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How to Be a Man
How to Be a Man
Ma y 9th, 2008 by Steve Pa vlina Em a il this article to a friend
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What does it mean to be a man today? How can men consciously express their masculinity w ithout becoming cold or closed-hearted on the one hand or w impy and emasculated on the other? Whats the most loving w ay for a conscious man to express himself? Here are 10 ways to live more consciously as a man:
3. Be willing to fail.
A man is w illing to make mistakes. Hes w illing to be wrong. Hed rather try and fail than do nothing. A mans self-trust is one of his greatest assets. When he second-guesses himself by worrying about failure, he diminishes himself. An intelligent man considers the prospect of failure, but he doesnt preoccupy himself w ith pointless w orry. He accepts that if a failure outcome occurs, he can deal with it. A man grows more from failure than he does from success. Success cannot test his resolve in the w ay that failure can. Success has its challenges, but a man learns more about himself when he takes on challenges that involve risk. When a man plays it safe, his vitality is lost, and he loses his edge.
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4. Be confident.
A man speaks and acts with confidence. He owns his attitude. A man doesnt adopt a confident posture because he knows hell succeed. He often knows that failure is a likely outcome. But w hen the odds of success are clearly against him, he still exudes confidence. It isnt because hes ignorant or suffering from denial. Its because hes proving to himself that he has the strength to transcend his self-doubt. This builds his courage and persistence, tw o of his most valuable allies. A man is w illing to be defeated by the world. Hes w illing to be taken down by circumstances beyond his control. But he refuses to be overwhelmed by his own self-doubt. He knows that when he stops trusting himself, he is surely lost. Hell surrender to fate w hen necessary, but he wont surrender to fear.
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A man feels like a man whenever he faces the right way, staring straight into his fears. He feels even more like a man w hen he advances in the direction of his fears, as if sailing on the winds of an inner scream.
How to Be a Woman?
Now who will write How to Be a Woman? Ill tell you what. If you can write the How to Be a Woman article, go ahead and post it on your site,
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and email me a link to it. Next w eek Ill make a post linking to all the quality submissions. Erin and I will select the article we consider the most insightful, and that link w ill be given special prominence at the top of the results post. So basically the prize is a permanent link and free traffic. Ill only link to new articles I believe offer genuine value to the reader (i.e. interesting, original ideas), so dont bother submitting a sloppily written fluff piece or an old article just to get a link. Id rather link to 5 thoughtful articles than 50 mediocre ones. If you can write reasonably w ell, you should be fine. There are no requirements for how you format such an article (you dont have to follow the ten-item format above). You can use any personal style you like, including writing a strictly humorous piece. The main consideration is how much value and insight you deliver. Lets give this a deadline of about 4 days, so all submissions must be received by 7pm PST (thats GMT8) on Tuesday, May 13. Ill post the results as soon as Erin and I have had sufficient time to review the submissions. Ive never done this before, so I have no idea how many submissions well get, but I imagine it will be somew here betw een 1 and 50. You dont have to be a woman to submit a How to Be a Woman article, but theres a good chance it w ill help. P.S. If you happen to be offended by all or part of this article, you should be able to find plenty more articles that offend you in the Archives. Update May 14, 2008: The How to Be a Wom an challenge is now closed, so were no longer considering new subm issions. 52 subm issions were receiv ed Wow! Erin and I will read through all of them , and Ill m ake a sum m ary post as soon as were done.
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