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Healthy Relationships – PART ONE: You’ve
Got a Friend In Me!

Goal for HER’d: an understanding of what a healthy friendship

should look like.
The girls should realize that throughout their
lives friends may come and go. Girls and
mentors should share their own perceptions
Supplies Needed:
and experiences with un/healthy friendships.
After exploring personal experiences and ● Notebook Paper
identifying some of the characteristics of a ● Pens
un/healthy relationship, girls should leave with
Discuss:

● How did you become friends with the person you are friends with today?
● What does a un/healthy friendship look like?
● Have you and a friend ever drifted apart? What happened? How do you feel about it? How do
you deal with that loss? Is there anything you could (or should) do to get back together?
● What qualities make someone a good friend?

Food for Thought on How to Be A Good Friend:

● Be Real/Honest. Be real with yourself and the people around you because it is always best to be
hated for who you are then to be loved for being someone you are not.
● Take Care. Being there in the time of a crisis.
● LISTEN. Just listening can fix a lot of communication problems and it reaffirms who your friend
really is. It helps to build trust also.
● Be respectful. If your friend confides in you and ask you not to share something with someone, be
courteous enough to respect their wishes. Don’t gossip or spread rumors.
● Apologize and Forgive. Don’t hold grudges for the sake of yourself, it is not healthy.
● Most importantly… CHOOSE WISELY: NOT EVERYONE IS GOING TO BE YOUR FRIEND CHOOSE
PEOPLE THAT ARE OF GOOD CHARACTER AND YOU WONT EVER REGRET BEFRIENDING THEM!!

Activity:

Writing Prompt:

● What advice do you give to someone who is dealing with the loss of a friend?
● Do you think that forgiveness in a friendship is important? Why?
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Healthy Relationships – PART ONE: You’ve
Got a Friend In Me! (continued)

Challenge:

This week, take time to reflect on your friendships and ask yourself: Why is it important to have people
close to you that you can share your true self with?
Speed FRIENDzy Ice Breaker…
Supplies Needed:

● Questions
● Timer

Turn the desks so they are facing each other in a line, or sit on the floor. A leader calls out a question
and sets the timer for 60 seconds. Each pair must ask each other the question. Next, have one side
rotate to the right so that each girl how has a new pair. Repeat until all of the girls and mentors have
been paired.

Sample Questions:

● What are some small things that make your day better?
● What kind of music do you like?
● How has your middle school experience been like?
● Who is your favorite celebrity and why do you like them?
● Are you the youngest, oldest, middle or an only child? How has this effected your life?
● Share an embarrassing moment!
● What are you most proud of?
● If you could do ANYTHING after you graduate high school, what would you do?
● What shows are you into?
● What’s the best thing you got from your parents?
● What’s the farthest that you have been away from home?
● Which of your scars has the best story behind it?
● What is the hardest lesson you have had to learn?
● What are some of the events in your life that have made you who you are?
● What fad or trend do you hope comes back?
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Healthy Relationships – PART TWO: LOVE
YO’self!
Goals for HER’d: break” from some people or activities for a
while.
Help the girls to understand the importance of
taking care of themselves and the individual
ways in which they can do that. For example,
Supplies Needed:
introverts may find that they recharge best
when reading a book while an extrovert might ● Pencils/ Pens
prefer to meet up with a friend for coffee. ● Paper
Additionally, girls should feel reassured that it is ● 2 bags of chocolate or some candy of
ok and completely healthy for girls to “take a some sort
● Tape

Discussion:

● Why is it important to take care of ourselves?

● Do you let emotions build up or do you release them periodically? How do you release these
negative emotions?
● Have you ever done a “social media cleanse”? If not would you consider doing one?
● What are your favorite ways to “rest” and “recharge” that you already do?

Food for Thought on How to Take Care of Yourself:

● Sleeping / Napping
● Doing something you love (dancing, reading, crafting, other hobbies that could potentially
increase happiness levels via stress release)
● Being around loved ones
● Practicing self – compassion (being kind to yourself, saying and believing nice things about
yourself,” treating yourself like you would your best friend”)
● Unplugging technology
● Journaling
● Breathing (Taking 3-5 minutes to practice deep breathing helps to lower blood pressure and
heart rate, thus lowering the physical effects of stress)
● Practice meditation / practicing yoga
● Spending time in nature
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Healthy Relationships – PART TWO: LOVE
YO’self! (continued)
Activity:

● Take some candy and label it with words or “the things that we give away to people, such as
love, empathy, time, patience” until the bag is empty. Then pull the other bag and show how I
should really treat people with my candy and to keep some for myself later on. There is nothing
wrong with sharing but remember to be selfish a little at time and keep some candy for
yourself! 

In a world that is so busy and day to day activities consuming us, it can be so easy to forget to stop
and take a well needed breather and take some quiet time to yourself. Because you are important!
There is no better relationship to have then the one that you have with yourself. Why is it important
to forgive, manage our anger, and learn to deal with our feelings of loneliness?

● Worksheet: Self- Care Plan

Ice Breaker: The World as They NO Us…
Supplies Needed:

● White Board/
● Expo Markers

Students will be able to configure tally marks based off scenarios that they have been in or feelings they
have felt before for prompts / quotes on the board. What some thoughts or things that you have had in
the past or started to believe about yourself?

Sample Prompt(s):

● I am not smart enough

● I am weird
● I am a bad daughter
● I am a bad friend
● I don’t deserve to have friends
● I am all alone
● I don’t fit in anywhere
● I am fat
● I am ugly
● There is something wrong with me
● I have to be perfect or else…
● Money will make me happy
● I don’t like my hair
● Everyone is better than me
● She is way better looking than me
● He/ She had nicer things then me, if only I had those same things
 My Self- Care
Ways I can relax my body:
Plan Ways I can relax my mind: People I would like to invest in/
spend more time with:

What are some positive qualities Activities that make me genuinely happy:
you love about yourself?:

Encouraging phrases I can start telling myself:

Songs that can lift me up:

Things I could spend less time on:

Self – Care Suggestions:
Light candles. Don’t look at any screens after 10 PM to give your mind time to power down. Unfollow
everyone that makes negative or dramatic posts. Delete any apps that bring you down. Eat a piece of
chocolate. Drink herbal tea. Read a good book. Clear your clutter. Forgive yourself. Take a nap. Go for a
nature walk. Write in a gratitude journal. Set a daily intention. Listen to calming music. Do yoga. Try a
new hobby. Volunteer. Take a hot bath. Volunteer. Self- massage. Play your music and dance. Read
inspirational quotes. Call a friend. Paint your nails. Visit the library.