Creepy

ARE YOU CREEPING WOMEN OUT?
And What To DO About It
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ARE YOU CREEPING WOMEN OUT? And What To DO About It
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Table of Contents
FOREWORD . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .5 AWARENESS CHECK:

THE HOTTER THE WOMAN, THE LESS MARGIN FOR CREEPINESS YOU HAVE
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Common Creepy Behavior #1: . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .8 Common Creepy Behavior #2: . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .11 Common Creepy Behavior #3: . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .14 Common Creepy Behavior #4: . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .18 Common Creepy Behavior #5: . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .20 Common Creepy Behavior #6: . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .22 AFTERWORD . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .25 THE MEET YOUR SWEET COURSE CATALOG . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .26
FOREWORD
Creepiness. The one word that can strike terror into any would-be PUAs heart. The word creepy is literally the strongest epithet that any woman can use to advertise her COMPLETE LACK OF ATTRACTION and indeed, her ACTIVE REPULSION for a man. Once youve been called creepy, your goose is cooked. As far as that woman is concerned, youve had it. There is no turning back. This means that your margin for error is actually much less than you might think because many times, if a woman thinks ill of you, she actually wont let you know it until its too late. And incidentally, this isnt game-playing on her behalf. Shes not leading you on or wasting your time. Quite the contrary: its plain and simple GOOD MANNERS. So, to use the Kings English: a woman doesnt have to TELL you that youre creepy for her to be thinking that youre creepy. In fact, the ones that DONT tell you youre creepy are actually the MOST desirable ones not just beautiful, but NICE. This means that you may need to take EXTRA CARE to prevent yourself from falling into this blackest of all possible black quicksands because once youve been tarred with the creepy brush, youre tainted with the social equivalent of Robert Louis Stevensons Black Spot. (And can expect a lingering and painful social DEATH, in other words.) Ive created this special report specifically to help YOU to recognize and identify the aspects of typical male behavior that the MOST HIGHLY DESIRABLE women think of as creepy.
Then, Ill explain to you what you can do to make sure youre NOT perceived as creepy. Ill give you some spot-on pointers to help you keep tabs on your own behavior, and to make sure that you stay WELL AWAY from that peculiar social death known as creepiness.
Onward.
AWARENESS CHECK: THE HOTTER THE WOMAN, THE LESS MARGIN FOR CREEPINESS YOU HAVE
Did you know that unattractive women will usually put up with more creepy behavior before her alarm-bells start ringing than her more beautiful counterparts? The reason for this is simple. Women seen as 'unattractive' are not as used to getting male attention. So, they don't have as much EXPERIENCE with guys they're not used to figuring out what is or is not 'creepy' behavior and they have a much HIGHER initial tolerance for 'bad' behavior, as a general rule. Of course, the reverse is also true A woman widely considered to be beautiful or desirable will be well used to receiving masculine attention. She knows that she doesnt have to put up with receiving behavior that she considers to be less than, and so shes psychologically prepared to rebuff anyone whose approach falls below the minimum level of acceptability. Shes also more well-schooled in the gamut of male attentions: she has her own minimum standards that she expects, and shes experienced enough creepiness over the years to be able to spot it in an instant. Her radar is SCARILY WELL-TUNED, in other words. So, if you tend to go for the women who are perceived by the mainstream of guys to be desirable, then you must be aware that your margin for error is MINIMAL. NO CREEPINESS WHATSOEVER WILL BE PERMITTED. The more desirable the woman, the less tolerance she will have for creepy behavior. Consider that your watchword. But what is creepy behavior? And how will you know whether youre engaging in it or not? Following is a list of the six MOST CREEPY behaviors that MOST MEN unwittingly engage
in at one point or another in their interactions with women. If you identify with any of these behaviors, you can take a second to cringe in the privacy of your own home and thenn GET OVER IT. DONT WORRY about it any more. Thats all spilt milk now and the point of this special report is to INFORM you as to which mistakes will CLOSE the door of opportunity in your face and how you can STOP making those mistakes for yourself. Its not to beat yourself up or WASTE YOUR TIME feeling dumb and embarrassed. And hey, at least you know youll NEVER make the same mistakes again because Im going to teach you EXACTLY how to STOP creeping women out for GOOD AND ALL.
Common Creepy Behavior #1:

HOVERING, STARING, AND LURKING
Hovering can be described thus: when you see a woman you find attractive, but you cant quite get up the balls to approach her and you end up lurking around on the periphery of the room, staring at her, trying to work up the guts to approach. In the meantime, she has noticed the weird guy who keeps lurking around, following her around the venue and staring at her. Shes told all her friends (This weird guy keeps staring at me!) and theyve all agreed with her that you are whats known as a creepy lurker, in the feminine vernacular. Hovering has got to be one of THE most off-putting and creepy things that a guy can do. If you are a hoverer, take note: women WILL notice and they WILL be repelled. If YOU 'hover' before approaching, take note: by doing so, you shoot yourself in the foot. By this stage, even if you DO approach, youve already got a reputation as creepy before you so much as open your mouth.. Women have very highly tuned radars for hovering, because MOST GUYS do it. Its something that attractive women are very used to. Extremely attractive women are SO used to it that they can literally train themselves to block out guys guilty of this behavior: to the woman, they literally cease to exist. She doesnt even see them any more. And if they should approach, shell cold-shoulder them without so much as an apology even if shes actually a very nice person. So, simply by doing something that seems natural to you i.e. staying in the background until you figure out what you want to say theres a HIGH POSSIBILITY that youre actually turning her OFF, AHEAD OF SCHEDULE. Imagine the sheer destructive power of this habit. And now consider the fact that MOST MEN Im talking high 90th percentile engage in this habit REGULARLY.
The main reason that so many guys do it is simply because they underestimate the perceptive power of women. Heres a hint for you: STOP doing this. NEVER underestimate your targets powers to come up with NEGATIVE OBSERVATIONS about you and your technique. Heres a hint: try OVERESTIMATING it, instead. Assume that she can see EVERYTHING youre doing. Because MOST WOMEN ACTUALLY CAN AND DO. Let me explain the female perspective on creepy lurking for you. This is how most beautiful women think about lurking: This guy is a friggin weirdo. Hes annoying me. Hes ruining my night, lurking around, staring, and making me feel self-conscious. What the hell is wrong with him? Why wont he just go away? If he wants to talk, why doesnt he just talk? Whats he so afraid of? Jesus, thats creepy. Then, punctuate this with trilling feminine laughter from her friends every so often laughter thats aimed at you. Now take a moment to think about this: if your creepy hovering behavior is actually annoying a woman, she now has the moral high-ground and must feel no qualms whatsoever about shooting you down. Another way of saying it might be: by hovering, lurking, staring, and following her around even if you think youre being discreet you are literally handing her the right to enjoy shooting you down if you ever should screw up your courage enough to approach. DONT HOVER. DONT LURK. DONT FOLLOW HER AROUND. DONT STARE. SHE WILL NOTICE, AND SHE WILL BE REPELLED. Heres what to do instead: become an ardent worshipper of a variant of the 3-second rule. If youve never heard of the 3-second rule before (sometimes known as 3-S) its simply the concept that you must approach a desirable woman within 3 seconds of seeing her.
The idea behind this strategy is twofold: firstly, it prevents you from freaking yourself out, and talking yourself out of the approach. Secondly (and far more importantly), it literally prevents you from becoming a creepy hoverer/lurker/follower/starer. If you follow 3-S, you will never have to worry about hovering or lurking EVER AGAIN. The possibility of doing so will be taken right out of the equation, permanently. Thats pretty powerful stuff. Especially when you consider the fact that MOST MEN are struck with a sudden case of the lurking creepy hovers once they see a woman they like. 3-S is essentially like being handed a ticket that sets you apart from almost ALL other men, right from the get-go. But before you get too excited heres an alternative perspective for you: Giving yourself only three seconds to approach a woman may actually be a little TOO challenging. Its a great theory, sure; but for many men, it simply encourages feelings of failure because from going from an habitual entire night of lurking and working up the nerve to approach, to just three seconds, is just too much of a quantum leap. And besides which, lots of guys actually like to have a little more than three seconds, simply on principle. They like to scope out the scene a little more, think about what to say, maybe have a quick drink, and soak up the atmosphere. So here is what I suggest: that you take 3-S, and modify it to suit yourself. Specifically, this is what I mean: give yourself a unit of time equivalent to one drink before making your approach. During that time, you then have no more than three seconds of staring time in her direction before making your approach. This gives you time to have a drink and chill out (and maybe run through a couple quick openers in your head) while checking her out BRIEFLY while ALSO simultaneously preventing yourself from staring, following her around, or doing anything that could be construed as creepy lurking/hovering.
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TOO MUCH EYE CONTACT
Look. I know that most dating coaches stress the importance of making eye contact. And Im not going to lie: it is a major component of any successful conversation, and if done right can create some serious attraction with a woman. But heres where you need to be careful: too much eye contact is nothing short of CREEPY AS HELL. Before I met Alan (my long-term partner, with whom I enjoy a brilliant and committed relationship), I used to enjoy going out to smoky underground jazz clubs, drinking filthy martinis, and generally partying with my girlfriends. It was always a riot, and Ill be frank: we never had any trouble attracting guys. In fact, sometimes, we actually had to ask everyone to just back off and leave us alone so we could have a dance in peace. Sometimes, though, my eye would be caught, and Id leave the dancefloor to go have a chat and a drink, and see if there could be a mutual fit. And every so often, I'd run into one of these 'creepy starers'. After comparing notes with my girlfriends over the years - not to mention clients, subscribers, and colleagues in the field - it's become increasingly clear to me that something that will put literally ANY woman off a guy no matter how articulate, well-dressed, or otherwise 'eligible' he may be is TOO MUCH EYE CONTACT. Seriously. I kid you not. Its all well and good to meet someones eye. Its normal, its necessary, and it connotes major self-confidence if done right. But every so often, as a woman, you run into one of those guys who clearly knows just how important making eye contact is and whose enthusiasm for this simple trick has taken him too far in the opposite direction. Im talking about creepy staring: when a guys not just LOOKING at you, but when his eyes are literally PINNED on you. He never looks away. He's clearly putting MASSIVE
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amounts of effort into looking 'interested and interesting'. It can make a woman feel like a bug impaled on an entymologists pin. At the very least, its disgustingly obvious that a guy like this is trying to make you feel special, that hes trying to convey interest, and that hes trying to be a good listener. Unfortunately, the effect falls far short of the mark, because hes trying TOO HARD. He's not being authentic. And it comes across as though he's trying to 'compensate' for something. Of course, most women will immediately wonder, 'What is this guy trying so hard to prove? Why is he not relaxing and just being normal?' and will inevitably conclude that there must be something WRONG with this guy that he can't just chill out and be genuine. Long story short, 'too much eye contact' will make ANY GUY no matter how articulate, well dressed, and flat out HOT he otherwise may be into a complete no-go zone as far as most women are concerned. Actually, make that an Ew, get me out of here NOW! zone. And when you combine this bug-eyed conversational style with a lack of BLINKING well, thats about the time that most women start eyeing up the distance between herself and the nearest waiter and wondering if hell be close enough to prevent her from being hacked up with a pick-axe and stored underneath this guys floorboards later on. No, I'm not kidding. Some guys really do this. It's like they literally forget to blink. Talking to one of these men is like conducting a conversation with a basilisk lizard. You can't help wondering whether his tongue's going to flick out and swipe a fly out of the air. Heres a simple equation for you: Eye contact = good. STARING and/or NO BLINKING = UNSPEAKABLY CREEPY AND REPUGNANT. As a general rule of thumb, if a womans talking to you, its acceptable and even attractive - to make eye contact for about 8 out of every 10 seconds.
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Its rude to make eye contact for less than 5 out of every 10 seconds. And its downright CREEPY to make eye-contact for MORE than 8 out of 10 seconds. Heres a good basic rule for you: every couple breaths, look away for a second. Thats all it takes. Just avert your eyes for a beat. Then you can turn around and feed yourself back into her big baby blues again. Not too demanding, right? This simple trick will prevent you from being one of those bug-eyed guys who latch onto a womans eyes like a pitbull and wont let her go and who end up creeping her out and making her wish hed tone down the intensity a bit. Oh - and remember to blink every so often. Women everywhere will appreciate this subtle nod to normality.
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COMPLIMENTING HER AND/OR BUYING HER STUFF BEFORE SHES 'EARNED IT'
I think we all know at least one guy who brands himself a Natural Nice Guy. He protests that being nice to women, taking care of them, complimenting them, buying them drinks, etc, is just the way he was brought up and he doesnt see any point in becoming a jerk and denying his true nature. I personally have had MANY male friends who believe these very things. They rarely have girlfriends. Why should I have to act like someone Im not in order to get women? he might say. And can I help it if I was brought up to respect women? Thats just the way I am. And women always say they WANT a guy who does all this stuff, so what gives? Heres the deal. From a womans perspective: YES, its GREAT when you meet a guy whos willing to do all that stuff. BUT, there must be ATTRACTION present before all those nice gestures are appreciated and if a guy STARTS OFF with the compliments and the drinks, most women are plain creeped out by this and will actually assume that this guy must either have something WRONG with him, or that hes maniacally trying to fill a big black hole of NEEDINESS inside himself by BUYING HER AFFECTIONS with nice words and gestures (like free drinks) before shes 'earned it.' So what does it actually mean to earn something? Its simple. She simply has to prove that shes worthy of being complimented. Heres how she can do it: by dint of having a great personality, some smarts, or something that sets her apart from the legions of other beautiful women out there. And no, she cannot earn a compliment simply by being pretty. From now on, looks are NOT ENOUGH for you to qualify a woman for ANY kind
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of special treatment. To do so will be to CREEP HER OUT and make it PAINFULLY OBVIOUS that you are hitting on her. And while were on the subject you need to make sure that you do NOT comment on any aspect of her appearance until youve received some pretty serious indicators of interest from her. As for the buying drinks thing, that is flat-out a total no-no. Not only will she NOT appreciate it, but you will actually CREEP HER OUT. When guys act like this, the subtext is clear: Im attracted to you. I want you to be attracted to me. Im not sure how to do this in any REAL way, so Ill resort to flattery and free gifts to mask my complete lack of REAL SKILL and ATTRACTIVENESS. The result? Shell think Ew another CLUELESS guy. If shes nice, shell accept your drink or your compliment and stick around for awhile just to show good will. She might even introduce you to her friends but rest assured, she will NOT categorize you as someone with potential. And if shes NOT nice, shell take your drink, use you to boost her ego, and then LEAVE as soon as shes had her fill. Here are the things that you must STOP doing if you wish to NEVER creep a woman out, and if you want to PREVENT her from categorizing you as nice, but no go: - Complimenting a woman as a part of your approach (e.g. Hi, youre really pretty. I wanted to come over and meet you.) - Complimenting her on ANY aspect of her appearance whatsoever at ANY point during the conversation. - Making sexual comments, or commenting on her boobs/butt/lips etc, at ANY POINT during the conversation. - Offering to buy her a drink. This is tacky, cheesy, and CREEPY. Offer to buy a woman a drink, and she will immediately assume that youre on the make, which is creepy particularly if youve barely spoken. HERES A 2-STEP PROCESS TO HELP YOU STOP INADVERTENTLY MAKING THIS MISTAKE
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STEP ONE: Make a promise to yourself right now that you will never again make a comment/compliment that could be construed as sexual to a woman unless you have received some SERIOUS indicators of interest (like a kiss. And even then, go easy on the mushy stuff.) STEP TWO: Make a promise to yourself to NEVER try to purchase a womans affections. (NOTE: purchasing her affections can be a monetary OR a verbal thing. Guys try to purchase a womans attention by complimenting her (flattery), just as much as they try to purchase her attention by buying her a drink and then hanging around trying to talk to her as she drinks it.) A SIDE NOTE ON HOW AND WHEN TO COMPLIMENT A WOMAN Look: its true that women like compliments and gifts. But we only like it if we have to earn it. And no, qualifying a woman for gifts/compliments on a basis of looks alone doesnt count youll only be able to create (and maintain) ATTRACTION if you qualify her by means of her PERSONALITY. Women want to feel like theyre special. They want to feel like youve noticed something unusual about them that OTHER MEN DO NOT NOTICE, and picked them out of the crowd because of it. Because ALL MEN notice a womans looks, it rarely means much to a woman if a guy tells her how hot she is. Of course, it might be a nice ego boost for her and many women derive massive psychological satisfaction from having lots of guys orbiting them and telling them how beautiful they are but you dont create ATTRACTION by boosting her ego. This means that you need to GET TO KNOW HER before you can start complimenting her on ANYTHING. And if you ARE going to compliment her, make sure its on something UNUSUAL that cant be construed as a come-on. Compliment her on ANYTHING apart from her looks. For example: her sense of style. How cool it is that shes passionate about insert quality
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here (her job, her pets, her friends, her fitness, etc.) How she seems like a real leader, and you like that in a woman. How she comes across as a really warm, positive person, and how rare that is. How youre impressed by her taste in music/intelligence/knowledge of Ancient Greece/whatever. Comments like these will literally make a woman melt, because theyre so rare. If you can compliment a woman on just about ANYTHING apart from her looks, youve proved to her that youre an observant and unusual guy and that youve actually been paying attention to her (not just her beauty.) Most men think that a compliment has to have something to do with a womans looks. And most men think that the way to open a conversation with a beautiful woman is to comment on her looks or to give her an implied compliment by buying her a drink. While this can be a nice ego-boost, its also bone-crushingly unoriginal not to mention CREEPY AS HELL. Furthermore, may I remind you that ego boost is NOT the same thing as ATTRACTION. In fact, most of the time, the two are MUTUALLY EXCLUSIVE. You need to STOP being that guy who boosts my ego, and START being the guy whos more of a CHALLENGE and who is NOT like all the other guys.
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MIS-USING KINO
Its true: kino can be a great tool to create attraction. However, youve really got to be drop-dead confident if you want to pull it off. And confidence levels aside, it can be a risky business anyway because some women just dont like being touched during conversations all that much at least, not by guys that they dont already know. Kino is short for kinesthetic, and basically refers to touch. As the theory goes, if you touch a woman every so often while youre talking to her a light squeeze on the shoulder, a nudge in the ribs, a quick stroke down the forearm shell get used to you touching her, and it will be that much easier to make the shift into making out with her. It will also convey to her that you are a physical guy, and she will feel more at ease if SHE wants to ramp things up by touching YOU. So far, so good. The creepiness comes into play when you start doing kino either TOO MUCH, or TOO SOON. As a general rule of thumb, all kino should be LIGHT, QUICK touches (no lingering hands or irritating, hard-pressing caresses) and it should always be in IMPERSONAL areas (so, no inadvertent boob-grabbings, butt-smackings or inner-thigh touchings.) Simple: LIGHT, QUICK, and IMPERSONAL. Its the magic three. Furthermore, its a good idea to keep kino to a bare minimum until youve had a chance to establish some proper rapport with her. For example, you could start off on the right foot with a handshake (or a hug, if youve met her before) and then give her her own space for five or ten minutes.
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Dont just dive right in there with scalp massages and palm-tickling. Wait until youve at least had a chance to get to know the woman a little bit. And please: dont be one of those guys who grabs a womans hand and then hangs onto it for the next five minutes. Dont be one of those guys who walks up to near-random women and starts giving them a neck-rub. Youve gotta pick your moments. Otherwise you got it. Its CREEPY. If you touch her too much or for too long, you will literally condition her to feel dismay and irritation at your touch and youll condition her to see you as a creepy guy. On the other hand, if you keep it LIGHT, MINIMAL, and QUICK, all is well. And if you can make it FUN, then so much the better shes being conditioned to feel pleasure and happiness at your touch. Some examples of fun kino: - Thumb-wrestling. - Palmistry. (But keep it quick and ironic i.e., keep the intensity down and dont overdo it. Theres no need for a Mystic Meg routine; and contrary to what many PUAs would love for you to believe, lots of women are actually turned OFF by guys who believe wholeheartedly in dippy stuff like palm-reading and its ilk. Theres no need to pretend that you eat this stuff up in order to create a bond.) - Creating your own special handshake routine together practicing it together then greeting her with it whenever you bump into each other throughout the night. (Hint: its even better if you make this into a really obvious joke and go way over the top with the handshake routine lots of hand-slapping, knuckle-rubbing, and so on.) - If someones making an ass of themselves in your group, elbow her lightly in the ribs. When she looks at you, roll your eyes. If she rolls hers back at you, or elbows you back, you can take that as a signal of interest. Like I say, kino can be great but since its easy to cross the line into creepiness, youll need to keep it quick, light, and FUN.
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PEACOCKING TOO HARD
Yes, having your own distinct style is a mark of supreme self-confidence. And really sticking out from the crowd in some way with an extreme hairstyle, tattoos, or really personalized, overstated way of dressing can actually be extremely attractive to a lot of women (myself included.) But if you take it too far say, to the extent that you yourself no longer feel quite comfortable with your style then you will emit waves of uncertainty, will be obviously trying to create an impression rather than simply demonstrating your own style, and will CREEP WOMEN OUT. Look: peacocking is fine. Particularly if you like to attract glitzy glamor-girls. Overt peacocking PARTICULARLY if it goes beyond your own personal comfort zone of flamboyance will usually be perceived as trying too hard, and, inevitably, CREEPY. Following is a list of male peacocking devices that SOME guys can use to good effect but that MOST guys try to use, and fail to pull off, because its too far outside their own comfort zone. Use the following with CARE and CONFIDENCE (if at all): - Male makeup such as eyeliner, eyeshadow, and (especially) nail polish. This will almost invariably get an EEEEEWWW! response from literally any woman. Unless youre Dave Navarro, or a genuine rocker in your own right, please: do yourself a favor and steer clear. - Taking obvious care of your appearance. Im talking obvious manicures, blow-dried hair, overtly-tweezed eyebrows, and a skincare regimen that goes beyond shower-shavemoisturize. Its just too damn feminine, and will actively repulse quality women. Look: once you get beyond basic benefits like short toenails and classy cologne, metrosexual does NOT cut the mustard with most women. Fake anything especially if you claim to be real. For example: guys who wear wigs, and try to pass them off as their own hair, are just creepy. Getting dreadlock extensions, and saying theyre your own, is just creepy. Wearing a fake lip ring, and claiming it as real, is just creepy. Badly-done dental veneers are not only creepy, but actively repellent. And sorry, but hair plugs? Theyd better be done damn well, because for most women, hair plugs are equated with Burt Reynolds (read: CREEPY.) If youre going to fake it, do it WELL and dont try to say its real because you WILL be found out, and women
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WILL think youre either a) MASSIVELY insecure, b) a complete weirdo, or c) creepy as hell. (And most likely, a combination of all three.) ANY KIND of body-hair shaving. Look: if youve got a hairy chest, rock it out. If youve got hairy legs and arms, bring it on. Many women LOVE really masculine guys and are actively dismayed by a guy who shaves his legs/arms/ chest in order to conform to modern standards of masculinity (i.e. turning yourself into a LADYBOY in order to resemble some disgustingly-polished male model from a Calvin Klein perfume ad.) Realistically, thats not to say that some women arent turned on by a smooth chest; many are. But if youve GOT a naturally hairy chest/arms/legs/whatever, leave them be and let your natural masculinity flourish. (The only exception to this would be a hairy back. If you have one of these, dont shave it WAX. If you shave, youll just end up with a five oclock shadow on your shoulderblades, and thats REALLY not hot.) Guys, if you want to avoid the creepiness pitfalls of appearance, heres a rule of thumb for you: develop your own personal style. Make sure it SUITS YOU. And make sure youre COMFORTABLE with it. If it doesnt and if youre not lets say youre copying someone elses style, or following the advice of a friend whose sense of style is WILDLY different from your own you are not going to be able to convince anyone else that youre being authentic. Youll feel self-conscious. Youre going to be perceived as a try-hard. And that adds up to creepiness incarnate. So heres my best suggestion: that you go out shopping with someone whose style you like and admire (and that you could easily adopt as your own.) Get them to help you pick things out. If money is an issue, go to second-hand stores. Check the bargain bins. Its not hard to get good threads for a decent price. And try following the advice of shop assistants: theyre paid to know the stock, and sometimes you can end up with a whole new look that feels great, that youd never have thought of yourself. As far as personal grooming goes, keep it NATURAL and REAL. If youre going to go farout, do it right and make it REAL: no fashion-mohawks or fake piercings, please. Real women tend to like REAL MEN and that means, no FAKING IT.
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WEIRD OR OBVIOUSLY IMBALANCED EMOTIONS
This is a big one. This problem centers mainly around two opposing cores of behavior: - Being cripplingly insecure - Being too energetic, too happy, and too enthusiastic First things first: insecurity is a bitch. Its also really commonplace. But youve got to GET OVER IT if you want to ATTRACT some top-quality women. Heres what I suggest, as far as limiting beliefs and/or personal insecurities go: that for now, you focus on taking control of the immediate aspects of it. Take care of your more obvious insecurities. The rest will come with time. (And it definitely helps to have a cellphone full of womens phone numbers to reassure you that youve actually got NOTHING to be insecure about.) What I mean by this is, start noticing the ways you act that show OTHER PEOPLE that youre feeling insecure and then DO something about them. For example: start paying attention to your body language. Learn how to lean back, take up space, and spread out. Stop leaning forwards and getting all up in her grille; thats perceived as desperate and needy. Stop speaking so quickly, and lower your voice. I tell you the truth when I say there is literally almost NOTHING SEXIER than a deep, masculine voice. (Equally, there is little that can help you if you have a squeaky, shrill voice.) I suggest that you invest in some voice coaching, as a great voice is HUGELY attractive to women. You can buy Dr Carol Flemings series off the Internet for a fairly decent price, and shell teach you how to develop a strong, deep, sexy voice that women LOVE. Practice dressing and styling yourself like someone with confidence. Take care of yourself and treat your body like its worth something: start going to the gym. Get a little color in your cheeks (no more pasty, Im-an-Emo pallor.) Ditch the scruffy wrist-bands and big dirty T-shirts. Get some panache. And as far as the cheesily enthusiastic thing goes
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Its a little more difficult to self-diagnose excessive enthusiasm, but this is actually JUST as important as insecurity. You need to start paying attention to how you act in social situations. Even though scary enthusiasm is just about as different in EFFECT from rabid insecurity as possible, the truth is that at the ROOT, theyre actually the SAME THING. Get this: most clownlike behavior is rooted in a belief that youre somehow not enough just being the way you are that youve got to ENTERTAIN people (oftentimes, with jokes at your own expense) for them to like you. This is not conducive to ATTRACTION. Look: Im not talking about genuine happiness or high energy. These are both massively ATTRACTIVE qualities to have. Im talking about the kind of fake energy and fake enthusiasm that a lot of guys use to cover up inherent feelings that theyre somehow less than. For example: you dont need to laugh crazily at everything she says if you dont ACTUALLY think its really funny. You also dont have to have a huge smile pasted on your face all the time either. If you laugh or smile too often as in, when youre not really feeling it you WILL seem insecure and nervous. You dont need to speak really loudly or make lots of noise in order to stand out. Take a step back and relax, instead. Remind yourself to speak softly. Actively force yourself to role-play a confident, dominant, masculine man. Stop TRYING so hard. You dont have to be the life of the party incidentally, women actually tend to perceive men who are making LESS of an obvious effort to get attention as being MORE attractive. So its all good to have high energy and be enjoying yourself but theres no need to channel PeeWee Herman or start pulling Klown Kollege stunts. A balance is really whats required to maximize attractiveness, and minimize creepiness. If you feel yourself starting to overcompensate in a social situation maybe youre feeling insecure, maybe youre feeling nervous take an emotional step back and FORCE YOURSELF to calm down.
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THE SOLUTION Heres a great way to smooth out the adrenaline thats making you jittery. I call it a MiniRest and its highly effective for negating the Fight Or Flight feeling that so many guys experience around women. 1. Take a deep breath. Breathe in slowly to the fullest capacity of your lungs. Pause for a moment. Breathe out slowly and empty your lungs completely. You should be breathing out for longer than you breathed in. Say One to yourself (out loud if the situation permits.) 2. Repeat the process: breathe in slowly and fully again. Pause for a moment. Breathe out slowly and fully. You should breathe out for longer than it took you to inhale. Say Two to yourself. 3. Repeat the steps until you get to five. Notice how different and more relaxed you feel.
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AFTERWORD
So there you have it: a comprehensive look at exactly what kinds of behaviors are most commonly dubbed creepy by women everywhere and how to PREVENT these behaviors from spoiling your game. Make no mistake, gentleman. The things weve talked about here today are the kinds of mistakes that MOST MEN literally dont even know theyre making but which can deflate your attraction quicker than an ice-pick through a white-wall tire. Obviously, theres a lot more to fine-tuning your game with women than simply avoiding the common pit-falls but hey, lets face it. Theres only so much information I can fit into one little Special Report. If youd like to get more of a tailored approach to smoothing out your rough spots (yes, especially the ones you didnt even know you had) and if youd like to learn from the lips of the masters themselves EXACTLY what it takes to meet, approach, and date the woman (or women) of your dreams then my number-one BEST suggestion is to cut to the chase and start investing in your future. Take a couple seconds and see if theres anything in the entire Meet Your Sweet lexicon of meeting and approaching women information that youd like to brush up a bit more on and know that I have your best interests at heart (yes, Im talking about my iron-clad money-back guarantee here.) You can check out the full range of programs and courses that weve put together to help you start meeting, talking to, and ATTRACTING high-quality women right here: https://www.meetyoursweet.com/men
And if you have any questions or comments, please drop me a line: news@meetyoursweet.com
Id love to hear from you! With love,
Mirabelle Summers MeetYourSweet.com

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THE MEET YOUR SWEET COURSE CATALOG
My Technique and Life Skills Programs: The specific skills, tips and techniques in your ultimate toolkit to creating the success you crave in Life and Relationships First Dates to Soul Mates:
How To Take Things To The Next Level Of Commitment........................... 27
Supreme Self-Confidence
in Dating, Relationships & Social Situations .......................................... 29
Conversation Chemistry
How to use the power of communication to create and maintain unstoppable attraction with the Opposite Sex! .......................... 32
2nd Chance:
How to Win Back the Love of Your Ex .................................................. 35
The information inside each of these courses will empower you by giving you the life and love skills that you need to achieve a complete personal and social transformation, and help you attract, seduce and keep the woman and committed relationship of your dreams and now, you can get a $5 trial for 7 days, as well as a 60-day guarantee on ANY course listed above.
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First Dates to Soul Mates: How To Take Things To The Next Level Of Commitment
by Amy Waterman
This course is all about building the love, affection, and long-lasting relationship that you want and deserve. Imagine how it would be to have someone in your life who is genuinely and deeply committed to you and your relationship? Imagine never feeling insecure about the future again? Imagine knowing that you can attract and create a relationship where the two of you want exactly the same things, and are going to grow from strength to strength together? If you want to put an end to unfulfilling relationships, take things to the next level of commitment, attract emotionally available women who take you seriously and support you in your life goals, if you want to learn how commitment really works for women, then youve got to read this book. Its crucial to your success. Amys discovered a foolproof method of magnetically attracting your partner to grow in closeness and commitment on physical and emotional levels as time goes on. How would it be to be completely immune to the death of love and closeness in your relationship? To not be worried when the lust and romantic love starts to fade, because you know something even greater is in store? Do you want to be in a relationship with your best friend, your favorite person, the woman you love more than anyone in the world and have those feelings reciprocated? When your love life is going well, everything else works like magic. But the best part is, its not actually magical at all it just takes knowledge and a little skill. Thats where this course will give you the step up in your love life that you really need. Amys life-changing course is one of the most thorough courses on helping you understand, create, maintain, and foster commitment through every stage of the attraction and relationship process,
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If you want to create the ultimate relationship improve your relationships starting RIGHT NOW create better communication with everyone around you achieve true and lasting physical passion in your relationship and strengthen your relationship with your partner, even in times of stress and changethen I strongly recommend you read this book. Itll change your life in ways you never knew was possible. In addition to the course, there are a number of bonus ebooks and audio files that will further assist and enable you on your search for commitment in your love life and relationships.
You can access the From First Dates to Soul Mates course at this web address right here: https://www.meetyoursweet.com/commitment/men
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Supreme Self-Confidence in Dating, Relationships & Social Situations by Slade Shaw

Let me ask you a few questions: Have you ever seen a woman from across the room that you really like, or who you'd really love to meet.... but were too overwhelmed by fear and nervousness to go over and start a conversation? Have you ever felt like you don't deserve the kind of woman that you are REALLY attracted to, that they might be out of your league, and as a result always settle for second best? Have you ever felt yourself shaking with self-consciousness when you are talking to a girl that you've got a crush on? Lost your words? Can't be your best self? Have you ever been in a relationship where you got emotionally insecure and ended up driving your partner away by your clinginess and insecurity? Have you ever fallen in love with someone before you've even dated her and got jealous and upset when she pays others attention and goes out with someone else? If you answered YES to any of the above questions, then this book is a great fit for you. I strongly believe that this information could help you lift yourself above the rest when it comes to attracting and maintaining relationships with women. When you're not self confident, then you get nervous and act differently at times when you feel stressed or need to be at your best. For example: on a date, or when you're talking to a woman you're attracted to. If your confidence betrays you at these vital times, then you may actually struggle to make your life turn out the way you want it to. Confidence is attractive and a crucial tool for men to have when dating, and without it, it's difficult to attract a really good catch. Why?
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Women base their assumptions of you on what they know of you. That's why first impressions can count for so much and be so hard to change. If that impression she gets in those first few moments is all she knows of you, then as far as she's concerned, that image she has in her head of you IS YOU. So if you meet a woman you are attracted to and act nervous, fumble your words, and run out of things to say then as far as she knows, you are the kind of person who is nervous, fumbles their words and runs out of things to say. And in those crucial first few moments, you lose your credibility and social status. (Of course, a little nervousness - with a smile! - can be endearing and can even help you, but if you can't let your best self shine through quickly, your love life is going to be characterized by a series of stilted interactions and misunderstandings of who the REAL YOU is.) Also, it's really unfortunate that people may assume from your shy or nervous behavior that you simply don't like being around them. They pick up on your discomfort. Women expect you to take the lead when you approach them, so its crucial that you are able to follow through and hold a conversation. And this is exactly the kind of problem that this book deals with in detail. By reading Slade Shaws book, you'll become a guy who enters a relationship with confidence and charisma, without needing someone else to 'complete' you. You'll be looking for a woman to 'complement' you instead of asking her a favor by dating you. This is one of the most powerful and special characteristics that you could possibly offer to a relationship. The self-confidence that Slade teaches you will instantly help you become a more socially adept man who is able to manage the challenges and negotiations that all relationships and interactions bring.
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You can access Supreme Self-Confidence at this web address:

https://www.meetyoursweet.com/selfconfidence/men/
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Conversation Chemistry How to use the power of communication to create and maintain unstoppable attraction with the Opposite Sex!
by Mirabelle Summers (co-authored by Amy Waterman)

When renowned online relationship experts Amy Waterman and Mirabelle Summers started researching and writing Conversation Chemistry, they were initially going to write 2 separate books: one for people who are single or dating, and one for people who are already in a relationship. But the feedback received was an overwhelming number of suggestions that they combine them both together, as there was so much essential information in each of them for people at all stages of a relationship. Hence, Conversation Chemistry was created and is actually the length of two full books (298 pages) and is packed full of essential communication secrets for you, no matter whether you are single or in a long term relationship! We've broken it up into three specialized sections: Section 1: The principles of great communication with the opposite sex. Section 2: Secrets to talking to and communicating with the opposite sex during dating. Section 3: Communication inside a relationship Inside this life-changing and engaging course, you will uncover a whole host of conversation tips and strategies, including: The principles of great communication. These principles differ between men and women, find how and why! How to adapt the way you talk to suit the man youre talking to - this may determine whether or not she develops a romantic interest in you. You're going to find out in detail how and why men and women communicate differently, and how to communicate in such a way that builds unstoppable attraction.
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Find out the surprising results from a study of singles bars, conducted by a couple of doctors. They proved the theory that there is a definite sequence to the process of attracting a mate. You'll hear what this process is, and how you can use it to your advantage in sparking attraction. If you follow this process, you'll build up an incredible attraction for you when it comes to the ladies! Find out the form of intuitive communication that NLP practitioners, psychologists and even pickup artists alike agree is crucial to forming a lasting bond with another person The 'magic' ingredients necessary to build potent rapport with women. This is truly powerful stuff you won't want to miss out on! Find out the key secret to become a charismatic and high-status man who has no doubt that what you're saying is interesting to your audience. The 5 conversation turn-ons that when applied diligently, youll find that people will not just enjoy talking to you... theyll go out of their way to talk to you! How to overcome approach anxiety. If you suffer from approach anxiety, youre not alone. Going up to someone and starting a conversation can be incredibly difficult! You'll learn how to calm these nerves right here with our highly effective 5 step strategy. The one thing that you absolutely must say to put people at ease and dramatically reduce your chances of getting "brushed off" by a woman when you try to strike up a conversation. How to spark chemistry and sexual chemistry with women. You'll learn some incredibly powerful secrets here, and they are a lot easier than you imagine! The communication skills required for a great long-lasting relationship are different to those that spark attraction and get you through the first month or two of dating. In this exciting section, you'll discover vital communication skills that will bring the two of you together and you'll find out common communication mistakes so that you don't make them yourself! What to do if communication stops. Rarely go out for an evening alone together? Feel like you've run out of things to say to each other? Find out how to revive your communication and get to know your partner again.
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Discover the 3 traits of happy couples who know how to disagree in a healthy, nondestructive way. Uncover essential secrets on how to forgive. Without forgiveness life is governed by an endless cycle, so its essential you master this crucial relationships skill! How to argue properly and grow together as a result, rather than grow apart. This is an incredibly important chapter for you to read as arguments have been proven to be severely detrimental to many relationships, and yet seen as strengtheners for others who know how to argue properly. Using the power of talking about the future to further enhance your long term relationship success. Discover the next step and how to assess your progress at regular intervals. Conversation Chemistry is designed to take you to the next level of communication, whether youre out to meet someone new, enjoy a fun and flirtatious conversation, master the art of flirting, or make a relationship into the best one you ever had.
You can access Conversation Chemistry at this web address:

https://www.meetyoursweet.com/conversationchemistry/men/
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2nd Chance: How to Win Back the Love of Your Ex by Mirabelle Summers (co-authored by Amy Waterman)
If you're going through the emotional turmoil of a break-up with a woman that you really didn't want to happen (or now regret happening), then you have my whole hearted sympathy. I know what you are going through, I've been there, it isn't a happy place and it isn't an exaggeration to say that can even feel like someone has just died. Breaking up is an awful experience. And in this book, Im going to reveal to you my powerful methods for winning back your ex. Essentially, I've written this book to guide you through the process of healing the pain of a breakup; recognizing why it happened in the first place; figuring out whether it genuinely is a good idea to get back with your ex; and, if it is, I tell you exactly EXACTLY! what you need to heal the wounds and make your relationship better than it ever was before. But first I have a very important question to ask you before carrying on ... Why Do You REALLY Want To Get Back Together With Her? And Is It REALLY A Good Decision To Make? Were you and your ex really good together? Did she treat you the way you deserve to be treated? More importantly, did she support you in your goals - and did you support her wholeheartedly in hers? I'm asking that question in particular as it is the biggest determining factor in long-term relationship success according to numerous studies. The first thing that you need to do right now is STOP doing what ever you are doing to get her attention back. No more sending flowers or begging for forgiveness! (Yes, really. Even if you genuinely feel that you are in the wrong, stop apologizing and stop begging.) Before you do anything that you think will win back the love of your ex, you need to listen to what Mirabelle Summers has to say. 2nd Chance is a course that guides you through the whole self-reflection, consideration, and negotiation process that characterizes a relationship breakup and rescue. If you are committed to getting back with your ex, and
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giving your relationship every chance of success, you cant afford to be getting information that could potentially set you back or even end any chances of saving your relationship. You have listened to the advice of friends, family, indeed anyone who feels they would like to share their opinion with you. But now its time to get advice that is GUARANTEED to work. 2nd Chance: How to Win Back the Love of Your Ex is a course that is specifically designed to: Maximize your chances of winning back your ex Help you get your life back on track so that you are happy again and have a positive and exciting future ahead of you... no matter what happens. Help you gain perspective and work through what really went wrong, and discover relationship secrets to help you avoid going down the path that caused your breakup again. And get your relationship back on track towards mutual growth and bonding.
You can access 2nd Chance and win back the love of your ex at the following web address: https://www.meetyoursweet.com/2ndchance/men/
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