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Introduction
PROVERBS 4: 7 "Wisdom is the principal thing; Therefore get wisdom. And in all your
getting, get understanding."
COMMENT: Because we will likely live with a mate in marriage and within a
community around us, God wants us to learn how to live in harmony with others. God
has given us laws and wise policies to insure peace and enjoyable, uplifting relationships.
In our culture, dating is a means to learn how to relate socially with that half of the
population that is of the opposite gender. Dating is also a means of getting to know
someone better. Courtship is that final phase before marriage when a man and a woman
are BOTH deciding whether they truly want to marry and are truly suitable for one
another. ALL dating is NOT courtship. Dating MAY lead to courtship, and courtship will
include dating, but dating need not have romantic overtones. It can be just companionship
in a mutually pleasing activity.
Do you think some teens sometimes confuse dating with courtship? Do you think our
culture confuses the two? What clues reveal there may be confusion?
It's been said that common dating practices today prepare one for divorce. Why doesn't
modern dating promote healthy relationships?
What can one learn about another person on a date?
What are some wrong reasons to date?
PROVERBS 3:1-2: "My son, do not forget my law, But let your heart keep my
commands; For length of days and long life And peace they will add to you."
PROVERBS 4:1-2: "Hear, my children, the instruction of a father, And give attention to
know understanding; For I give you good doctrine: Do not forsake my law."
Who to Date
PROVERBS 11:14 "Where there is no counsel, the people fall; But in the multitude of
counselors there is safety."
Why do you think counselors recommend dating many different people? What are the
advantages to dating many people before dating one person?
I CORINTHIANS 15:33: "Do not be deceived: 'Evil company corrupts good habits.'"
Would it be wise to date someone not of the same faith? Why? Does it matter if not
everyone included on a group date is of the same faith?
What are some things you should know about a person before dating him or her? What
standards and values do you look for?
What do the following proverbs teach us about whom to date and not to date?
Proverbs 13:20
Proverbs 22:24-25
Proverbs 24:1
Proverbs 28:7
Dating Activities
ECCLESIASTES 11:9: "Rejoice, O young man, in your youth, And let your heart cheer
you in the days of your youth; Walk in the ways of your heart, And in the sight of your
eyes; But know that for all these God will bring you into judgment."
God wants you to enjoy life. Dating ought to be an enjoyable experience. What are some
activities that you would like to do on a date?
COMMENT: There is an endless list of good ideas for a date. Doing them with parents of
one or more on the date will lessen the pressure and temptations that would occur if
dating alone. Those who enjoy sports will want to participate in or watch sports; those
who like to visit places could choose to see historical sites, attend fairs, go on picnics,
etc.; those who like to just chat, may find going to a fast-food restaurant or coffeehouse
where conversation is lively to be immense fun; those who enjoy learning about the
world may want to attend cultural events, participate in a book discussion, explore a
museum; those who like to be involved may choose to collectively take part in church or
school projects or an environmental work party. These are all opportunities to be with
others and learn about each other. There are also bad ideas for a date.
What is the one warning that the above verse gives about choice of activity?
COMMENT: Also read I Thessalonians 4:3-8. God says that dating should be conducted
in an honorable way reflecting holiness. Those who reject this concept are rejecting God.
What are some bad ideas to do on a date? (For one, consider I Corinthians 6:18.)
GALATIANS 5:14: "For all the law is fulfilled in one word, even in this: 'You shall love
your neighbor as yourself.'"
PHILIPPIANS 2:3-4: "Let nothing be done through selfish ambition or conceit, but in
lowliness of mind let each esteem others better than himself. Let each of you look out not
only for his own interests, but also for the interests of others."
Everyone likes to feel that they fit in and that others like their company. What are some
ways to make group dates fun and help everyone have a good time?
How can we show esteem, or honor, to our dates? What are some common mistakes in
this area?
Can you think of ways we can act responsibly on dates? (ONE HINT: Think Alexander
Bell)
COMMENT: Respect for one another should rule over all else. As an added bonus to
group dating, if we act responsibly on group dates our parents will probably feel more
comfortable in allowing us to date in the future.
Summary
1 Why date?