Be really helpful just to get a quick scan of how many people if you can raise

your hand if you know nothing about the any Graham or you know just a little.
Okay wonderful run the right place this cell could give just a brief overview of the
Graham I know it's hard for God is not an easy soundbite of well the anagram
mostly people learn about it about. First off is that it breaks human character.I did
nine fundamental components of the ideas that we have all nine of the minutes
but one of them is our default setting. It's what we do when the chips are down
and here's where it gets interesting to the point of view, what we looking at this
conference is that it's what we do when we are not mindful it's a study of the
automatic patterns that tend to take over our life will were not present. Now,
what's interesting about the way we learn to work with the any Graham is. It's not
just about going around putting numbers on, but noxious, but it's it becomes a
tool for mindfulness because when we notice the patterns that we usually take
ourselves to be where all identified with some large percentage of our waking life.
We have a way of remembering to come back. The presence of mindfulness. If I
find my main habits of inattentiveness, even if those look like productivity or
being on top of things. There's a way that that becomes a reminder come back
come back come back to yourself. Find your body on your heart. Find your inner
quiet and so really, although the popular version of it is like just figure out which
of these nine types. II always remind people you are not a type, type what you
are not the type it's it's it's a form that our consciousness takes and so my point
of view is is that this was designed for people interested in being awake. It was
designed out of spiritual tradition as a tool for us to remember our consciousness
and the consciousness of the other person. So for me that Seth is also a symbol.
I guess I should say that it's a symbol that goes back to Pythagoras, but that's
another story. Yes, I quote I as I was preparing that I think is relevant. Graham in
its original presentation has to do with present has to deal with really being in and
letting the moment which is the only moment we have and it helps us see the
capacities we have supported living in the moment, but it also helps us see what
we do instead of letting comments to any Graham gives us some answers about
why we don't live so in any Graham can you give an overview of maybe how
ways that people don't live in the moment share that was interesting and they will
come back to this is that when we presence the patterns that make us forget
ourselves there transmuted into gifts that actually help us live our life it's it's like
are our greatest gifts have been hijacked into sustaining up a kind of self system,
and as we see that with compassion and that's a very important part of it were
neither acquiescing and just go that's me, nor are we rejecting it there. There is
this quality behind each of the nine anagram types of points that comes forward.
So some of the ways we do that we break it down in the anagram to the ideal
body, heart and mind. There are other elements of it, but we are we trade in
presence of the body for either a kind of dull resistance. Hell no, I won't flow fine
just the way I am just accept me like I am, etc. and there's a kind of rigidity
stubbornness set in our ways habitual right or the other version of that is what I
call the decapitated chicken were running around doing all kinds of things might
even be doing yoga and exercise but were not hearing any of it were just like that
and were not present in our body. I had the fund years ago talking with a whole
bunch of yoga teachers that the Esalen Institute about refreshing our yoga by
learning to be inhabited and we do that through sensation sensation is one of the
components of mindfulness and its we could take the intelligence of the body
communicating sensation breath sensation in the heart were either shut down
and we know what numbed out and we know what we might not know it but
where there's a distance from our emotions, but the other side of that is being
emotionally touchy and thinking of ourselves as a person in our heart when
everything pushes our buttons. That's a good sign were not in our heart are the
true putting the heart is not that it's it's it's a signal it's the hearts way of saying
come back to me come back to me when everything is Yosemite smiles at me
and made my day. And somebody doesn't smile at me and on angry or frustrated
or crushed in writing little stories in my head and then similarly with the mind
when were not present in the center them were either kind of dough. I called
Shirley teenager mind, though I sometimes he put a loose glow on that I'm about
the I don't need to know anything right is just that kind of I abandon that part of
me and I'm proud the other side of that is where images are mine is chattering
were not really thinking and in both cases were not in our head the true nature of
mind is what were looking for in mindfulness the true nature of mine is crisp,
clear, attentive, focused I that that's how we know were coming into the headset
where when we start to feel more a kind of non-locatable kindness and
gentleness and patience that we know were coming into the domain of the heart
and when we start to actually feel are but in the chair. I'm actually here in this
room these people. I then we start to know our bodies online. The ideas in the
anagram is you don't want to play favorites with sinners is that there's no
advantage in being 1/3 of a human being. So were were learning to bring them
together and allying them in mindfulness of presence is the medium that can
bring these very different intelligences in the human being into alignment. That's
really for me what the core the anagrams about you had a shirt on. That said
identity is an illusion which I found very fascinating. For in any Graham teacher
there a lot of people take the anagram to just type so is this due to your
background in studying meditation or chair plan. Well, I think that the II got my
degree at Columbia you in in Buddhist studies actually, so I was very well trained
in the perspective of Buddhism clasped Buddhism but I also think that we have
an identity, but it's not fixed. You can't draw a picture of your identity, you can
draw symbols of it if you like, but they'll just be a symbol of an aspect of identity
for me is mystery we talk about it in relation to .4 on the anagram but .4 is a type
but it's also search for our true identity and we discover it through the realization
of beauty of intimacy in a moment of intimacy like you know were herein, the
ideas of who we are what we are what's going on here, fall away, where informed
by a bigger mystery and to me this is a signpost were coming closer to identity.
So this is I kind of think I know who I am. I'm probably lost in the woods. I think it
was Anya Chante said looking for yourself and not finding yourself is finding
yourself that's very tight for you started going a little incident types you wanted to
steal a brief overview sure. I think that is a lot of you are new to it. While I like to
start with a and people say what you start with one recently start with a is the
891. All three of them have to do with embodiment and the challenges to
embodiment and whether were going to be in that kind of resistance or or activity,
or whether were going to inhabit our bodies so there about the opportunities and
challenges that so eight is about our fundamental aliveness that when people are
present there more life the more vital their morgue. You'll get more immediate in
their expression and we are that person were experiencing things more directly,
more unmediated and less filters were just right here in our experience, there's
power in that so eight is about power and it's about being in our body with
enough life force and strength that we can bear to have my heart open. It's being
strong enough to love and so we are, we look at that and then we look at the
character structure. What do human beings do when they lose that so we either
toughen ourselves up if were unable to let things get to us. We harden ourselves,
or we just say one dead. That's okay with me. Something told the nine is the sits
at the top of the anagram. It's was very fundamental nine is about that great
question from Hamlet to be or not to be and it's the study of how much of life
would not be how much were not here. How much were on autopilot, even
morbidly, very skillful things even warmer running meetings and so forth. We're
not really here embodied in our experience of nine is about a capacity to land to
come home to our the only moment we have this living reality that were part of
and when we come home into our body feel more connected with the living
universe. And there's a sense of harmony that's restored and that's the journey of
the 91. We're not that this is very popular for people who are not nines in the
spiritual world we create trances to take us out of the moment and we become
identified with internal states were trances that we get annoyed that the world is
messing with our presence. The world is presence, my friends, he can't mess
with presence right we can get kind of in that namaste state where were not
really here, so there's a sense it and this is all fine work. This is not something
anybody showed me when I started off but to discriminate the difference between
being truly landed really here with you and being in my happy inner world that I
basically shut out being affected by the world. Enlightenment is not schizoid
detachment so the one is about when were present. We, the sense of the
goodness of the world is restored. This loose we feel the sacredness of the
moment and it doesn't matter if there's something good happening or not I am
going to a family tragedy right now and I've been at the side many people dying
and I would imagine some of you have two and when you're with someone even
in that moment. If you're there present there something needlessly sacred about
that moment the dignity that person's journey and yours. You remember
something. I was in New York on September 11 and four days. This quality of just
something holding our city was just palpable and what is like we were
remembering something for little while, so that sense of the sacredness the
goodness of reality also makes us want to mature wants to make us allying with
what's good in real in us. So the journey of the one is the restoration of that
sense of goodness and sacredness of what really matters to us as an oddly you
find that through the body. When you learn. Meditation is the first thing they focus
on right your posture you give your ass another night writer you are you sitting
are you in your body and the way the energies can flow in moving you all these
things have been known throughout history. This just another way of looking at it
and see what may have dropped off of our attention so the two hour switching
under the heart center. The 234 about the heart. The two is that part of our heart
goes out to people that just goes out to others, sees a cute animal or even a tree.
I know to love their car honey doing so good right there's that sense of the way
our heart is naturally generous, naturally seeks connection. We want to know
each other on the heart level we want to feel heart-to-heart and when we find that
it's real life has said sweetness likeness to it. There's no suffering in real heart
connection in the same which holds our suffering. Actually it's the part of us that
can hold the difficulty of myself or another. That's pretty important. But that
comes from presence in the heart right when were not present in this part we
they're not connected. We don't care what the people who identifies twos costly
trying to make connection happen, which is a good thing but it's coming from the
wrong part of me, so that even if that person responded to me, I still won't feel
the connection because I'm not landed in the whole part of my heart that would
recognize it, son. I'm looking for love in all the wrong places is pretty popular past
time is that you have to be a two yes coming home to your heart. So the three is
a kind of archetype for many cultures in the world. Traditionally it's been here in
US culture, but I'd say I teach in Asia a lot and it's really big in China now three
nests right but three and this is about meaning and purpose in the sense that of
of feeling the need value of your existence and what you're doing and how when
were doing things from heart from presence everything we do feels meaningful
and blessed and beautiful. You could be chopping carrots. You could be leading a
meeting, you could be cleaning up after your dog and it all feels like sacred work
I talk about this sometimes in organizations because people hear the word heart
and in organizations. They think silly woman having conversations or something
and people just go to be emoting, but I always remind people that the heart is
where the sense of meaning comes from human organization that doesn't allow
space for heart, you can expect a lot of motivation or inspiration or any sense of
meaning work that people are doing so when we don't have that beautiful golden
feeling of the wonder of our existence of our life of loving who we are and that we
have been given capacities to look at it is, you know there's like different
enlightenment's that the nine enlightenment is recognizing that your presence
and being your consciousness. The three enlightenment is yeah and I'm also this
person who has these particular capacities is here in this world for some
personal purpose like that consciousness took the trouble to create this vehicle
and the vehicle counts. It's one of the insert of the insurance policy against
subconscious spiritual self rejection right so you understand you're here to fulfill
something like when you feel this feeling your heart is like you, remembering a
promise that you forgot you made and sold it from here. We do beautiful things
we we we do beautiful work whatever it is that we are called to do, and the loss
of it is the symptom that we see everywhere, or desperately running around
trying to find meaning find purpose feel important enough feel valuable enough
how much money like to make. Where do I need to work out cute. Do I need to
be how much plastic surgery do I need what etc. to make me feel valuable again
is that they hold in our heart that emptiness that were so desperately trying to fill
this in all these things if you understand them rightly, you cannot judge other
people so easily you feel the sorrow in the suffering is generating the behaviors I
come before and for his. We talked a little bit is the search for identity in living a
life of mystery and beauty and exquisite intimacy and making sure that their
space for that in my life right showing up in a way that invites the sense of beauty
and intimacy. And when we are not so present, we are desperately trying to find
our identity and with the four there's this weird fantasy that other people have
found it and I haven't. They all got it together and what happened to me. I didn't
get handed something on the way in. People are listening interesting just even as
you're talking, I noticed myself when you're doing the body type, I found myself
wanting to say a little bit more in my seat and also as you're now talking about
the heart lighting up different ways in your heart and use your heart as a gift. Yes,
one of what I'm forever assertive, advocating with people study with me is that
teaching is being what you're talking about. If I'm talking about intimacy and I'm
not intimate with you in that moment are intimate with you. What does that mean
it makes it tricky sometimes because you can fall into these places a cellulite
looking out there about where was I that's kind of fun to share that it's an intimate
moment right yet when we were in search of identity value for the suffering of that
in this feeling like we can't find the identity we tend to think of something wrong
with us that were defective somehow that we are missing something other people
have and we are constantly going over our narratives, endlessly relieving our
story sorting through it over and over again like this, but figured out know who I
am. And you know I'm not one who will say that all narratives are false, and I
think it's very obnoxious to tell somebody else hearing your story. I'm in my story
about you when I say that people use these teachings for yo ego X. No jujitsu is
a deceptive fence, but spiritual warfare spiritual warfare I you know the one I am
famous for right namaste but so the forest is when we're looking again in the
wrong place to find identity, but when we we can only find it through presence so
that the last is a five, six and seven we could skip the five that's okay. He's a
5567 about the Henson first off, the headset doesn't work right… Plugged into
the body and the heart. You can't really have your mind work, without
embodiment, and without our connection is the quality of contact that brings
knowing or genuine understanding right we might memorize a lot of things. But
as we know anything. I so knowing, in the sense of wisdom to the five is about
our desire to understand and to come to some real understanding of what this
world is five is about a quality one or more present were more clear thinking is
clearer, are perception is clearer communication is clear, were even kinda easier
to see right and what we don't have that kind of blurry and we might be speaking
in English sentences or whatever language we speak and what is the Quick
frolics we don't have clarity. Clarity is also lets us see through things that helps us
see through the million and one things we believed the eight so clarity is that
sword in Buddhism that cuts through this magistrate right. This cuts through the
delusions helps us see all the ways we've ensnared our mind and stuff that isn't
the living realities. It's that penetrating quality of clarity that we need beginning,
middle, and then try to get a lot enlightened without that that what whatever that
means. So then when we lose that were trying to figure everything out, but on the
wrong basis. Without that contacting connection and heart, read memorize stuff
and a lot of her education is about what memorizing stuff and we can memorize a
lot of stuff that doesn't mean we know how to use what we memorized the real
noise that kind of a high quality 00 can only get it could be a better relationship is
not necessarily about something philosophical or scientific through six is is the
another one of the main triangle 93 and six, so if three was about realizing yes
unconsciousness, and on this person. Six is oh and so were you and so what are
we, what is this what is humanity's objective function in the living cosmos. I
personally feel that the lesson .6 is going to make or break our civilization within
the next century we are going to figure out how we consciously work together for
some greater good or were going to go through very rough. So the six is about
that. Well the quality here of the headset is a weakness timeout waking up to
what we wake up to this quality of a weakness lucid awake tentative quality. This
is mindfulness itself is paying attention, but from a relaxed body and hard. It's not
attendance I'm going to be mindful. Now I hi I it's it's a we relax into this quality of
attention and with this real weakness mindfulness in the end, many of the
speakers of talk about this heart comes forward as the sense of service and
devotion when the awake. This is real. It comes with the sense of devotion. Even
if you're just doing some little things doing it with love your you're bringing your
attention to your bring the love and devotion what you're doing, you're having a
conversation. You're bringing your attention to that conversation in your bring the
love and sense of service to the said like the high side of sixes. That's a journey
we all need to find out right. And if you lost and that the other party that a
weakness is it has what I call our internal GPS system, its guidance about what
to do, how to make decisions where we going next. What should I turn left or turn
right, should I say that to my daughter should I keep my mouth shut and and so
this is a place we relax the head center opens up without any effort. Know what
to do in the moment you rehearse personal Hershey thing of all kinds of things
you get a say in how you put it across then you're in that moment, and you let go
of all that and the right words, your mouth this you know that I thought I was
going over there but for some reason I feel I need to go over here we call
guidance guidance systems at six we lose presence here, we lose our guidance
system and the natural response. This is And we're bracing ourselves. And
there's the physical part and work anxious, and there's the emotional partner
mind is spinning which I did a cover that I need a caring hag. I have about kids
could support you something to do that and and that's a lot of life and so were
kind of in this in turn related instead of living were handling life and that's the kind
of what 618486 will encounter that and that's we can get transmuted back to the
other thing they're all workable. Last is the seventh finely and I know I just saved
the best for last night. Yes seven is our inner freedom were present in our mind.
Our mind is spacious open infinite possibility. There's no walls or boundaries
around. It is this vast inner freedom that many teachers and teachers talk about
and that inner freedom of also is the experience of delight. I call it causeless
positivity where I'm not happy because I got what I wanted and I'm not unhappy
because I didn't get what I wanted. There's a kind of positivity that never leaves
me, as I said I'm I lost a nephew a few days ago and I'm grieving, and I feel sad
about that. I feel sad for my family and at the same time, there is this lightness
around my heart and being that's holding me through this and never leaves and
any time on present enough to notice it is in its opening as it is in possibility step
forward. People check it out. This is also just blew simply being open minded
right on the brief pedestrian level so so when you have that going for you will life
this lot more enjoyable, to say the least. But the loss of that some people say well
you know I live in a cramped dungeon of consciousness and that's how it is by
the seventh. I'm going to create freedom for myself, I'm going to go out and find
joy. But when were detached from that fundamental ground. All these things end
up being frustrating and disappointing in their number quite yet. So that leaves us
restless and hungry, endlessly looking for these things. So that's the nine points
ungrateful underwriting time actually added time. That was beautiful. Thank you
so much for helping