Metodo Sedona

A Special Report on
by Hale Dwoskin
“Avoid the 5 Most Common Relationship Myths that keep

98% of People Mired in Loneliness or Bad Relationships,
1 and Join the Ranks of the 2% who Manifest the Love of their Life”
Copyright © 2009 Sedona Training Associates. All rights reserved.
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About the author,
Hale Dwoskin
Hale Dwoskin is the New York Times
best-selling author of The Sedona
Method, and co-author of the best-
selling Happiness Is Free: And It’s
Easier than You Think. Hale is one
of the original 24 teachers from the
blockbuster book and movie, The
Secret and a founding member of the
Transformational Leadership Council.
He is the CEO and Director of Training
at Sedona Training Associates, based in
Sedona, Arizona.
For more than three decades, Hale

has taught The Sedona Method to
hundreds of thousands of people
worldwide, transforming their lives
dramatically in the process. This amazingly simple, yet elegant method
enables you to let go of any unwanted feeling or emotion right in the
moment. The Sedona Method is the “vaccine for emotional turmoil” that
returns you to the power of your True Presence.
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Dear Reader,
Here’s an interesting statistic that got my attention. A survey of 2000

married couples by the British firm Seddons found that the majority of the
couples surveyed were dissatisfied and only stayed together for practical
reasons. The survey found that:
• 59% of the married women would leave if they could find

financial security elsewhere
• 51% of the men thought their marriages were ‘loveless’
Statistics like these can seem very discouraging whether you’re in a relationship
or not! What this said to me was not simply about marriage, but about
relationships in general. And that is, people largely do not know how to get
their needs met in relationships, or how to take the appropriate actions to
ensure their own and others’ happiness.
So what do people who have loving, fulfilling relationships know that the rest
of the population doesn’t?
Let’s explore some of the more common relationship myths together to

discover the answer to that question….
“If he/she would just change, this relationship

could work.”
Of all the relationship myths out there—and there are many!—this
is the one in which people seem to get stuck the most. A majority
of the people I speak to on a regular basis are convinced that the
success or failure of a relationship lies at least partially—and
oftentimes solely—in the province of the other person.
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It sounds like this:
• “If my mother-in-law wasn’t always so negative, maybe we could

have a civil conversation.”
• “If my boyfriend could just get his anger problem under control,
then our relationship might have a chance.”
• “If my wife could stop needling me for just 10 seconds…”
You get the idea.
If you are one of these people, I hate to burst your bubble on this topic, but it is
ultimately for your own good and personal empowerment. Here’s the truth of
the matter:
Your relationship with them has absolutely nothing to do with them.
That’s right.
Read that sentence again: Your relationship with them has absolutely
nothing to do with them. In other words, it’s all about you!
This is a hard one for a lot of people to believe. But, you probably would
agree that it takes two to tango. And once you take responsibility for your
end of the energy equation, everything changes.
It’s as if two people were pulling on the same rope, complaining about
the rope, and yelling to the other one, “Drop the rope!”
Interestingly, when one individual discovers that he can simply

drop the rope on his end and then does so, everything about that
relationship instantly shifts!
So, here’s a quick exercise to help you understand the emotional

and energetic “ropes” you may be holding onto in your
relationships….
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It’s Time to Find Out EXACTLY What’s Holding You Back…
• Think about a relationship you have that is troubling you—or a relationship
you don’t have that you would like to have in your life. Take out a pen or get
on your computer and write down any and all answers that come to mind
when you ask yourself the following question:
“When I am thinking or talking about this relationship,

what am I saying to myself or others?”
• Briefly review in your mind your last conversations about the relationship you
have chosen to concentrate on, as well as recent thoughts and feelings that
have occurred to you about this relationship.
But don’t think too much. Just take 5 minutes and write non-stop in answer to
the question above.
DO THIS NOW BEFORE READING ANY FURTHER!
Done? Good!
• Now, take a look at what you have written.
As you read what you wrote aloud, after each sentence ask yourself this
question:
“What is the emotion that is associated with this thought?”
• And then jot down the emotion of that sentence in the margin.
I have a feeling you may find this exercise very insightful.
And you may be interested to know that more than 90% of the
people who do this exercise find that nearly every sentence they
have written is full of emotions such as fear, anger, frustration,
grief and shame.
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Emotions like fear, anger,
frustration, grief and shame do
not lead to positive, harmonious
relationships! In fact, no matter what
conscious, positive goals and intentions you
may have, emotions like these will override
anything else! This can lead you down the
wrong relationship path time and again.
Sometimes before you even take the first
step!
Yes, it’s only your unmastered emotions that

stand in the way of having the love you desire in healthy, harmonious, fulfilling
relationships.
When you remove emotions like these, you will tend to move into better
relationships with yourself and others with far greater ease and success.
“My relationship with my wife is greatly improved. We bicker far less

frequently and have a more profound understanding of each other and
a common sense of purpose. We are closer.” - David Dale, Richmond,
BC, Canada
Although we may get a really good idea of what is holding us back from
an exercise like this, many of our thoughts and feelings are subconscious,
that is, below the level of conscious awareness. These thoughts and
feelings are the most powerful. They are the software in our operating
system, running their programs day and night.
Many people who have discovered this get discouraged because they
think they have to spend hour upon hour figuring out exactly what it
is that is holding them back.
And this brings us to…

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“I have to know what my subconscious programs
are or dig up the past in order to let them go.”
People spend years in therapy and doing self-help programs looking for
underlying beliefs that are sabotaging their relationships. This can be very time-
consuming and exhausting. Never mind not any fun!
But the truth is, your subconscious thoughts and feelings are being reflected
in your moods and emotions from moment to moment. For example, when
you try to communicate something important to someone and their reaction
makes you feel like throwing something against the wall—or eating a quart
of ice cream—you do not have to run to therapy or probe your past to find a
corresponding negative belief.
So here’s exactly what to do to get at those sabotaging thoughts and

feelings…
All you have to do is to pause and release any feeling that is arising in the
moment.
A Simple Process to Release Unwanted Emotions Now

Take a moment to check inside and notice any feeling you may be
having in this moment.
Now ask yourself the following questions:
“Could I let this feeling go?” (In other words, am I able to?)
“Would I let this feeling go?” (Or, am I willing to?)
“When?” (This is an invitation to let it go now!)

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You don’t even have to name the feeling “jealousy” or know that it started
when you were eight years old and your sister got your Dad’s attention
more than you did. All you have to do is notice the feeling you are having
right now—and then let it go.
“You cannot solve a problem from the sa me consciousness that created it.
You must learn to see the world anew.” – Albert Einstein
The practice of releasing emotions as

they arise in the moment eliminates
limiting beliefs quickly, effectively and
without dredging up any past trauma.
Self-sabotaging beliefs are gone for
good.
If you want to be able to manifest

the relationships of your dreams,
you don’t need to dig up your past
or spend years in therapy. You do,
however, need the skill of being
able to change your emotional
state in the moment.
“Never in my 61 years of this life have I experienced such

freedom a nd peace. One of my gains is that I have stopped
trying to fix my husba nd of 42 years. That is one big gain!”
- Gretchen Allma ng, He met, CA
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Yes, your emotions are the glue that holds your thoughts and beliefs in place.
And your thoughts create your reality.
I know, I know. You’ve probably heard that before!
Which brings me to the next very popular cultural myth about relationships.
And that is a mantra that many people say to themselves over and over
again….
“He or she will make me happy and complete.”

If you’re searching for that perfect someone, stop! If you’re looking to find
fulfillment in any other person, don’t hold your breath. It simply will not
work out. There is a reason this thought will not manifest your happiness
and completeness as you might wish. And that is because it is tinged with
wanting. And wanting is a great way to keep things at bay. Think of it this
way: Would you rather want to be happy and complete—or would you
rather be happy and complete?
The best way to find or attract your perfect partner or to have fulfilling
relationships is to first be your own perfect partner. Most of us are
looking to complete ourselves in another person and this never
works.
As you release your fears, longing and anxiety, and even as you
release the need to find a partner or fix a relationship, suddenly
9 the energy around you will become positive. That positive

energy is the key to attracting your ideal mate or developing that healthy
relationship you are longing for.
If you allow yourself to feel your own inner completeness—that who you are
is enough—you will also bring that feeling into your relationships.
In fact, the more you feel complete with yourself and your life, the more you
will attract the people you’re looking for. It may sound hard to believe, but this
transition will be effortless because you will have changed the flow of energy in
your life. Try this exercise whenever you have thoughts or feelings of not being
enough…
I Am Enough
• Where in your life and your relationships do you

feel like “I am not enough”?
• Could you welcome whatever sensations,

sounds or pictures that idea stirs up inside of you
now?
• Could you allow whatever feelings arise in

this moment to simply be here?
• And could you allow them to dissolve, as

best you can?
• And now, could you be open to the

possibility that you are enough?
Some of you may ask, “If I am enough, why do I keep drawing this
10 into my life?”

It will be better next time.
Many of us are having the same relationship over and over again with
different people.
The patterns of our self-limiting beliefs tend to raise their head in

relationships and keep repeating themselves, drawing to us exactly what we
do not want. This process continues until we release these old patterns.
Why does this happen?
The memories of every relationship you’ve ever had, or ever witnessed

(including your parents) are stored in your subconscious. The memories
and beliefs, disappointments and past hurts are running the show,
affecting your behavior in all current relationships.
When you let go of these old patterns, you find it easier to receive
love, give love, and enjoy all your relationships—both personal and
professional.
A particularly powerful process for releasing the past and its

hold on you in the present is called the Cleanup Procedure. This
technique “cleans up” your feelings about the people around you.
Here is a sample of the questions from The Cleanup Procedure:
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Clean up Your Relationships
• Did this person try to control you? (or did it feel that way?)
If so, could you let go now of wanting to control this person back?
If so, could you let go of

resisting this person?
• Did you try to control this person?

(or did it feel that way?)
If so, would you like to change

that?
If so, could you let go now of

wanting to control this person?
• Do you now grant this person

the right to be the way they are?
You can ask yourself these

questions, before, during or
after an interaction. As you
work with this process on a
regular basis, you’ll begin to
understand its effectiveness in the integrity of all your relationships.
“Our relationship has become noticeably more calm, accepting

and loving. Instead of irritations triggering emotional upsets,
we just release and accept each other’s differences as
mysterious treasures to be enjoyed.”
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- David and Mary Lou Henry, El Paso, T X
If the relationship failed, it’s because I failed.
Another area where many of us get stuck is in feeling as if we’ve failed one or
more past relationships. These feelings can leave us paralyzed with fear about
moving into another relationship, blaming ourselves indefinitely, or feeling
guilty and ashamed of our actions or inactions.
One of the biggest lies we believe about guilt (without really thinking about it)
is that guilt can protect us from being punished. Guilt is an unconscious “I owe
you” for punishment.
When we feel guilty, we attract punishment from the world and we also create
it for ourselves.
Here’s the kicker: We never feel as though we’ve been punished enough!
What to do? You can use this simple process to let go of your self-imposed
punishment.
Ask yourself the following questions:
Letting Go of Guilt and Shame

• What is something you feel guilty or shameful about in your
relationship? (or a past relationship)
• Can you welcome whatever sensations, sounds and pictures you
have about that now?
• Does that feel like it’s coming from wanting control, approval,
security, separation or oneness?
• Could you let that want go?
• Could you let go of wanting to blame or punish yourself for
whatever happened or didn’t happen?
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Letting go of your self-imposed punishment leaves you free and
unencumbered to create and sustain healthy, loving relationships in your
life.
“I wanted to work through my childhood sexual abuse so I could allow

myself to become lovers with my husband again. Not only are my
husband and I lovers again, I a m finally able to receive and wear a
wedding ring. Thank you!” - S.G.
So here’s what we know so far:

• It’s only your own unwanted emotions that stand in the way of you
manifesting the life and relationships of your dreams.
• These emotions can be conscious or subconscious, but the subconscious

ones are the most powerful.
• The good news is that you can eliminate thoughts and feelings that
sabotage your relationship success without having to dredge up the past
or spend years in therapy. This is the way you create the optimum state
within yourself most likely to produce the results you want.
• The practice of releasing negative thoughts and emotions as they

arise sets you free from any beliefs, thoughts and feelings that stand
in the way of you creating beautiful, loving, harmonious relationships
in your life. This is the way you achieve emotional mastery—and
mastery over your own life. Releasing sets you free to have, be and
do whatever you desire.
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The Sedona Method®
The series of releasing techniques called The Sedona Method has helped
hundreds of thousands of people around the world create the life of their
dreams for over thirty years. The most popular way to learn The Sedona
Method is through a 20-CD home-study course that comes with personal
24-hour-a-day, 7-day-a-week releasing support. This course guides you step by
step in releasing your own very personal issues in relationships, and in every
area of your life.
The Sedona Method helps you to easily break the patterns of thought and
behavior that cause your self-sabotage to reoccur and prevent you from having
what you want, including successful relationships. It really is up to you and
completely within your reach.
You will also learn…

• How to fall in love with your self and your partner again
• How to deal with difficult people with grace and ease
• How to understand your partner better and have them understand you
• How to take responsibility for your own experience in relationships
• How to bring the feeling of “I am enough” into your life and your
relationships
Here’s what you receive:

• The complete program on 20 CDs in a beautifully packaged vinyl
album
• The 198-page workbook—a $30.00 value—filled with exercises that

help you get the most from these four programs
• Free 24-hour-a-day, 7-day-a-week support through The Worldwide
Releasing Community
• And, for a limited time, a bonus copy of the New York Times best-
selling book, The Sedona Method by Hale Dwoskin
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Moving Forward
into Your Relationship Success
Think of The Sedona Method as a powerful myth buster. We’ve given you a small
taste of how The Method combats common relationship myths and can help
improve every relationship in your life.
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and helpful, imagine what the full Sedona Method Course plus Effortless
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If you knew there was a key to creating mutually rewarding, harmonious

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for you, too. All you have to do is to take one step forward and accept
The Sedona Method Challenge. You have absolutely nothing to lose.
The life of your dreams is only waiting for you.

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A Special Report on

“Avoid the 5 Most Common Relationship Myths that keep

For more than three decades, Hale

Here’s an interesting statistic that got my attention. A survey of 2000

• 59% of the married women would leave if they could find

Let’s explore some of the more common relationship myths together to

“If he/she would just change, this relationship

• “If my mother-in-law wasn’t always so negative, maybe we could

You get the idea.

Your relationship with them has absolutely nothing to do with them.

Interestingly, when one individual discovers that he can simply

So, here’s a quick exercise to help you understand the emotional

“When I am thinking or talking about this relationship,

DO THIS NOW BEFORE READING ANY FURTHER!

• Now, take a look at what you have written.

“What is the emotion that is associated with this thought?”

I have a feeling you may find this exercise very insightful.

Yes, it’s only your unmastered emotions that

“My relationship with my wife is greatly improved. We bicker far less

And this brings us to…

So here’s exactly what to do to get at those sabotaging thoughts and

A Simple Process to Release Unwanted Emotions Now

Now ask yourself the following questions:

“Would I let this feeling go?” (Or, am I willing to?)

“When?” (This is an invitation to let it go now!)

The practice of releasing emotions as

If you want to be able to manifest

“Never in my 61 years of this life have I experienced such

And your thoughts create your reality.

I know, I know. You’ve probably heard that before!

“He or she will make me happy and complete.”

Copyright © 2009 Sedona Training Associates. All rights reserved.

• Where in your life and your relationships do you

• Could you welcome whatever sensations,

• Could you allow whatever feelings arise in

• And could you allow them to dissolve, as

• And now, could you be open to the

Copyright © 2009 Sedona Training Associates. All rights reserved.

The patterns of our self-limiting beliefs tend to raise their head in

Why does this happen?

The memories of every relationship you’ve ever had, or ever witnessed

A particularly powerful process for releasing the past and its

Here is a sample of the questions from The Cleanup Procedure:

If so, could you let go of

• Did you try to control this person?

If so, would you like to change

If so, could you let go now of

• Do you now grant this person

You can ask yourself these

“Our relationship has become noticeably more calm, accepting

Ask yourself the following questions:

Letting Go of Guilt and Shame

“I wanted to work through my childhood sexual abuse so I could allow

So here’s what we know so far:

• These emotions can be conscious or subconscious, but the subconscious

• The practice of releasing negative thoughts and emotions as they

You will also learn…

• How to deal with diﬃcult people with grace and ease

• How to take responsibility for your own experience in relationships

Here’s what you receive:

• The 198-page workbook—a $30.00 value—filled with exercises that

If you knew there was a key to creating mutually rewarding, harmonious