Joanna Espinosa

Advice to Parents

Question

How can parents help their teenagers deal with conflicts of adolescence?

Answer

Definitely the adolescence years are very tough children at that age are trying to figure
out who they are and where they fit in. I think parents can help their teenagers through conflicts
with personal experience since they were once adolescences. They have been in that stage where
an adolescence wants to be independent and wants their own car and drive themselves around.
Adolescence go through the conflict of sexuality they sometimes don’t understand why they feel
a certain a way of someone of their same sex or even opposite. Teenage adolescence goes
through a phase where they think they know everything. Sometimes parents tend to seem like
bad parents when in reality there just trying to warn them from what’s coming. Also, parents
help their adolescence through the point where they realize that the way they look matters.
Adolescents start to care about them being too short or too tall, or to skinny or wide, long hair or
short hair, long or fat legs. They also start to compare themselves to others, and in the book its
say’s, Indeed, adolescents may become depressed because of some characteristic they wish they
had or did not have ( Kuzucu et al., 2014). It’s the conflict that parents have to help their
adolescence through is depression. I personally myself have felt depressed and it’s a process to
get over it. Parents need to be patient and hopeful and I know sometimes there is therapist or
psychologist that they can talk to and receive professional help. Parent’s really should prepare
their children for what is to come, like so they don’t fall into bad habits. Some of the adolescence
conflicts that is sometimes hard to open about with parents is pornography, or sexuality. Parents
need to be more aware of the children when they come to the adolescences age and have to
prepare them by letting know what they will face or come across. For example, like once they
have a phone the parents can forewarn them and say there is an easy access to pornography and it
can be addicting to watch and it will ruin your mind and it can affect you forever if you begin to
watch it. Also, bullies at school kids tend to be bullied more at this age and things can lend to
personal and physical situations and children need to know what to do when someone calls them
names or hurt them. Parents need to be sure that their children should know they have a voice to
speak and they don’t need to stay quiet. Really the simplest thing a parent can do for their
adolescence is simply be there mentally, physically, and emotionally for them. Sometimes that is
the best thing a parent can do listen to their adolescence vent or cry about and tell them
everything will be okay and help them through the process. It’s what I feel can be most effective
and adolescence also can through things on their own and just knowing their parents are there for
support.

Reference list:
Berger, Kathleen Stassen. Iinvitation to the life Span [ Chegg]. 2016