Introverts (I)

1. Appreciate yourself as an interesting person and one who is worth getting to know. Introverts have real depth and an enhanced ability to concentrate. 2. Realize that your greatest difficulty probably comes in dealing with the outer world of action and interaction. 3. Remember Extraverts (E's) have a greater need for social interaction than you do. 4. Consider gently explaining your need for privacy and quiet time to others, especially Extraverts. Don't assume that they know this about you. 5. When asked to make decisions or give your opinion, ask for some time by saying, "I'll think about that and get back to you." Generally speaking, don't make instant decisions. Beware that these situations often evoke in Introverts feelings of pressure, anger, and later resentment. Consider eliminating the problems before it occurs. 6. Resist using silence to manipulate or self-protect. 7. If you need time to process something, let the E know that's what you are doing, and that the E has done nothing wrong. 8. Ask a trusted E friend to help you check out your values. This may give you a vantage point you didn't consider. 9. Try to smile more. Introverts often fail to show much outward emotion. 10. Give E's more affirmation and response then you may think necessary. Time Management 1. Be careful not to stay inside yourself too much. You must learn when to emerge from your introversion to do what must be done. 2. If you live with an E or have a lot of E friends, don't schedule your time so that you're "all extraverted out" by the time you and the E get together. 3. Introverts may procrastinate when it come time to interact with a group of people. Realize this and work on it.

Conflict 1. I's may internalize a disagreement to reflect on what took place often rerunning it inside their heads. While it's helpful to mull over what happened, how you or others acted, and how to deal with the conflict, beware not to allow this internal reflection to replace dealing with the problem in the real world. I's tend to make a myth for themselves that the internal dealing with an issue resolves it. 2. I's may avoid expressing themselves in a conflict situation. Resist this and tell your side of the story 3. When dealing with an E, you may need to "overact" a little to get your message across in language the E understands. Let your facial expressions and tone of voice reflect the importance of your point. 4. As an I, you probably think you've said more out loud than you really have, because you've been thinking about it all in your head. Remember others don't hear it if you haven't said it. Careers 1. Consider choosing a career that takes advantages of your depth of concentration, tendency toward specialization, and preference for an atmosphere that is not highly interactive.

Intuitives (N)
1. Appreciate yourself for your creativity, rapid insights, and ability to see future possibilities. 2. When dealing with a S, work out the details. Be clear about the facts, and have a clear plan of action. Try to present your ideas in finished form rather than a rough idea or a sketch. 3. When presenting ideas to a S, try not to jump around. Follow an orderly stepby-step written outline. 4. Don't give out too many possibilities. This can overwhelm the non-N. Though you have 100 incredible ideas, settle on the best 1 or 2. Giving more typically confuses rather than helps the S. 5. Define your terms carefully, especially when dealing with an S. 6. Finish your sentences when talking to S's. And remember not to finish theirs for them. 7. Consider telling others when you change subjects. If you change the person you or talking about, don't forget to mention it. Realize your tendency to jump around. 8. Remember to make your solutions workable in the real world. 9. When you can't find something, it's probably where you already looked 3 times, but you just didn't see it. Look there again, or get an S to look for you. 10. Take some time to smell a flower, watch the clouds, study the details, and "listen" to what your senses tell you. Mentally measure what can be measured, count what can be counted. 11. Today is part of that long-awaited future. Watch out that you don't miss it. 12. If all else fails, read the directions. 13. Pay attention to what your body is dealing you. N's often fail to notice they are exhausted or in pain.

Time Management 1. Be realistic. Ask yourself: "Can I really do all I have set out to do in the time I have to do it?" 2. Ns procrastinate when it comes to engaging in S type activities. Learn time management techniques. Conflict 1. An N hears figuratively what is said, while an S hears literally what he or she thought was meant. 2. The N's blueprint for settling a dispute may not include the actual steps for implementation. 3. Stick to the issues. Typically it helps to settle the immediate simple dispute first. This usually allows you to deal with the bigger issue later. 4. Remember S's take facts more seriously than you might. So give them an explicit statement of the problem before asking them to consider possible solutions. 5. Watch your behavior. Mature intuition is creative, complex, and amazingly accurate most of the time. An N using immature Sensing is likely to get obsessed with unimportant details and be preoccupied with irrelevant facts. 6. N's under stress may indulge in sensory pursuits unwisely. Careers 1. Consider careers that take advantage of your strengths: variety, the ability to handle complexity, creativity, the big-picture, and focusing on the future.

Thinkers (T)
1. Appreciate yourself for your logical mind, ability to find the flaws, and fairness. 2. Don't forget to consider the seemingly illogical human reactions and motives that are part of any interpersonal situation such as dealings at work or with family and friends. Gently ask questions about how others feel. Feelings are real world facts that you need to consider when you act. Don't forget to fully consider the people involved when trying to solve a problem. 3. Remember Feelers (F's) like harmony. They would like to agree with you if given the chance. Begin with points of agreement. Set a positive relationship by warm tones of friendship. This enables points of disagreement to be discussed and not fought over. 4. Listen to others, in turn. Remember F's may not want a logical solution. They have a need to be listened to empathetically and non-judgmentally. 5. F's care most about matters that have a direct effect on people. If you start with a concern for people, they will generally be receptive to listening. 6. Before arguing about the ways to achieve them, try to get agreement on defining the problem, goals, and objectives. 7. Pay more attention to the process instead of just the outcome. Learn to enjoy the process as well as the product. 8. Smile more. It will do wonders for you. Appreciate others giving them the strokes they deserve. F's have a greater need for harmony than you do. Practice being gentle with others. Time Management 1. Part of the project is allowing space for others' schedules. Don't force others into your time schedule. 2. T's procrastinate when it comes to making time for the interpersonal aspects of life.

Conflict 1. Thinkers tend to get too analytical in a dispute; their logical analysis may have little to do with the hurt feelings involved. Saying "Don't get emotional" usually causes more problems than it solves. 2. Allow for some genuine expression of emotion. If you are unable to express your emotions, don't make the mistake of not allowing others to express theirs. 3. Avoid criticizing. Yes, speak into an issue with care. Be selective and intelligent in what you say. Generally speaking you may criticize the action, but not the person. Avoid calling another stupid, even if they seem so to you. Remember mature Thinking is clear logic while immature Thinking is criticism. 4. If you think another did something wrong, find out why they did it that way. 5. T's may be slow to say "sorry" when it is time to do so. 6. Generally, use your T on you car and your F on your family -- not vice versa. 7. Thinkers under stress may act out of character and have uncontrolled emotional outbursts, hypersensitivity, and take criticism very personally. 8. It's OK to let your feelings show - in fact, it's a lot healthier than bottling them up. But practice expressing your feelings in safe, trust relationship first before you move on to more complex interactions. Careers 1. Consider a career that takes advantage of your T skills of logical analysis, fairness, and objectivity.

Judgers (J)
1. Appreciate yourself for your dependability, organization, planning ability, and ability to complete tasks to reach a goal. 2. J's may shut off perceiving information too quickly. Before you make a decision, ask yourself if you need more facts or alternatives. Consider delaying your decision. 3. Ask you P friends, family, or coworkers for their input before you make a decision. 4. When speaking, try to avoid use language that sounds as if you've made a conclusion. 5. J's can easily become complainers and fall into negativity. Watch out for this. 6. Think of several good surprises in your life. How did you feel about them at the time they happened to you? The unplanned can be positive. 7. Remember the world will not fall apart if you don't have everything planned, orderly, or under control. Recognize this may be coming from your own insecurity 9. Allow others to use their own time schedule, methods, work style and pace. Time Management 1. Remember, time is not always important. Don't decide something too quickly just to reach completion. 2. J's procrastinate when it comes time for fun, leisure, and relaxation. They often think "I'll relax after I finish this project. " Schedule time for relaxation. Take time to play. And play at playing. Try not playing to win or a noncompetitive game. 3. Drop everything and go for a spontaneous activity with someone important to you. If you can't do that, make plans to do something uncharacteristic for you.

Conflict 1. J's seek to deal with things immediately, preferring to be in control. 2. Recognize that your need for order and control can be misunderstood by others. Learn to loosen up. 3. Js are not always right. Conflict resolution depends upon this. Try not to see the world as black and white or right and wrong. Work on accepting the differences among people. Careers 1. Consider a career that takes advantage of your skills of organization, planning, scheduling, and decisiveness.