Getting

Physical:
Tips For Guys

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contents
04 Fun Facts:
Top Female Turn-Ons and Turn-Offs

06 Feature Article:
Getting the Confidence to Get Physical

07 You’re in the Driver’s Seat

08 Breaking Through the Barrier

09 The Kiss

10
T I P S
SEX
Beyond Kissing

10 Foolproof Ways to Get Her Hot

12 Get-Her-Hot Tip #10

Seeing You in Jeans

12 Get-Her-Hot Tip #9
Stepping Out of the Shower

12 Get-Her-Hot Tip #8
Stubble

12 Get-Her-Hot Tip #7
Her Feeling Good about Herself

13 Get-Her-Hot Tip #6
Kissing Her Unexpectedly

13 Get-Her-Hot Tip #5
Full-on Eye Contact

14 Get-Her-Hot Tip #4
Touching Her Hair

14 Get-Her-Hot Tip #3
Taking a Bath Together

15 Get-Her-Hot Tip #2
Working Out Together

15 Get-Her-Hot Tip #1
Telling Her You Love Her

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 F A C T S
F U N Top Female Turn-Ons and Turn-Offs

I
f a woman is going to get close to you, she has bodybuilder in board shorts. Instead, they sim-
to like what she sees. ply wanted a healthy, strong, and, above all, clean

guy.
And no matter how many articles you read about

the importance of designer clothes, expensive co- Don’t believe me? Let me list some of their re-
lognes, and salon hair products, the fact remains sponses here. Women were turned off by guys
that her basic human biology programs most of with:
a woman’s turn-ons and turn-offs … not ad cam-

paigns. »» A paunch, beer belly, or

visible gut

Women ask for a lot less than you might expect »» Bad teeth, including visible
plaque and bad breath
when it comes to looks. For example, a recent dis-

cussion thread on eHarmony.com asked women

»» A comb-over. Full-on uncon-
to list their biggest turn-ons and turn-offs. Surpris- cealed baldness is way prefer-
able to this!
ingly, these gals weren’t asking for a spray-tanned

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 If the thought of browsing the skincare aisle terri-

fies you, enlist the help of a female friend. Wom-

»» Dirty fingernails
en love giving makeovers, and she’ll be happy to
»» Hairy toes demonstrate how different products can be used

to improve your personal appearance. You’ll be

»» Bad complexion
grateful for the extra effort the next time a woman

gets close and remarks how great you smell or

On the other hand, features that turned a woman how smooth your skin is.
on included: And here’s one last tip for the grooming-phobic:

get over any preconceived notions and visit a

beauty salon now. Salons aren’t just for women
• Eyes and gay men anymore. Even the most retro-hetero
• A great smile guys are realizing that you can’t beat professional
• Big, strong hands service when it comes to taking care of your fin-
• Strong arms gernails and toes. Sad to say, I’ve noticed that feet
• Pearly whites tend to be one of the grossest parts of the male

body where hygiene is concerned, which has a

direct impact on you by inhibiting toe-sucking or

So if you’re healthy, physically fit, and practice any foot fetish your woman might have.
good hygiene, you already come out on top of

these women’s “Most Wanted” list! You’ll be amazed at how relaxing it feels to get

your fingernails and feet taken care of. Trust me,

But if you’re guilty of some of the more deadly
hygiene sins, the message is clear: get thee to a
dentist immediately, sign up at a gym, and don’t be
afraid of going overboard with your daily cleans-
ing routine. Moisturizers and waxing aren’t just
for chicks.
you’ll walk out of the salon feeling, yeah, a little
weird, but more like you’re floating on Cloud 9.
Rumor has it that manicures and pedicures are be-
coming the secret indulgence of a lot of guys. So
bite the bullet and schedule a mani/pedi for your-
self today. Your woman will be glad you did!

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 E A R T I C L E
A T U R
F E Getting the Confidence
to Get Physical

G etting physical with a woman for the first

time is one of the biggest challenges any
guy has to face. Even worse, he can’t look to her
for any help on this one, as most chicks have a
built-in “slut protector” that prevents them from
doing anything that will make them seem “easy.”
I’m going to raise my hand here: I know what it’s
like to really want to move to the next level with
a guy but feel imprisoned by my feelings about
what’s appropriate. From my discussions with
other women, I know I’m not the only female who
feels this way.
Don’t blame us women for not giving you enough
“cues” or opportunities to make a move. There’s
method in our madness. By not making it easy for
you to progress physically, we’re actually testing
you. Yes, there’s actually a reason it isn’t easy

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to get it on with women. Once you understand
that reason, you should find it easier to get the
confidence to get physical.
You’re in the Driver’s Seat
I believe that it is a man’s responsibility to move
things along physically. By observing how
smoothly he does so, I gain a lot of insight into his
character. If he can successfully move in for the
kiss and beyond, I feel more confident that he has
inner strength and a strong sense of leadership. I
also know that he’s the sort of person to pursue
what he wants rather than wait passively for it to
be given to him. That’s sexy.
But if a man keeps hinting about moving things
to the next level without actually ever making a
move himself, I get frustrated and ultimately feel
disappointed. This happens more often than you
might think. There are a lot of guys out there who
lead women on but never actually have the guts to
go for that first kiss.
Here’s a story to illustrate what I mean.
I went out with this super-hot guy about three
times. The first time, we just met for a few beers
and found out we got along great. We left the bar
around 2am, and instead of walking me to a taxi –
which would have given him the opportunity for a
goodbye kiss – he just waved goodbye and headed
off in his own direction. That was a doubly bad
move on his part: not only was I left wondering
whether he was actually interested, but he’d also
shown his lack of gentlemanly qualities by leaving
me alone and on foot in a rough neighborhood.
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So, when we met up the next time about a month
later, I was wary of whether this was going to be
just a friendship or anything else. We had a great
evening, watching a band and hanging out, and
by 2am we were cuddled up on a sofa watching a
rugby game on the big screen in the back room of
the bar. He had his arm around me – score!
This time he offered to walk me to a taxi, and we
happily set off into the night. He suggested a de-
tour to walk around the square, where street musi-
cians played in the shadow of a brightly-lit cathe-
dral. It was the perfect romantic opportunity, but
still he failed to make his move.
By the time he put me in the taxi, I was deflated.
This clearly wasn’t going anywhere. We had one
more date, but by that time I figured he was never
going to get up the courage to do anything. Our
budding romance had transformed into a some-
what blah friendship.
I wish I could say that this was a once-off, but it’s
a normal experience for many women. Once, I
even invited a fellow back home to my apartment
after an evening out, but, instead of getting inti-
mate, he just drank his cup of coffee and called
for a taxi!
If you’re going to break through the no-touch bar-
rier with a woman, you’ve got to recognize that
this is a test. She is waiting to see if you have the
guts and social proficiency to touch her in a way
that feels natural and comfortable.
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Breaking Through the
No-Touch Barrier
M ost guys fail because they see any form of
touch as an implicit agreement to have sex.
In other words, they think that because a woman
has allowed them to have their arm around her or
kiss her a few times, she’s ready and rearing to go
to bed with them.
Wrong.
Taking things slowly is crucial to building antici-
pation. If you can feel comfortable touching her
in a casual, non-sexual way, then you can bet that
she’s thinking what your hands would feel like on
other parts of her body. Let her wonder. It’s good
for her!
If you’re consistently blowing it or freezing up
when it comes to getting physical, you need to
scale things right back and start off with the ba-
sics: how comfortable you feel with human touch
in general. Ask yourself these questions:
• Do you feel comfortable touching
someone you just met, whether
male or female?
• Do you often hug your friends
when saying goodbye?
• If you have siblings or kids in
your family under the age of 10,
are you okay with picking them
up, giving them hugs, or hold-
ing their hand to cross the street?
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• Would you ever touch someone
on the arm to get their attention?
• Can you place your hand on a
woman’s back to guide her across
a room without it feeling weird or
sexual?
Don’t blame yourself if you answered no to most
of these questions. Unfortunately, many of us –
male and female alike – have so little opportunity
for human touch that we misconstrue any form of
touch as sexual.
But you’ve got to change that attitude if you’re go-
ing to be successful with women. Repeat after
me: touching doesn’t have to be sexual! You can
touch someone to comfort them, show that you
care about them, get their attention, or tease them.
Touching a woman you’re interested in doesn’t
have to be any different than touching one of your
friends.
Your task is to get good at casual, non-sexual
touching, so that when you touch a woman, it
feels completely natural and easy. You need to
make sure that she feels comfortable with your
touch (and touching you back) before you try for
that first kiss.
There are a lot of ways you can touch a woman
without it being sexual. Touch her arm to make a
point. Put your hand on the small of her back or
take her hand as you guide her across a crowded
room. If friends come over to join you table, sling
your arm over her shoulders as you introduce her
as your “new buddy.” Make room by sliding over
so that you’re sitting super-close, then laugh and
move back. Ask her what perfume she’s wearing
and lean in for a sniff. Dance with her, tickle her,
tease her, or even pretend to read her palm!
At first, she may freeze or flinch or resist your
touch. Don’t overreact; she’s probably used to a
lot of guys coming onto her too fast. Just tone
things down a bit: touch her more lightly and give
her a bit more personal space.
You can also make a woman more comfortable
with your touch if you show her that you’re natu-
rally the kind of guy who hugs his friends. Give
one of your female friends a hug. Slap a male
buddy on the back. Grab a friend’s hand and pull
them over to the bar. When the woman you’re
interested in sees you touching other people, she
may wish that she was the one who had that kind
of easy familiarity with you.
The Kiss
O nce she feels comfortable touching and be-
ing touched by you, you know that you’ve
got an open door to try for that first kiss.
The most important aspect of kissing someone for
the first time is that it feels natural. Don’t wait all
night trying to screw up the courage and then end
up kissing her at a completely inappropriate mo-
ment.
Rather, understand that you’ve got all the time in
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the world. You don’t need to rush yourself; you’re
not on any deadline. Better to kiss her at the per-
fect moment, when both of you are ready, than to
try too soon and scare her off.
Some guys feel like they “have” to kiss a woman,
or they’ll lose their chance with her. Putting that
kind of pressure on yourself will just make you
freeze up or give the worst kiss of your life. Speak-
ing from experience, I can assure you that a per-
son’s lips are windows into their soul. A man who
is relaxed, into the moment, and at peace with
himself will kiss in an incredibly intuitive, passion-
ate, and sensitive way. A man who’s nervous and
just kissing just for the sake of getting through the
preliminaries before sex, will kiss in a way that’s
hard, suffocating, and jerky. That’s so not on!
When you kiss a woman, your only focus should
be on having a magical moment with her, express-
ing how close you feel towards her, and enjoying
the pleasure of being in her company. You should
never kiss just because you feel obligated to or be-
cause it’s one more thing to check off before you
can have a physical relationship with her.
With kissing, as with touch in general, take it slow.
Don’t automatically go for the tongue or touch-
ing no-go areas like the breasts and butt. Learn
to enjoy the simple satisfaction of feeling close to
someone. Look into her eyes between kisses and
see what you can read there. A smile from you
may be all she needs to reassure her that you’re
kissing her because you care about her, not be-
cause you just want to jump into bed with her.
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 With kissing, as with all other forms of touch,
women have an automatic “slut protector” that
keeps them wary of your intentions. If she suspects
that all you’re after is sex, she will close down and
turn off.
You already have all the information you need
about how far she’ll go. Just keep a part of your
head clear and notice, while you’re kissing, wheth-
er she’s pushing her groin into yours, wrapping her
arms around you, and getting lost in your kisses.
If she’s throwing herself into the experience with
abandon, you’ll know that she’s attracted to you
just as much as you are to her.
If, on the other hand, her body is rigid, her lips are
tight, and she won’t meet your eyes, you’ll know
that you need to stop and give her space. She may
not want to kiss you but be afraid to say so, or she
may just be feeling uncomfortable with the whole
situation. Either way, you need to back off and
give her some space. One idea is to end the kiss
by taking her hand and kissing her fingers, then
stepping away. This shows her that you’re still at-
tracted to her, but that you won’t push the situa-
tion.
Beyond Kissing
I f you haven’t got to first base many times before,
I suggest that you master this stage before trying
to go for sex. You need to feel comfortable and
confident kissing women before progressing to the
next stage.
Getting physical with a woman is like anything
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else: it takes practice to improve your skills. Some
men believe that it’s important to practice their
skills as a lover on women they don’t care about
very much, so that they’ll have the know-how they
need when they meet someone they really like.
But even this isn’t foolproof. I’ve heard stories from
many men who find it difficult to get physical with
women that they’re super-attracted to. Some even
find that they have a hard time getting it up with a
gorgeous woman, because of all the pressure they
put on themselves.
For me, the solution is obvious: don’t take the
game so seriously. As great as it is to make out
and go home with a girl, it’s only one part of your
entire life. Not getting laid doesn’t make you a
failure, any more than getting laid makes you the
world’s greatest Casanova. It only matters if you
think it matters.
Bolster your confidence by getting rid of the idea
that sex is a competition to see if you can con-
quer the girl and get the reward. Women would
agree that sex is NOT a win-or-lose proposition.
Rather, it’s an opportunity to feel close to another
human being, and it doesn’t matter whether you
do it “right” or not.
So do the women of the world a favor and start get-
ting physical. They’re yearning for human contact
just as much as you are. They want you to touch
them, hold them, and reassure them that they’re
lovely and desirable. You’ve just got to get over
your fear of the first touch or first kiss.
Go on – you can do it!
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E X T I P S
S 10 Foolproof Ways to Get Her Hot

Okay, so women aren’t always that easy to turn on. When you’ve been
together for a while, sex can become routine. It’s not so easy to turn one
another with just a glance and a wink.

That’s why I’ve compiled this list of 10 No-Fail Female Turn-ons, culled from
a report by Women’s Health magazine. No sexual gymnastics or model-
perfect body necessary; just good old-fashioned sex tips from the mouths of
women themselves!

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 #10
This does NOT mean you’ve got full rein to throw
Get-Her-Hot Tip:
Seeing You in Jeans away the razor, though. The study found that men
with beards were considered the least attractive
Yes, seeing you in a pair of slim-fitting jeans and and worst prospect for short-term relationships.
nothing else will make her heart go flip-flop. Grizzly Adams and Jesus aside, beards are a serious
Jeans show off male assets to their best advantage, chick-repellant.
highlighting your cute butt and angular hips.
You may also find that your work performance
A perfectly fitted pair of jeans is worth its weight in
improves with the addition of some facial hair. The
gold when it comes to attracting female attention.
study found that clean-shaven men were considered
Don’t be tempted to buy jeans two sizes too big
to lack qualities such as masculinity, dominance,
in an attempt to look “gangsta” or cool. You want
and aggression. Researcher hypothesized that this
jeans that show off your ass, not ones that make you
was because clean-shaven men look youthful and
look like you’ve got a balloon down your pants.
therefore less mature.

#9 Get-Her-Hot Tip:
Stepping Out of the Shower
And here’s one reason to grow stubble that you
can’t beat: a few extra minutes to sleep in in the
morning!
Ooo, baby. There’s nothing hotter than a man
who’s just stepped out of the shower. Whether it’s
knowing that the only thing separating his naked
skin from hers is a fluffy white towel, or whether
#7 Get-Her-Hot Tip:
Her Feeling Good about Herself

it’s the deeee-lish odor of steam and soap, a man

who’s just out of the shower is ripe for ravishing.
So, the next time you step out of the shower, grab
your woman and give her a kiss. Freshly-washed
skin is truly irresistible.
Okay, this may seem like a strange idea. Why
should she get aroused more easily when she
feels good about herself? Isn’t arousal about
something external, e.g., what you do to her?
Speaking as a woman, I can definitively say NO.
A woman’s ability to be turned on by a man is

#8 Get-Her-Hot Tip:
Stubble
The research is in, and the results are clear.
Women go gooey over men with stubble.
Researchers at Northumbria University in the U.K.
found that men with light stubble are considered
the most attractive of all facial hair types, as well
as being the ideal romantic partner for both short-
and long-term relationships.
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strongly influenced by how she feels about herself
at that moment. If she’s feeling happy and positive,
she’ll respond more readily to her lover’s advances
than if she’s feeling depressed and down about
herself. (A strong scientific link exists in both sexes
between depression and lack of sexual desire.)
You can help her feel good about herself by
complimenting her and verbally appreciating her
whenever she does something positive for herself,
like exercising, wearing sexy lingerie, or going to
the salon. A woman will make more of an effort
with her body when she knows that her man notices
and appreciates her efforts.
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#6
Get-Her-Hot Tip:
Kissing Her Unexpectedly
When you’re with the same partner for a while,
your sex life starts to become habitual. You know
what each others’ kisses mean and when to expect
them. You have the same sexual routine: five
minutes of kissing, ten minutes of foreplay, and
then the main course.
Arousal is fueled by anticipation and the
unexpected, so it’s no wonder that it becomes
harder to get turned on with the same partner the
longer you’re together. You know each other inside
and out, so nothing is a surprise anymore.
You can introduce surprise – and desire – back
into your relationship by doing things out of the
ordinary. Kiss her when she least expects it. Try
kissing her in unexpected places, like her shoulder
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or neck. Pretend you’re teenagers again and make
out in the darkened car one evening.
Go a step further by mixing up your sexual
routine. Try spending twenty minutes just kissing
and caressing one another, without engaging in
sex. One of the biggest desire-killers in long-term
couples is fatigue, so try having sex at different
times of the day rather than always just before bed.
Your imagination is the best weapon against getting
bored, so make good use of it!
#5 Get-Her-Hot Tip:
Full-on Eye Contact
When was the last time you looked deeply into the
eyes of your beloved and shared a lingering,
longing gaze? If you’re like many long-term
couples, the answer is ages ago. It’s almost as if
you’ve seen your girl’s face so many times that you
already know what she looks like by heart and
don’t feel any need to look again.
It’s unfortunate, because you can learn a lot by
making eye contact with your partner. You can
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 read how she feels just by looking into her eyes.
Sometimes, of course, that’s precisely why we
avoid eye contact: we don’t want to know what’s
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on our partner’s mind! But, if we do, we’re missing INSERT P
out. Locking eyes is one of the quickest and easiest
routes to sexual arousal. Limiting it to new lovers
is a shame.

It can feel like quite an effort to make direct eye

contact with someone that you see every day, but it’s
worth it. You might try turning off the television in
the evenings and talking with one another instead.
When you give her a kiss, gaze into her eyes and
smile. An especially effective time to lock eyes is
when you give her a compliment or tell that you
love her. Your gaze can literally make her weak at
the knees, so use it!
#3 Get-Her-Hot Tip:
Taking a Bath Together

#4 Get-Her-Hot Tip:
Touching Her Hair
There’s a reason that hot tubs or Jacuzzis have a
reputation as being the perfect place for dirty
deeds. Hot water gets the blood circulating and
Touching a woman’s hair can be an incredible
heats up the libido.
turn-on both for you and for her. The head is full of
nerve endings and can feel amazing when stroked. Even if you don’t have your own private spa, you
Even something as simple as brushing your wom- can still get hot and steamy at home by running
an’s hair can make her feel electrified. (Another
a warm bath. Invest in some luxurious bubble
often-ignored place is the feet. Try giving her a foot
bath with a fragrance that both of you enjoy, and
massage!)
don’t forget the loofah. Wash her, then have her
wash you. Touching one another while wet makes
Try this. The next time you’re feeling in the mood
for some nooky, run your fingers through your everything slippery and extremely erotic. Just take

woman’s hair and tell her how beautiful her hair care to postpone sex until you’re out of the tub if
is. Give her scalp a gentle massage. You’ll feel oh- you plan to use a condom.
so-close and will also find yourself in the perfect
position for some X-rated cuddling.

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 #2 Get-Her-Hot Tip:
Working Out Together
If you haven’t had sex after exercise, you’re missing
out. This is one of my all-time favorite tips, because
it works so well for both men and women. Exercise
gets the blood circulating, limbers up those
muscles, and enhances a feeling of relaxation and
well-being. With all those endorphins pumping
through your system, you can’t help but feel ready
for action. Just make sure you know beforehand
whether she’s into sweaty sex. Some girls get
grossed out by body odor, so it can help to shower
off before you get close.
In my Triple ‘O’ Guide to Female Orgasms, I explain
some research that shows how this get-hot tip
works.
A 2005 study by Dr. Gert Holstege from the University
of Groningen revealed that, during the female
orgasm, areas in the brain associated with fear and
alertness shut down. (The male brain, on the other
hand, is much more active in processing sensory
input from the genitals.) Dr. Holstege concluded that
the most important condition for achieving orgasm
for women was feeling protected, safe, and deeply
relaxed, while men needed physical stimulation.

So, when you have a deep, loving connection with

INSE a woman, you enable her to relax and feel safe
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OTO around you. She can allow herself
HE RE
to relinquish control and
abandon herself to the sexual
experience without feeling self-
conscious or awkward.

If, however, she doesn’t trust you,

feels like you don’t care about her,
or is harboring bad feelings from
a recent argument, she will have a
hard time getting in the mood for sex.
She will literally be unable to turn off
her brain and enjoy the sensations of
lovemaking. Your job at that point is not

#1 Get-Her-Hot Tip:
Telling Her You Love Her
to continue foreplay in hopes she’ll warm
up, but rather to reassure her of your love
and the deep emotional connection you share.

Yes, it’s true: being loved puts women in the

mood to make love. The more you love you and So there you have it, 10 Get-Her-Hot Tips to spice

demonstrate your love for her, the more attracted up your love life, no matter how long you’ve been

to you she’s going to feel. together! Try one of them or all of them today.

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