Lack of communication can end a friendship

To make and retain friends, we have to communicate with them

201921692 KIM SUE YEON

How many friends have you made? And how did you make them? When I

was young, I could not make friends well because I was so timid and shy. I always

waited until anybody approached me first. When nobody approached me, I was

lonely that year. After this experience, I tried to approach others first. And I

started to have my own friends. Other friends came closer to me first when I

began to open my mind first. I realized something through this experience.

Approach makes human relationship and there are various approach methods.

Among these various methods, many people use communication. I used it too

and made many friends. If I wanted to be familiar with someone, I found her and

tried to talk with her. Communication is the start of relationship. Other ways also

exist but communication is the main method.

There are many movies and cartoons about making friends. For example,

there is a movie <Good bye my friend>. Erik and Dexter are the main characters

of that movie. In that movie, Erik moved neighborhood of Dexter who had AIDS

and lived a time-limited life. Erik visited Dexter’s house and Erik tried to

communicate with Dexter. So they became the best friends. One day, Erik got to
know the existence of AIDS medicine. They got into adventures to cure Dexter’s

disease. But Dexter’s illness got worse. At the end of the story, Dexter died and

Erik revered his memory sincerely. In this movie, I can realize a real friendship.

And I want to become a person who can care a friend heartily. Erik approached

Dexter through communication. Without communication, we do not know the

person’s name and personality. Through communication, we can understand that

person’s information and make a judgment if I can be a friend with her or not.

Though we make friends, retaining friends is also an assignment. Many

couples are broken because of long distance relationship. Why long distance

couples are broken easily? That is because they cannot talk with each other often.

They only can talk with each other through messages and calling. If calling and

messages become decreased, couples become unconcerned about each other

and then broken. Friendship is same as love. Although they were very familiar,

without communication they cannot retain their friendship. We can form a

consensus when we communicate with each other. Also, face to face interaction is

an important component. Forming a consensus only through phone and mail

does not work well. That communication happens in the restricted situation.

Imagine how you lost your friends. Fighting may be the cause of losing friends

among many reasons. But you lost your friends unintentionally because of lack of

communication too.
 I made many friends and had funny time with them. But most of my

childhood friends became different class. Becoming different class meant we

could not talk to each other like before. That situation made us contact hard and

we made other new friends respectively. I experienced this repeatedly and I only

retain high school friends until now. A high school student’s life was so harsh

time and was so terrible. This made stronger feeling of solidarity. Students were

busy and were dependent on each other more. Dependence made more

communication and this consensus remains until now. Of course, I try to contact

with them and make a promise regularly. Because I know the rule that without

communication people become unfamiliar. The lack of communication makes the

lack of information of how they live and makes less interests in them. Many

adults say that high school friends maintain forever. I did not agree that opinion

but now I can agree it. High school friends have strong friendships than

elementary and middle school friends. Because we grow enough to know how

important friends are and how retain them when we are high school students.

Humans are the animals who cannot live alone. Because humans are social

animals. This modern times say humans become independent more and more.

For example, many restaurants that can eat alone are increasing. But most people

think the person who has no friend is strange. That awareness is not a right thing

but this is the proof of humans’ instinct. Humans need others’ helps to retain

their lives. A baby needs parents’ helps and students need teachers’ helps.
Employees need a good relationship with boss if you want to be promoted.

Humans enter into a connection with others continually. Making friends is one of

the various processes of humans’ life. This process is important so we learn and

practice this at school first. We realize the importance of existence of friends and

know how make and retain them as we grow. The main method is

communication. If we try to communicate with our friends, we can make and

retain them.