We applaud your ability to have an intention to make your

relationships work.

Whilst waiting for the seminar days to begin please take time to
do this pre-work as it will greatly assist your empowerment
throughout the knowledge and experience of the seminar. The
more time you take for the pre-work, the more successfully the
Relationship course will work for you. In addition, please
focus on what your intention is for this course. What do you
wish to achieve, let go of, heal, move through, complete.
Commence filling in 'Telling the Truth about Relationship'.
Should you be stuck for ideas the page on feelings
has some guidelines.

Our good wishes for an enjoyable opening of Conscious

Awareness with regard to Relationships .

In admiration.

Gita and the GBA Team

 Outline of the Philosophical and
Psychological Concepts used in the Course
1 The   soul   itself,   the   Being,   the   Higher   Self   is   not   polarized   –   it   is  
whole.  This  is  why  there  is  sometimes  a  reluctance  to  be  on  earth  
on   the   part   of   the   individual   Being   for   there   is   a   separation   from  
the   whole.   For   in   individualising   our   consciousness   we   become  
divided  or  we  lose  our  wholeness.  

2 In  the  process  of  being  born  we  are  unisexual.  We  are  still  neither  
male   nor   female   but   a   very   complete   Being   who   is   whole   and  
complete  in  itself.  

• Even  the  baby's  sexual  characteristics  are  not  yet  very  defined  –
they  are  there  but  only  in  a  latent  form

• It   is   notoriously   difficult   to   tell   the   baby's   sex   at   this   time.   For

when  the  baby  is  clothed  think  of  the  times  that  we  might  have
been  embarrassed  because  of  calling  someone's  baby  the  wrong
gender  when  we  could  not  see  the  genitals.  Unisexual/potential
sexual  identity  does  not  express  itself  overly  sexually.  There  is  no
strong  sexual  individuality.

• Most   importantly,   it   is   our   consciousness   which   is   not   yet

divided   into   polarities.   Our   consciousness   is   only   capable   at
that  point  of  recognising  contrast  (heat/cold).

(At   this   stage,   our   consciousness   is   a   constant   stream   of

phenomena  but  only  at  the  moment  we  experience  it  –  it  is  not
separated  off).

− As  we  relate  to  our  parents  there  may  be  a  latent  tendency  to
prefer  one  of  the  polarities,  male/female,  over  the  other

− With   the   taking   on   of   a   body   that   tendency   does   not   manifest

in  the  new  born  child.  Indeed  it  will  require  certain  elements
from   the   environment   to   cause   the   'seed'   tendency   to
germinate
 In  general,  we  remain  WHOLE  provided  certain  basic  survival  
necessities  are  met.  Food,  warmth,  dryness  –  plus  nurturing,  
love   involving   physical   contact   with   the   mother   during   the  
first  part  of  life.  IF  THESE  ARE  MET  WE  REMAIN  WHOLE  (read  
The  Continuum  Concept  by  Jean  Liedlof).  

3     If  in  the  process  of  watching  and  listening  to  our  parents,  brothers,  
radio   and   TV   that   we   first   begin   to   polarise   on   the   level   of   our  
‘personality  consciousness’.  
Our  attention  gradually  becomes  very  dominated  by  playing  our  roles  
and   forms   of   behaviour   that   are   seen   as   appropriate   to   male   or  
female   in   that   society.   These   may   be   purely   social   in   origin   in   the  
sense  that:  

• We   absorb   them   from   watching   other   people's   behaviour

particularly  the  behaviour  of  our  parents  or  others  in  our  family
• We  also  absorb  them  from  empathic  awareness  of  what  is  really
going   on   inside   our   parents,   given   that   Delta   brain   waves
dominate  in  the  young  human  being.
This   polarising   is   reinforced   both   by   rewards   –   but   especially   by   fear  
(carrot  plus  stick  –  i.e.  if  you  are  a  good  girl  and  behave  as  a  good  girl  
should,   I   will   give   you   cakes   for   tea   but   if   you   don't   behave   as   you  
should,  then  you  will  stay  in  your  room).  The  constant  tacit  or  expressed  
fear   about   the   various   forms   of   parental,   social   peer   group,   religious,  
psychological   punishment   is   there   (rejection,   hurt,   pain,   dis-­‐
appointment,   guilt,   anger,   sadness,   grief).   This   kind   of   carrot   plus   stick  
experienced   is   experienced   primarily   as   rejection   –   in   other   words,   we  
are   not   acceptable   in   a   certain   way.   In   the   name   of   trying   to   be   truly  
masculine  we  can  prevent  ourselves  from  being  what  we  are  anyway  or  
in   the   name   of   trying   to   be   truly   feminine,   we   can   prevent   ourselves  
from  being  what  we  are  anyway.  

Thus,   we   begin   to   cut   ourselves   off   from   and   resist   the   opposite   side  
of  the  pole  in  our  personality  as  we  begin  to  resist  the  side  which  we  
are  
and  
the  part  we  are  resisting  then  becomes  unconscious  yet  pressing  for  
expression  –  it  needs  expression  –  but  because  it  is  undeveloped,  it  
must  come  out  in  a  rational  –  often  really  childish  and  inappropriate  
way.  Since  it  is  undeveloped  and  in  a  primitive  state.  
Thus,  in  a  man,  when  he  is  pressed  to  the  point  of  losing  control,  he  
will   often   act   in   a   completely   childish   way,   wildly   and   irrationally.   He  
becomes  temporarily  ‘anima  dominated’  –  the  pendulum  swings.  
 A  woman,  when  she  finds  herself  under  a  sense  of  pressure  –  to  the  
point   of   letting   go   will   find   herself,   trying   to   express   herself  
rationally   and   intellectually   but   in   ways   which   appear   silly   and  
stupid   or   illogical-­‐for   she   has   not   allowed   that   part   of   herself   to  
develop  so  that  it  can  be  at  the  service  of  what  she  really  is  for  that  
lifetime  at  the  level  of  personality.  
For  the  woman  to  be  a  pseudoman  will  not  do.  

For  a  man  to  become  a  pseudowoman  will  not  do.  

They  very  much  need  each  other  and  balance  each  other  out.  

To  be  a  male  means:  

Being   whole   and   integrated   with   being   a   male   which   means   not  
having   any   fears   about   being   female   but   if   a   male   fears   experiencing  
the   female   side   of   himself   and,   therefore,   represses   it,   the   female   side  
of   himself   is   unfulfilled   (a   man's   anima   equalling   and   will   equalise  
emotional,   intuitive,   sensitive,   creative,   etc)   and   yet   since   it   is   a   real  
part  of  him  it  needs  expression.  

To  be  a  woman  means:  

Being   whole   and   integrated   with   being   a   female   which   means   not  
having   any   fears   about   being   male   but   if   she   fears   experiencing   the  
male   side   of   herself,   and   therefore,   represses   it,   the   male   side   of  
herself   is   unfulfilled   (the   female's   animus,   logic,   aggressiveness,  
rational  expression,  decisiveness  and  power)  but  since  it  is  a  real  part  
of  her  it  needs  expression.  

The   yearning   to   be   whole   and   integrated   can   also   result   in   the  

individual  overly  adopting  the  polarity  of  him/her  self.