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Night Game
High energy levels
Touching acceptable
• No time constraints
Ends in sex
Fundamentals
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Qualification /
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• Qualification is complimenting
• Should be legitimate interests you have in her
• Leads to an instant date
• Example:
o "Who are you and you're special because..."
Teasing
Frames
Role Play
• Sets a role that is fun and that you can play around with
• Allows distance and objectivity from the actual situation
• Sex and the City does a lot of role playing
• Examples:
o Personal assistant
o Past Adventures Projection
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o Future Adventures Projection
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Push/Pull and Seesaws
• Send mixed signals and unpredictability
• Very attractive
Challenges
Openers
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Opinion Openers (
• Open by asking a girl her opinion on something
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• Low on risk scale, low on reward scale
• Step 1: The hook question
• Step 2: She responds
• Step 3: "The reason I asked..." (also known as grounding the question)
• Step 4: Final End to the answer
• Examples:
Observational Openers
Direct Openers
• Starting a conversation with the expectation that you want to get to know
this specific girl
• A good direct approach is all about showing the girl that you're a powerful
man who's not afraid to make himself vulnerable to women
• More about you than her
• Framing: You're the type of man who approaches women he's attracted to.
• Serious, genuine, committed, honest
• Forces the girl into an instant decision (could be good or bad)
• Example:
o "Hey, I noticed you from across the park and I knew that if I
didn't come over here and find out if there's more to you than
meets the eye then I'd be kicking myself for it all day."
Notes:
Qualification
• The more someone says Yes the more likely they are to say Yes in the future.
• Get her to agree to small things first (small hoops)
• Get her to comply and invest in the interaction
• Builds compliance momentum
Notes:
Hoop Theory
• Three levels of qualification questions
• Small hoops, medium hoops, large hoops
• Must stay socially relevant
Small Hoops
• Small hoops are positive female stereotypes that any girl wants to say Yes to
• Small hoops are Yes or No questions
• Little things that keep the momentum building forward
• Examples:
o "Are you adventurous?"
o "I bet you're adventurous."
Medium Hoops
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Large Hoops
• 2 small hoops plus 2 medium hoops = 1 large hoop
• A large qualification hoop is a blatantly qualifying question
• The girl knows she's qualifying herself and waFltS to keep going
• If you get here you're about to score
• Examples: ~
o "What do you have going for you more than your looks?"
o "What's your best quality?" "Why are you special?"
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Cold Reads
Warm Reads
• Warm reading is when the girl is giving you some clues to what's happening
• Stripper warm read: "Fractured sexual identity." ,
• Consult horoscopes, tarot cards and psychics for more examples of warm r
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Grounding
• Grounding demonstrates who you are as a person-and where that came from.
• Explains why you're acting the way you act an8why
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you're talking about what
• Examples:
• "I'm a writer so I'm arrogant enough to believe that everyone should listen to
me."
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• "I grew up with three sisters so I've seen how guys mess up all the time, and I
understand how women process information different from men."
Storytelling
• Storytelling is unavoidable
Notes:
• Storytelling should be nirty, teasing, and funny
• The bar is really not that high; just be interesting enough
• Storytelling should take 30 to 90 seconds.
• Be aware of the conversational flow; make sure it's balanced.
Storytelling Basics
• The ending of your story is the most important part. Don't leave them asking
• The content of the story should be detailed and should use language that is
answer them.
• Use transitions to get into your story (no tranSition, phrasal transition,
observation transition)
• Check in to make sure the girl is still interested and is paying attention:
Instant Dates
• Instant dates shift the dynamic into an "us" situation instead of a
• Good instant dates are close by and safe. DO NOT ask her to get
Phone Game
doing tonight?"
• Combat flakes by calling them out initially ("I know what that means,
• Combat flakes by flaking first: Call her on the day as she requested and
tell her you're slammed at work, but to make it up to her you want to take
• The hottest girls frequent coffee shops near universities and downtown
shopping centers
• The best time to meet women at coffee shops is between 8:00am and
• Bring a laptop, a book, some kind of relevant prop that she can
• Seated sets
o "I'm going to get another cup. Can you watch my stuff and
beat up anybody who tries to steal itT
o Cell phone opener, wait for her to eavesdrop
o Opinion or observational opener while seated near her.
After a few back and forths, join her at her table.
• Walking/Waiting sets Notes:
o Sit in the flow of traffic and ask for a girl's opinion loudly.
Push the chair near you out to the girl in question so she
• Gym game uses either the slow track or the fast track
• The slow track is when you go to the gym at the same time,
see the same people, slowly build rapport with them and then go for the date
• The fast track is when you pick up a girl at the gym the first time you see her
• Because everyone is exercising, you'll be talking in short bursts and for
Location: Malls
• Three types of sets: In store, seated, walking and working
• Best time: 5:00pm to 7:00pm on Wednesdays and all day on the weekends
• Built in instant date at the food court.
• In store sets: "I have to buy something for my sister and I like your style.
• What should I get her?"
• Seated sets: Cell phone opener, direct opener
• Walking sets: Go direct and try for the instant date
• Working dates: Get her from work mode into talk mode