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Spanish wedding are a large gathering of friends and family members, who have
come to celebrate the coming together of two souls, in high fashion. Under Spanish Law,
two foreigners may only marry in Spain if one of the parties is a legal resident. Traditionally,
before married, groom gives the bride͛s father a watch after his proposal is accepted. The
groom also gives the bride a gift 13 coins called ͞las arras͟, it means to symbolize his
commitment to support her. And the bride carries those coins to the wedding ceremony to
be blessed by the Priest. When they are wedding, traditionally, the bride wears a black silk
wedding dress and a black lace veil, but today most brides in Spanish wear white. The veil is
part of the wedding dress and it is symbolized God͛s protection. And also the flowers are
usually Orange Blossom͛s, called ͞Azahares͟ they represent happiness and fulfillment. The
wedding ceremony is held in the evening. Godparent (padrinos) is chosen to guide the
couple through their married life. A cord (el lazo) ceremony symbolizes that marriage is for
life. The couple is wrapped with a cord into the shape of a rosary. This is done after the
vows or at the reception. As the couple leave church they are greeted with firecrackers. In
reception, Spanish people do not have speeches at all. There is a head table is for six
people- the bride, groom and their parents. Traditionally, music of Spanish and Latin origin
along with folk dance is played by a ͞Mariachis band͟. Guests dance a ͞seguidillas
manchegas͟ or money dance with the bride or groom. The dance is to symbolize prosperity
and financial security for the newlyweds. Spanish wedding receptions are notoriously fiesta,
lavish gatherings. It usually takes the bride and groom awhile before getting to the
reception to sit down and eat, so guests are served a variety of different appetizers. Such as
Tapas, or an Artichoke Flower stuffed with iberico Ham in a clam sauce. Commonly a fiesta
of seafood͛s including Paella, a delicious seafood rice stew; Sangria, red wine punch;
Bizcochitos, rich spicy cut-out cookies and sponge cake with fruit and almonds. Dishes made
with great care, are served as soon as the newlywed are announced, and seated. The
wedding cake is cut by the couple, who must give each other a piece to eat, symbolizing
their shared future. The other activity, men are given Cigars, a scented gift for women. The
bride also hands out a pin to unmarried ladies who wear them upside down. If the pin falls
 out of her attire, sometime during the night, she believed to be the next one to be married.
After the bride and groom have stayed to see their very last guest off, they are sent to a
quiet place to rest. Many Spanish couples stay right there in Spain during their honeymoon.
Celebrating their new lives together somewhere off. And Spain has many romance and
great naturally beauty place.

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Wedding in Indonesia are very important events and can be relatively simple
gatherings held at home and attended by family, neighbors and close friends, or more often
very large parties with hundreds and even thousands of guests. In these cases the parents
of the bride and groom invite all of their friends, acquaintances and business colleagues,
some of whom may have never previously met the bridal couple. It is not just a simple
matter of a man and a woman exchanging vows, but rather a social event involving the
whole extended family. A wedding is an opportunity to repay hospitality received from
others and to display one͛s wealth and standing in the community. It is also the time when
even the most modern Indonesians revert to time-honored traditions and follow the
customs and ceremonies of their respective ethnic groups. Guests are usually invited to only
the wedding reception, while the actual wedding ceremony and traditional customs, which
may go on for several days, are usually reserved for family and close friends. Traditional
ceremonies associated with a wedding vary from region to region, but may include a
gathering for the bridegroom͛s family to present gifts to the bride͛s family, like in Java,
bathing ceremonies prior to the wedding for both the bride and groom, and a very touching
custom by which the bride and groom each kneel down in front of their respective parents
to ask for forgiveness for any mistake, they may have made and receive their parent͛s
blessings. The actual wedding itself involves a religious rite of some kind. According to
Indonesian law, it is impossible for couples from different religions marry here and one of
the parties has to convert to the other͛s religion. The civil registry office merely has the task
of registering marriages that have taken place according to the couple͛s religious beliefs.
Printed invitations to a wedding are usually delivered only one to two weeks before the
event, in spite of the fact that it has no doubt been planned and organized months ahead.
The date of the wedding is often determined according to the time that is considered
auspicious by the Javanese or Muslim calendar. The month of Rajab, just before the fasting
month of Ramadan, is considered a particularly good time for weddings. A wedding
reception may be held during the daytime or in the evening and usually lasts for two or
three hours. It is not necessary to arrive promptly at the time given.
At the end of the street or in front of the building where a wedding will take place a janur
will be erected. This comprises one or a pair of tall bamboo stalks to which is attached an
intricately designed hanging decoration made of young coconut leaves. It is all
biodegradable and will start to turn brown after a couple of days. What you should wear to
a wedding depends on the time of day and where the reception is held. For men a good
quality long-sleeved batik shirt is appropriate, but a suit would be more correct for an
evening wedding held in a 5-star hotel. For ladies a smart casual outfit is fine for daytime
but you should get more dressed up in the evening. Indonesian ladies can be seen wearing
their regional outfits in a bright array of colors, complete with lots of gold jewelry. Instead
of a gift most people give money, which should be in a small sealed envelope with or
without a card. When you arrive at the reception venue there will be some tables with
guest books where you write your name. Place your envelope into the slotted receptacle
provided and the young ladies at the receiving tables will give you a small token of some
sort with a card thanking you for your presence on behalf of the bridal couple and their
parents. No other thank you letter will be sent later. Older couples will usher you in to the
main room where you will probably see the bride and groom and their parents on a
platform at the far end of the room. Sometimes they will greet guests immediately at the
door. If you arrive on time there may be some speeches and musical or dancing
entertainment. Guests are then invited to form a line to come up to the stage and give their
congratulations to the bridal party. It is customary to say ͞Selamat!͟ to the parents and
͞Selamat bahagia!͟ to the bride and groom, or just simply ͞Congratulations!͟ As a foreigner
and distinguished guest you may be asked to stop and pose for a photograph with the bridal
party. The bridal couple will be dressed in elaborate costumes according to what part of
 Indonesia their family originally comes from. Very often they will wear outfits from different
regions for different parts of the ceremonies. The stage and room will also be decorated
with flowers and traditional decorations. Having greeted the bridal party you are now free
to mingle with other guests and enjoy the refreshments provided. A buffet meal will be
served, frequently offering far more choices and variety than anyone could possibly eat.
Alcohol is almost never served. It is not necessary to stay until the end of the time allotted
and whenever you have eaten enough you are free to leave. Attending a wedding can
certainly be a fascinating experience and can give you some insights into Indonesian culture.

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If we compare about wedding between Spanish and Indonesia, there are some
differences and also the similarities. In Indonesia, guests are usually invited to only the
wedding reception, while the actual wedding ceremony and traditional customs, which may
go on for several days, are usually reserved for family and close friends, it͛s different with
Spain. Indonesia, the date of the wedding is often determined according to the time that is
considered auspicious by the Javanese or Muslim calendar, but in Spain, if the couple fell
compatible, they will married soon, without determined the time. Wedding attire in
Indonesia is depends on the time of day and where the reception is held. For men a good
quality long-sleeved batik shirt is appropriate, but a suit would be more correct for an
evening wedding held in a 5-star hotel. For ladies a smart casual outfit is fine for daytime
but you should get more dressed up in the evening. Indonesian ladies can be seen wearing
their regional outfits in a bright array of colors, complete with lots of gold jewelry, according
to what part of Indonesia their family originally comes from. In Spain, the bride wears a
black silk wedding dress and a black lace veil, but today most brides in Spanish wear white.
The veil is part of the wedding dress and it is symbolized God͛s protection. And also the
flowers are usually Orange Blossom͛s, called ͞Azahares͟ they represent happiness and
fulfillment. Wedding ceremony in Spain is held in the evening. In Indonesia is also like that.
But sometime, Indonesia does that during one day. In Indonesia, instead of a gift most
people give money, which should be in a small sealed envelope with or without a card.
When you arrive at the reception venue there will be some tables with guest books where
you write your name. Place your envelope into the slotted receptacle provided and the
young ladies at the receiving tables will give you a small token of some sort with a card
thanking you for your presence on behalf of the bridal couple and their parents, but in
Spain, they bring the prize and no guest books. And also in Indonesia there is no guests
dance or dance together just like Spain, if any, it͛s seldom to do. Indonesia, guests are then
invited to form a line to come up to the stage and give their congratulations to the bridal
party. It is customary to say ͞Selamat!͟ to the parents and ͞Selamat bahagia!͟ to the bride
and groom, or just simply ͞Congratulations!͟ As a foreigner and distinguished guest you
may be asked to stop and pose for a photograph with the bridal party. In Spain, commonly
people are served seafood͛s including Paella, a delicious seafood rice stew; Sangria, red
wine punch; Bizcochitos, rich spicy cut-out cookies and sponge cake with fruit and almonds.
Dishes made with great care, are served as soon as the newlywed are announced, and
seated. In Indonesia, A buffet meal will be served, frequently offering far more choices and
variety than anyone could possibly eat. Alcohol is almost never served. And in Indonesia, is
not necessary to stay until the end of the time allotted and whenever you have eaten
enough you are free to leave. Attending a wedding can certainly be a fascinating experience
and can give you some insights into Indonesian culture. And it͛s also Spain culture. About
honeymoon, in Spain the couple will be sent to a quiet place to rest. Many Spanish couples
stay right there in Spain during their honeymoon. But in Indonesia, not all couple can go
honeymoon, honeymoon is done just by rich people commonly.