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Professor Fielding
WRTC103
On My Own
There is one constant that hasn’t changed much in society despite numerous changes in
history; women and their roles in everyday life. “Girls were found to spend more time overall
than boys in the areas of shopping, house cleaning, food preparation, dishwashing, clothing care,
and clothing construction”(Blair). Here, the stereotype of a woman’s job being in the kitchen
while the man of the house went out into society with a real job and money is represented.
Regardless of women’s attempts to be seen as equals in all aspects of life, this stereotype
remains. Even in my own life, due to cultural and societal norms, I was pushed into taking on all
the domestic work while my twin brother holds little to no responsibility in the family. I feel as
though I was given more work and more stressful responsibilities because of my gender. Within
my childhood, my brother was treated differently and given different tasks despite our identical
Historically in traditional American households, the women of the house take care of all the
housework. “Girls were considerably more likely to clean the house, work in the kitchen, and
babysit their younger siblings. Boys, on the other hand, were more likely to perform outside
chores and taking out garbage”(Blair). This is shown further through distribution of chores
between daughters and sons. Girls, on average, have double the number of hours of chores than
boys; which seems not only unfair but discriminatory. When I was young, chores were done
together and were of the same substance: washing dishes, cleaning rooms, and raking leaves.
After a certain point, these got divided up between the two of us; “gender role stereotyping by
parents tends to increase with age”(Blair). No coincidence that I was stuck inside cleaning up
after everyone else while my brother dealt with natures messes. I strangely found myself jealous
that he got to rake the leaves and shovel the snow. Being the only female in a house full of boys
made me feel as if I were at a disadvantage, my end of the scale kept being thrown new tasks
while my brothers stayed the same. This is when I saw that these chores were not only becoming
but I didn’t realize how much my dad relied on me. Not for not just little day to day things, but
for all tasks once taken care of by my mom. I accepted these with open arms knowing it was the
best thing I could do to keep my family feeling as normal as possible. I couldn’t help but notice
my Christmas bonus what much different than those of my three brothers, especially my twin.
As Christmas was quickly approaching, I reached out to my brother for help as I tackled the
entire holiday season alone. He immediately declines because “shopping is not something he
does” and “he wouldn’t know what to do.” He implied that I knew exactly what I was doing
which was the opposite of true and as if shopping for others was my purpose in life. I just wanted
a little help, even if it was just moral support. When you go through life together, just his
presence would’ve made me more secure in what I was doing. In annoyance, I brought the
predicament to my dad, hoping he’d see me drowning and ask my brother to help me stay afloat.
To my disappointment, I was left alone with a long list of “to do’s” and not much help. I yelled
at the both of them for failing to see what I had on my plate, I couldn’t believe that all of this was
asked of me; shopping, baking, decorating, and my brother simply had to help shovel the snow
and put up exterior lights. Nonetheless, he split these tasks among the four men living under the
same roof as me. All of my errands should have been fun holiday experience, but suddenly a
After this incident, I was amazed at the division of labor in my house. I hated feeling like my
own parent and always doing things for other people, I wanted to be in charge of just my own
life. I felt alienated from the rest of my family; while they were relaxing on the weekends, I was
constantly running errands and fulfilling tasks that were asked of me. However, I learned a lot
about myself and adult responsibilities from my quick transition from teenage girl to mom of the
house. I think these circumstances prepared me well for my upcoming, now current, life away
from home. Even when things were very hard for me, I knew I was helping my family in an
irreplaceable way that made it worth all the headaches. I could tell that by me taking on all the
tasks my mom used to do, especially around the holidays, it comforted my dad and my brothers
that things felt familiar. I found strength to keep a house together while everything is telling it to
fall apart. I saw the life that I’m living now, doesn’t have to be my life forever. I am excited to
say that I am looking forward to a future where I get my own list of chores, where I get to have a
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