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Children laughing and splashing old is not going to be swimming laps, but baby’s head fun instead of scary. While
in neighborhood pools is a sure the infant can become comfortable in the the time in the pool looks like it is all
sign summer has finally arrived. water. Crista Koch, Y aquatics director, fun and games as children use their “ice
For parents there can be a little anxiety said a lot of the class is for the parents’ cream scoops” and “airplane arms,” the
about their child’s safety in the pool. comfort level. Seeing a child put her tots are actually learning some basic skills
head under water and come up crying or needed to learn how to swim, such as
Thankfully Dubuque has several resources
coughing can be a frightening experience floating, kicking and dunking their heads.
available to help the youngest children
for all involved. Dubuque Leisure Ser-
begin to learn about water safety and help An informal survey of parents with chil-
vices also offers classes for toddlers and
parents understand the steps they can dren taking classes at the Y revealed
their parents.
take to keep their child safe. No matter three main reasons for starting their child
how strong of a swimmer a child is, there The Y’s Parent Tot class is aimed at swimming at such a young age. The num-
is no such thing as a “drown-proof” child, children ages 6–24 months. Mom, dad, ber one answer for most of the parents is
so it takes parents and the community grandma or grandpa have to get in the safety. The program stresses safety and
working together to make a fun outing to water with the infant, and the group works teaches children to respect the water.
the pool or river a safe experience. on teaching water skills to the infants in
With the Mississippi River in our back-
fun ways. Koch said the instructors use
The Dubuque Community Y offers swim- yard, many families spend time on the
familiar nursery rhymes and songs with
ming courses for children starting at water during the summer so it is important
a little modification to make dunking a
6 months of age. Of course a 6 month
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families could devise a plan that is more At the same time, it also is important to Lacking a campfire, she wrapped the
personal, even if it is a phone call from have some consequences if established banana, peanut butter and chocolate
grandma in Florida each day. rules are broken while parents are away. chips in aluminum foil, and placed it in
“When they are held accountable they the microwave to toast. By the time the
In addition to the help from “the village,”
will be better kids,” said Cosgrove. teen realized what had happened, the
it is important to keep unsupervised chil-
banana stem was on fire, but the banana
dren busy. Cosgrove said statistics show “Stay away from the lecturing,” said Cos-
was the only casualty.
that unsupervised children are more likely grove. Keeping the discussion simple
to get into trouble. He and Lane suggest is best. The child knows a mistake was Another tween left in charge of younger
getting tweens involved in after school made, and most likely will turn a deaf siblings shared a mishap with some scis-
and summer activities where there will ear to a lecture. He adds that for preteens sors in the hands of a younger brother
be an adult around, so while they are on and young teens the most effective con- who wanted a haircut. Not wanting mom
their own, there is some supervision. The sequence is grounding or loss of phone to see what he had done, the tween used
Dubuque area offers a plethora of activi- and computer privileges because at this her own babysitting money and walked
ties through the ISU Extension office, age they are very focused on their social him down the street for a proper haircut.
City of Dubuque Leisure Services, Boys’ lives. Everyone makes mistakes, so once All the mom could do was laugh when
and Girls’ Club, scouts, multicultural the punishment is served it is impor- she found out what happened.
center, church groups and the library, to tant to give the tween a chance to earn
More than likely there will be ups and
name a few. back privileges. What seems like a seri-
downs as a tween navigates the path to
ous offense today will likely be something
Despite being a serious topic and need- independence and responsibility, but
that everyone will look back on and laugh
ing to address the possible dangers, Cos- with open communication, trust can be
at tomorrow.
grove said it is important to make the built. Then it may be time for parents to
experience a privilege or reward. Be sure One teen shared her most memorable trust they have done their part in raising
to express your gratitude to the child for experience of being left in charge of her a responsible individual and remember
living up to your expectations while you younger siblings. Her sister wanted to to find humor in the mishaps along the
were away. make a banana boat “Girl Scout” style. way.
A WISE HIGH SCHOOL CROSS-COUNTRY COACH ONCE SAID, “If we were all cut from
the same cookie cutter, this world would be a very boring place.” While this coach in par-
ticular was often offering advice and adages to her adolescent athletes—some that fell on
deaf ears and others that rang a bit more true—this statement has undoubtedly often served
her former athletes well in interacting with friends, classmates, coworkers and roommates
as they ran bigger proverbial races.
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W hile this scenario might already have some
parents rolling their eyes in exasperation
(for many, summer heat is often twinned with count-
THE EPIDEMIC SPREADS
While i-SAFE conducted their surveys almost 10
years ago, the recent rash of teenaged suicides as a
less school-aged summer activities), many students in
result of cyberbullying indicate this strain of online
the greater Dubuque area also understand that sum-
harassment has only become more threatening and
mer can be far from an idyllic scene. For many, social
widespread. Though the widely publicized April 2010
networking sites such as Facebook, Myspace and Twit-
death of 15-year-old Phoebe Prince has been com-
ter, in tandem with the epidemic popularity of com-
pounded by the cyberbullying related deaths of Ryan
munication via text message, often spell something far
Halligan (2003), Megan Meier (2006), Carl-Joseph
more sinister than planning the next trip to the mall.
Walker Hoover (2009), and, most recently, Tyler
Bullying has introduced itself as an unwelcome social Clementi (2010), anti-bullying legislation and the
element of these networking tools and is becoming strength of its protections remains varied as laws are
all too prevalent as teens and young adults traverse passed by individual states.
the already treacherous social realms of middle and
The tides may be changing, however, as members of
high school. The Dubuque Community School Dis-
Congress review a bill proposed by New Jersey sena-
trict strictly prohibits “harassment, bullying, hazing,
tors that would require all colleges and universities
initiations, or any other victimization” via “any com-
receiving federal aid to tighten their anti-bullying
munication involving the transmission of information
policies. Named for Clementi, a Rutgers University
by . . . electronic mail, Internet-based communications,
student who ended his life after learning that intimate
pager service, cell phones, electronic text messaging or
details of his sexual activity were broadcasted online,
similar technologies” in its official student and parent
the Tyler Clementi Higher Education Anti-Harass-
handbook. However, how can students protect them-
ment Act would require colleges and universities
selves and others from the technological wrath of their
to make their anti-bullying policies more prevalent
classmates when this already threatening behavior
and inclusive while increasing student awareness of
extends from the hallways to the home pages?
counseling and other mental health services provided
The solution is varied and complicated. While on campuses. While many colleges and universities
school-year instances of bullying may be more readily already have such policies enacted, this bill may guar-
monitored by students and faculty members, the sum- antee more universal protection for students against
mer months introduce more independently organized bullying while class is in session.
activities and encounters between students without
In other areas of the country, cyberbullying is already
the guarantee of an official policy policing bullying. In
being recognized as a criminal offense. In mid-April
a survey conducted by nonprofit organization i-SAFE
two preteen girls from Issaquah, Washington, faced
on 1500 students in grades 4–8 during the 2003–04
charges of cyberstalking after fabricating and posting
school year, 42 percent of respondents have experi-
lewd photos of a classmate on Facebook. In addition
enced cyberbullying with an astonishing 35 percent
to posting photos, the girls were also accused of pos-
citing that they have been threatened while com-
ing as their “friend” and making propositions, which
municating on the web. Perhaps most alarming is the
included personal contact information, to boys for
58 percent of victims nationally who have remained
sexual acts via the instant messaging system on Face-
silent about their online harassment.
book. All three girls are sixth graders.
The victims of these encounters are getting younger
The Iowa Department of Education also has taken
and younger as social networks adjust their registra-
a strong stance against all forms of bullying. The
tion requirements. Facebook requires users to be 13
Department enacted an anti-bullying policy that pro-
and older while Myspace has set its age limit at 14,
hibits any harassment or bullying based on 17 differ-
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far younger than the college-aged demographic these
ent traits, which was officially adopted in September
sites originally targeted for participation. Twitter,
of 2007. While this policy guarantees protection for
however, has set no official age limit. As communi-
students as long as they are on campus or attending
cation becomes more electronic and instantaneous
school-related functions, there is little protection
and users register on these social networking sites—
from cyberbullying that occurs off school grounds.
whether legally or otherwise—social issues follow
students home and online, magnifying the damage And there is little doubt that cyberbullying has
incurred by preexisting school-based social conflicts. arrived in the Dubuque area. According to a local
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lot of opportunities for 1-day getaways that your fam- been added to a prairie area near the garden to
ily can enjoy together. In fact there might be some nurture other wildlife as well.
daytrip destinations within a 30-mile radius that you
might not realize even exist. For instance, did you In the same parking area as the butterfly garden,
know Bellevue hosts a butterfly garden that is one of it’s worth a walk over to the South Bluff Nature Cen-
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