with. Memories resurface from time to time and make adjustment that much more difficult. Losing someone close or something important to you is a very emotional experience to go through and not something that should be done alone. We want that we live as long as possible; still we wonder what will happen to us when we die. This is just like a jigsaw puzzle that is very hard to solve. We do have many questions about the life and death of human being. Then, when our loved ones die, we mourn. And we may ask: What has happened to them? Are they suffering? Are they watching over us? Can we help them? Will we ever see them again? Imagine that you are running away from a vicious enemy. He is much stronger and faster than you are. You know that he is merciless because you have seen him kill some of your friends. No matter how hard to be outrun him, he keeps getting closer. There seems to be no hope. Suddenly, through, rescuers appear at your side. He is far more powerful than your enemy, and he promises to help you. How relieved that makes you feel. In a sense, you are being pursued by such an enemy. All of us are. None can of us outrun death or fight it off, it is our destiny. As the last enemy, death is to be brought to nothing. When one of your loved one is gone, you will feel the pain, the grief, and the feelings of helplessness can seem unbearable. This is very painful, it is very hard to ease the pain in your heart then sometimes you want to die too. At such times, we need to go to Gods Word for comfort. He is the only one who can understand what we feel and can comfort us. The account tells us that Jesus joined Lazarus relatives and friends as they grieved over this loss. Seeing them, Jesus was deeply moved. Still, he felt the pain and sorrow about the death of his friend but Jesus knew that something wonderful was about to happen. So he gave way to tears. But what death really means? Based on research, death is the termination of the biological functions that sustain a living organism. It refers both to the particular

processes of life's cessation as well as to the condition or state of a formerly living body. The nature of death has been for millennia a central concern of the world's religious traditions and of philosophical enquiry, and belief in some kind of afterlife or rebirth has been a central aspect of religious belief. In modern scientific enquiry, the origin and nature of consciousness has yet to be fully understood; any such view about the existence or non-existence of consciousness after death therefore remains speculative. What if this situation happens to me? Am I really prepared for this? How I want my family, friends and the people around me to remember me when Im gone? We could say that people refuse neither to think nor to talk about this situation. You know what? I never really thought a whole lot about how I want to be remembered when I'm gone. Who wants to think about being gone? It doesn't scare me in any way because I know I'm going to Heaven when I die, but I don't tend to want to think about being gone. I have so much I want to be able to share before I go. I start to share it now.

How I want people to remember me when Im gone?

When I am gone, though, I hope people will remember me for being a good hearted and fun person. I want the fact that I am a Christian who will be living in Heaven to make people smile for me and not be sad. I want everyone to remember my love and devotion to my family, friends and the people around me. I want my compassion for living a good life to be appreciated and not laughed at, and I hope my future children will continue to help them as I have. I want everyone to miss me and to wish I could be here, but I don't want to make people sad. I want them to realize how worthy the life is in this Earth. Then I will see them when they reach the fantastic destination that I have already made it to. I hope people will remember how forgiving I am. It's a trait that I love about myself. I don't believe in holding grudges and I forgive very easily, so I hope that part of me lives on. Though its a fact that people always remember those bad things we have done to others, still I want them to appreciate the kindness, caring and the relentless love I have

shown to them. We all wish that they would remember us a good person who ones touches their lives and made them feel very special even for a short while of living. I want them to inculcate to their minds all those values of life I taught to them and remember me as the person who appreciates their existence, who taught them to live their lives to the fullest with all respect to humanity and with dignity and pride to themselves. Thats how I want them to remember me and though I wont be there for them for the rest of their lives somehow they would remember me as a unique person.

How I want my family to remember me when Im gone?

My family that I have right now is the one who introduce the world to me since I was in a cradle. At the very beginning they are the ones who protected me from danger or harm that existed in this world. They were patiently in raising me to be a good child in our family. I was so afraid about the world because of its challenges waiting for me. And yet my family gave all those support for their child in order for me to be physically, spiritually, emotionally and mentally prepared. I undergo all those challenges that a normal child has gone through as I grow up. All the trials, hardships I have experienced in my life that I all surpassed with the presence of my family they never left me when all things are going wrong. I was so happy that even though Im weak and about to give up still they still believe on my abilities and skills that I have gained in my entire life. They pushed me hard with all those advise that made me strong and continue striving to reach the peak of success. I was trained hard and they bestowed upon me the right education needed in order to reach all my dreams in life. It was hard to undergo painful sharpening to make you strong and be well prepared to the demands of life. With all the imperfections, dangers and challenges that we face through our family is there to back you up and give you strength. I consider them as my source of strength, desire and determination to stand up and face the world with hope and love. And Im very proud that I have a kind of family who is worth to be loved and to be appreciated.

But before the sunset comes to my life I want myself to be remembered as a gift that they have received from God who is vulnerable from everything. A child who brings happiness and love to the world, a child that was influenced by good and who has overcome evil. A human who let his own family guide and mold him to be the kind of person they want to be. In the end they would realized that all the sweats, tears and blood used in investing a good future to their child were all worth it. Though I will be apart from them and return back to my Creator we would feel the same way; happy and contented in life. In the end you can see a flow of tears at the corner of their eyes but I surely know that it will last with a smile on their face and bring back the glory and praise to the Lord because they were given the opportunity to prove how good they were and they have played well their role in this Earth.

How I want my friends to remember me when Im gone? Friends are the people whom we shared all the laughters and tears that we had

in our lives. They are the ones who were there to support, cheer us up whenever we are weary. We shared happy and bad moments with them, we were influenced by this people with great knowledge about life and we were once feel that we belong and we are accepted despite of our imperfections as a unique human being. We are all happy to have friends though sometimes we cant understand each other. But in the end of a fight or misunderstandings you can see your friends in our side, who are willing to stay beside us even the world turns its back to us. True friends wont leave us through thick and thin. In all the challenges of life, friendship is a kind of relationship that will last forever its like a relationship that we have with our Creator which is immeasurable and endless. With all the good memories I want them to remember me as a friend who played a big role in their lives. A person that can never be forget for all those things Ive done to them, I want them to remember all the times that we spent together to understand and appreciate life through the existence of each other. Indeed, life is worthy especially when you know you have friends but its really hard to do good things in or order for

them to remember us. However if we do good things to our friends it is surely that they will treasure all the memories we shared t o them. But not only those good memories to be remembered but all also those situations in our lives wherein I messed up and they would realize that they stayed with me and help me out with all shortcomings that I had. The time they will reminisce everything about me they would laugh at it and realized how good they were as a friend of mine. I want them to know how good they were in showing affection and in influencing me to be the right person that I supposed to be. How I wish that before I die I would be given the chance to express my deepest gratitude to my friends and I would let them know how happy I was to have them in my life and for accepting me as a different individual with unique abilities and attitudes towards life. I want my friend to remember me as one of his greatest friend. I would appreciate if he gives little space in his heart for me.

This is a poem that I want to dedicate to my dearest friend when Im gone for him to remember me. In the lines of the poem symbolizes our friendship in all years that we are together. The line symbolizes the gratitude I feel when one of our friends was lost. Hes always there when I need someone when I have problem. He always shares some corny jokes when we are together. I can lean on to him when people around me are not good. I can trust him whatever I do. Hes always at my back when problems push me down. I want to thank him to all the help that what he have done for me. And I really appreciate his efforts and pieces of advices.

Memories of yesterdays gone Coz you came into my life It was not just a coincidence But we have meet coz Theres no reason behind it Now I knew that I have found a companion For the new journey of life

Someone who would stay, No matter how the road turned Or when it took us, Im so very thankful, On the day that Ive met you Thank you for adding color And joy to my life I know there will be more Wonderful things to look Forward as time goes by, THANK YOU so much my dear FRIEND

How I want people to remember me as a member of workplace (in hotel) when Im gone?

Have you lost a loved one in death? The pain, the grief and the feelings of helplessness can seem unbearable. Workplace like hotel would give you friends that you can lean on. A hotel is an establishment that provides paid lodging on a short-term basis. The provision of basic accommodation, in times past, consisting only of a room with a bed, a cupboard, a small table and a washstand has largely been replaced by rooms with modern facilities, including en-suite bathrooms and air conditioning or climate control. Additional common features found in hotel rooms are a telephone, an alarm clock, a television, a safe, a mini-bar with snack foods and drinks, and facilities for making tea and coffee. Luxury features include bathrobes and slippers, a pillow menu, twin-sink vanities, and Jacuzzi bathtubs. Larger hotels may provide additional guest facilities such as a restaurant, swimming pool, fitness center, business center, childcare, conference facilities and social function services. Hotel rooms are usually numbered to allow guests to identify their room. Some hotels offer meals as part

of a room and board arrangement. In the United Kingdom, a hotel is required by law to serve food and drinks to all guests within certain stated hours. As a Hotel Restaurant Management (HRM) student, I am deeply encouraged to work in a place like hotel, to serve people. After few years I will be graduated, and work in some institution or company it is nice to work and deal to the other people. We dont need too much effort to be remembered by other people in our workplace. We all need to do, is to make our duty, and concentrate what we are doing. Working hard can build ourselves and can make our determination to gain more skills that we wanted to learn from our experiences. People just like guest in a hotel only want a good work for you to be appreciate and remembered by others. One of the key to become a good worker in a workplace is always smile to the guest or the people in your environment. Dont become so arrogant in working with them, which is not a good attitude that a person must possess. Instead be cheerful and friendly with them. You must cooperate to the activities and share your ideas if needed. As hotel personnel we should be polite in making some greeting to the people around us. For example by saying HELLO this is probably the most common form of greeting in the English- speaking world. By saying this kind of greeting, people already appreciates us and we will be known in the organization if we are polite and kindheartedness. As a member of the organization must be actively demonstrate how they can work together to attain common objectives, undertake innovative practices. As a person with many friends, I want them to remember me as a funny person that I was there when they have problem, when they need someone to talk to and to lean on. I hope my friends would not forget me as a good person to them. The way we dress also conveys a good non verbal communication. Women and men employees of certain companies of different restaurant wear uniforms that tell us where they work. A man who wears a chef dress tells us much about himself that he is a good cooker, even if he doesnt speak. So as the woman wearing a nice and formal

dress tells that she is a good receptionist. Non-verbal communication is another way for us to be remembered in our workplace such as hotel. All day long, we communicate non-verbally with our guest, customer, and with those around us. Sometimes we do so knowingly. Most often, we are not aware that we are silently revealing ourselves to others.

How I want people to remember me as a member of community when Im gone?

In biological terms, a community is a group of interacting organisms sharing a populated environment.In human communities, intent, belief,resources, preferences, ne eds, risks, and a number of other conditions may be present and common, affecting the identity of the participants and their degree of cohesiveness. In sociology, the concept of community has led to significant debate, and sociologists are yet to reach agreement on a definition of the term. There were ninety-four discrete definitions of the term by the mid-1950s. Traditionally a "community" has been defined as a group of interacting people living in a common location. The word is often used to refer to a group that is organized around common values and is attributed with social cohesion within a shared geographical location, generally in social units larger than a household. The word can also refer to the national community or international community. Community is a place wherein we built ourselves, to nurture our minds in a real life situation. It is responsible for the development of the values, attitudes, and habits that will be needed for the development. The community stands as one of the place that we mean most while we are getting older. The values that we learn in our community are the steps for us to achieve what we wanted. People in the community are the first one we meet first before we start our journey in our lives.

As a member in a one community we should follow the different rules and commands that they implement. Just like a robots that is programmed to follow every command, we as member in a community we should also follow the rules. This will be one step in our community that we can be remembered in our community as a one of the good citizen. Anyone could be remembered in the community, as children could be, or an old man or woman is possible too. It was on how people interact with each other, how their customs and traditions are are the same, on how their qualities, attitudes, and characteristics connect. In example, a little child could be remembered in a community, this is a fact. A five year old child in one place here in Philippines became a hero. In his age he already saves his baby brother from their burning house. He didnt hesitate to save his baby brother he run into the fire and cover the baby with cloth and run going out to the burning house. A normal citizen of a community could already help to build well his place. There are many things that we can do just to be known by others. We should just follow the rules and help our community to become stronger. We should cooperate and participate in the different activities in our place. We must deeply grateful to the things that we have in our community. The members of the community, in addition to the parents and relatives, like the government officials, the professionals and all residents are highly motivated to participate in the different activities and projects that will likewise redound to the uplifting of the moral and quality of life in their own locality. There are many activities in our own locality some of this that we can share our help is the: Peace and order, safety in public conveyances and compliance with ordinances afford ample protection and disciplinary measures deserved by all. Beautification of the community through tree planting in every household and cleanliness through proper waste disposal are voluntarily undertaken by both, thus creating a disciplined and wholesome community. We as a student and a resident in one community we can also help them to build our own locality by just setting seminars, we could ask for help to the professionals and practitioners from the community can are invited as a resource speakers during the said

seminars in the community. This will be a big help to the other people. Then we must have values just like values of nationalism, respect for authority and self-discipline to become modeled to the other people especially the young to follow. And we should have a strong spirit cooperation to be exhibited as well as sharing of expertise, and promoting a harmonious and enjoyable relationship.

Conclusion and Analysis We are just mortal and do not survive the death of our body. The life we enjoy is like the flame of a candle. When the flame is put out, it does not go anywhere. It is simply gone. When someone you love dies it can be devastating. You'll feel sad, angry, lonely, confused and even worried. It is an enormous event in life that changes life forever. You wish you could have that person back in your life with you. There are wonderful ways to keep this person a part of your daily experience even though they are no longer living. And as we shed our tears of grief for all those lives that have been cut short on our behalf, may these tears wash away some of our callousness and thus allow our essentially compassionate hearts to be responsive to the continuing, enormous, and needless suffering of our era. Turning our lives around does not mean some great, noble effort on our part. It simply means giving up our delusions and letting reality reign in our lives. This is the core message of the entire Christian Bible: Reality is for us. Reality is good for us. Reality is always at work to bring us to the glory of our real lives. So let us trust Reality and the gifts given to us. Let us be grateful for those who have died for us. Let us remember them as blessings who have blessed us with fresh embarrassment over our sin and with vivid callings to live our true greatness.