Comparison of human relations in Islam and modern world Islam laws regarding relation not only teaches individual

ways of maintaining life is in a perfect manner but also provides salvation in the after life. Its teachings highlight the standards in conduct with other human beings, regardless of their religion ethnicity, race, language or culture. For this very reason The Holy Quran forbids muslims to insult anything that is viewed as a deity by any religion, regardless of whether it is a person, a stone, a stick or a tree. The verse 2:256 of Quran says: Let there be no conclusion in religion: Truth stands out clear from Error: who ever rejects evil and believes in Allah has grasped the most trustworthy hand-hold that never breaks. And Allah hears and knows all things. Islam preaches justice in every relation to its adherent for instance in the verse 5:8 of The Quran it is clearly stated And do not let ill-will towards any folk incite you so that you swerve from dealing justly. Be just; that is nearest to heedfulness. Moreover Muslims are asked to be truthful, trustworthy, humble, kind and generous. They are asked to repel evil with goodness, control their anger, and be forgiving. Some of the sayings of Prophet (PBUH) are: To remove something harmful form the road is charity Charity erases sins just as water extinguishes fire. Show mercy to people on earth so that Allah will have mercy on you in heaven. Islam is a very modern religion in its own way and its the oldest religion that still give maximum liberty to both genders and clearly defines their obligation towards each other if they are brother, sister, husband, wife, parent child relation, and relations with your fellow beings. Relationship with the neighbors and fellow beings: Our Prophet (PBUH) has already stated a lot about how we are suppose to behave with others who are neighbor for instance:

0He is not a perfect believer, who goes to bed full and knows that his neighbor is hungry. Islam also teaches that you are not supposed to steal or do any act that can cause problems or tension for your neighbors and people around you. An Ansar (emigrant) came to Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) and said that he has recently purchased a house in a particular area and that his nearest person was such that he had no hope of any goodness from him and that he felt unsafe from his mischief. Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) told Imam Ali (as), Salman Al-Farsi, Abu Zar Ghaffari and Miqdad ibn Aswad to go to the Mosque and announce: "He is not a believer whose neighbor is unsafe from his mischief." They announced it thrice and then to Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) pointed towards forty doors to his right and forty to the left indicating that forty houses in every direction constitute ones neighborhood. One is obliged to observe their rights. We see this aspect in the modern world too. Rules are set which outline the way an individual living in a society should adhere to and if he or she violates them they are punished for it. For instance, if you are having parties regularly at your house and your neighbors are being affected by the noise. They will file complain against you in the police station. The police will come to your place and warn you about the consequences you will face if you continue your action. If you dont listen to police even then you get arrested and punished by the jury. This punishment can be in the form of jail or paying a certain amount to the neighbor whose life got affected by your action. More over racism is forbidden in Islam. The Quran teaches that superiority does not lie in race, color or any other feature, but in closeness to God and living by faith and morals. The Quran states this truth:

Mankind! We created you from a male and female, and made you into peoples and tribes so that you might come to know each other. The noblest among you in Gods sight is that one of you who best performs his duty. God is All-Knowing, All-Aware. (The Quran , 49:13) In another holy verse, God describes racism as the fanatical rage of the Time of Ignorance, and reveals to believers that He will protect them against this provocative ideology:

Those who disbelieve filled their hearts with fanatical rage the fanatical rage of the Time of Ignorance and God sent down serenity to His Messenger and to the believers, and obliged them to respect the formula of heedfulness which they had most right to and were most entitled to. God has knowledge of all things. (The Quran , 48:26) As the verse makes clear, God has divided people into different races and ethnic groups so that they can get to know one another and live in peace, brotherhood and tolerance. In other words, contrary to what fascists think, different races and ethnic groups are not a tool for Social Darwinist conflict and struggle for survival. There can be no question of biological superiority among different races and ethnic groups. God ascribes the only superiority among human beings to closeness to Him, and living in faith and morality. In a condition where people adhere to the Quran, therefore, there will be no conflict of race, color or tribe, and claims of superiority on these grounds will never be able to find fertile ground to grow in. similarly in modern world racism is condemned in modern world. People, now a days, a trying to minimize it as much as they can. For that purpose many researches on racism has taken place. People are using mass media for this purpose. Relationship of husband and wife in Islam and modern world: Rights of women and man are vividly elaborated in Islam. In Surat Nisa Allah says : And give the women (on marriage) their dower as a free gift; but if they, of their own good pleasure, remit any part of it to you, Take it and enjoy it with right good cheer. In an other verse Allah shows that without women will a man is not suppose to marry her or take her by force. This worse is from the Surat An-Nisa verse 19. O ye who believe! Ye are forbidden to inherit women against their will. Nor should ye treat them with harshness, that ye may Take away part of the dower ye have given them,-except where they have been guilty of open lewdness; on the contrary live with them on a footing of kindness and equity. If ye take a dislike to them it may be that ye dislike a thing, and Allah brings about through it a great deal of good.

In accord to hadiths: The Holy Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) said: `The most perfect believer in faith is the one whose character is finest and who is kindest to his wife.' (Quotes on marriage from Tirmidhi and Nasa'i)

From the above hadiths and Quranic Verses open can say that Islam tell its followers to treat women kindly and give them every thing that you afford. More over it sets gifts for women from the day of her marriage in the form of haq meher which he should give her when ever she demands. Haq meher can be set according to the economical status of the man or it could be sharie which has already set. More over it tells the man not fore himself on women and only marry her when she also agrees to have him as his husband. The modern world also says that women should be allowed to choose her husband and the husband should be treating her kindly and properly. He should be respecting her and not forcing his opinions on the women whether she is his wife or not. There are laws in every court regarding the ill treatment of man to his wife and severe punishment in accord to the level of misbehavior with wife. In American and many other countries such as Canada after six months of marriage the wife becomes legally the owner of half of the property of the husband. Where in Islam they are already given what they want before starting a relationship. Parent child relationship: Islam recognizes family as a basic social unit. Along with the husband-wife relationship the Parent-child relationship is the most important one. To maintain any social relationship both parties must have some clear-cut Rights as well as obligations. The relationships are reciprocal. Duties of one side are the Rights of the other side. So in Parent-child relationship the Rights of parents are the obligations (duties) of the children and vice versa, the Rights of children are obligations (duties) of parents. It is clear that after Allah parents are the persons who give us innumerable favors. They provide protection, food and clothing to the newly born. The mother sacrifices her comforts and sleep to provide comfort to her children. The father works hard to provide for their physical, educational and psychological (and spiritual) needs. It is a matter of

common courtesy that if a person does you some favor you feel obliged to him. Verbally you say thank you to him. You try to repay and compensate him for his gifts and favors. You feel a sense of gratitude towards him. So it is with Allah and with parents. Allahs favors cannot be counted or repaid except by thanking Him and obeying His orders. After Allah our parents deserve our thanks and obedience for the favors they had done us. Quran lays stress on feeling grateful to parents, and doing good to them: . And your Lord has ordained that you shall worship none save Him and shall do your parents a good turn. The Holy Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) has also stated: Allah (Glory and Greatness be to Him) will not speak to three kinds of people on the day of judgement. Neither will He have mercy upon them, nor will He purify their sins. There is for them a horrible chastisement. The three types of people are the believers in destiny, the drunkards and those who disobeyed their parents. Or One who hurts his parents, hurts me and one who hurts me has hurt Allah (Glory and Greatness be to Him). And the one who hurts Allah (Glory and Greatness be to Him) is accursed. Or One who displeases the parents, (it is as if) he has displeased Allah (Glory and Greatness be to Him). One who angers both (mother and father) his parents (it is as if) he has angered Allah (Glory and Greatness be to Him). As between parents the mother has more rights than the father. The reason is apparent. Mother has borne the childs burden during pregnancy, has undergone birth pains in delivering the baby, has sacrificed her own comforts to provide comfort to her children, has looked after them and felt worried for their well-being. That is why mother deserves our good treatment more than the father. A Tradition of the Prophet (PBUH) tells us that a Companion asked the Prophet, Who deserves my good treatment most? Your mother, said the Prophet. Who next? Your

mother. Who next? Your mother. Who after that? Your father. This means that the mother deserves three times more good treatment from her children than the father deserves. Another Tradition wants us to extend kind treatment to close relations on the mothers side also (even to her friends). A famous Hadith (Tradition) says, Paradise lies under the feet of the mother. This means doing good to our mother lead us to Paradise.

Parents have a right to be respected and obeyed by children. All parents are well wishers of children. They issue orders and instructions that are in the best interest of children (though children might think otherwise). So it is the duty of children to obey their orders and act accordingly. Some children listen to parental orders but do not act upon these or show laziness in carrying out these orders. This causes annoyance to parents. Children should remember that annoying ones parents can lead to Gods wrath. It is instinctive obligation of parents to protect their children from physical and moral harm. If a small child puts its hand in fire it is natural urge for you to push the child back, even if the child does not want. It is in childs interest. So it is with parents. They are duty bound to protect their children in every way, physical, intellectual, moral. If the children have a temptation to do an act that is not in their long-term interest it is the duty of the parents to keep them back from that act or behavior. Parents have looked after the children for decades. So it is the duty of grown-up children to repay them by way of caring for them and looking to their physical and financial needs. A Quranic verse says: People ask you (O Prophet) how should they spend. Say, whatever you spend should be spent on Allah (in good cause), on parents, near relatives, on orphans, destitute and travelers (who fall short of money in foreign lands). As parents grow old their energies also decline. So it is the duty of children to help their parents in any household chore in which they can help. Sons can help in lifting heavy things, cleaning home, arranging things etc. Daughters can help in mothers household workcooking, washing, cleaning, serving food etc. With good children such help should come automatically, not when asked for. Whenever you see your mother or father doing something extend a helping hand to

her/him without their asking. This is what Islam expects from children. Quran urges children to be soft-spoken towards parents and show respect and kindness in their behavior towards parents. Unforunate as it is, the Western societies have forgotten these lessons. Young children are rude towards parents and show disobedience. As the parents grow old they drive them out from their homes and put them in Senior Citizens Homes. Grown up children cannot spare time to attend to the needs of old parents. The busy Western life has led to a break-up of the family unit (so much upheld in Islam). As Muslims we expect our children to adhere to Islamic values and show respect, obedience, kindness, leniency and care towards parents, especially in their old age. Children must not forget the favors and sacrifices of their parents. As good mannered persons they must feel and remain obliged towards parents and try to repay them by kind words and deeds, even with money and material needs. Children have the right to be fed, clothed and protected till they grow up to adulhood. It is, primarily, the duty of the father to do that. Mother can provide help if necessary. Protection means protection against physical as well as moral and intellectual harm. Parents are duty bound to see that the childs personality develops in all fields. So if the parents have to resort to strictness for the sake of disciplining the children and protecting them from intellectually, morally and religiously undesirable behaviour, children should not resent their strictness. Let them perform their duty as parents. Childrens duty is not to protest or be rude but to listen and obey. Theirs not to question why; theirs but to do and die.

Children have many psychological needs also. Small children need to be loved, caressed, kissed and hugged. The Prophet loved children greatly. He would allow his grandsons Hassan and Hussain (R.A) to ride his shoulders even during his prayers. In streets he would offer salaam to children, play and cut jokes with them. Sometimes he would even kiss small children in the street. Once a Bedouin saw the Prophet kissing a small kid. Out of wonder he said, I have eight children but I never kiss them. The Prophet remarked, What can I do if Allah has taken away love and compassion from your heart. The Prophet would show special kindness to orphaned children. Some parents believe that being frank with children is not good from discipline point of view. This is wrong. Love and leniency can do much that fear and strictness cannot do. If leniency leads to rudeness on the part of children it should be mixed with strictness. That will tell

the children that parents are basically kind but can be tough if children show rudeness and bad manners. Over-protection and over-care are undesirable. Let the child grow up as a responsible person. Only provide them guidance. A Hadith says, It is better for parents to leave their children well provided (financially) than to leave them in poverty. This means that parents should not spend all that they have on their own comforts and luxuries but must make provisions for childrens welfare after the parents die. Above mentioned rights are the rights which now modern societies are promoting. If you are not looking after your child properly in develop countries the government take over the child custody or some times it pays all it bill while the child is staying with the parent. Every developing country is promoting child education and emphasizes on the parents that they should send their children to school for a better living and future of the children and the country and Islam on the other hand promoted education for every one since its origin. Now a days one if goes to a psychologist to ask how to deal with my child the psychologist will suggest that he should be polite and caring towards his child so that he is brought up without any emotional conflict which might ruin his personality in the long run and Islam preaches that one should treat children with respect, love and care. Thus if we look at Islam it is a modern religion