Conversational Coaching

Conversational (Hypnotic) Coaching is the process of shifting attention to influence someone in a

way that helps them imagine their desired goal or outcome and associate them into their own inner
resources using directionalized language patterns for the purpose of working through a problem.

You must ask, what is the client paying attention to when associated to the problem state – what is
their strategy of doing/experiencing the problem? The person is paying attention to something –
they are conscious of something, and they are not paying attention to something else – they’re
unconscious of something else. Conversational coaching is about getting them conscious of what
they weren’t (a resource) when they are doing the problem in order to collapse it. People have to
have certain skills/abilities to do the problem – how do they do the problem? “What does the client
have to be good at to do the problem?” Every problem a person has, they are unconsciously
competent at.

It’s your job to listen – not to understand. Find out what their desired outcome is and get them
there; don’t give them advice. As soon as it (problem or resource) is in language, then it exists on
some level. Awareness directs attention; this is the basis of directionalized language patterns.

Jess Marion says that with overt and covert hypnosis, “it is always a conversation. That conversation
doesn't need to be verbal, and most often the conversation is happening at the unconscious level.
The conversational component comes in because as an artful covert hypnotist you are paying
attention to the unconscious responses you are getting and adjusting accordingly. You are actually
holding two conversations at once, one for the conscious mind and one for the unconscious.”

The CM (conscious mind) has tried to solve this problem for a really long time and it hasn’t solved it
yet. The UCM (unconscious mind) probably knows a lot more about the problem and the change. So
we want a shift that allows the UCM to become really active in this process. The UCM does not
think linearly. So you’re going to build a client’s relationship with their UCM. And you can do this by
taking them into the void, which is a vacuum; it is the quantum field where all possibilities exist,
that must be created where the problem cannot exist.

The problem is not the problem, it is a symptom, and they’re CM doesn’t know what the real
problem is, but their UCM does. What's the problem? X. And x isn't the problem, it's the symptom
of the problem. And you're looking for an internal state. So you ask, “So how is that a problem for
you now?” or “How do you know?” so that you can bring it into the present state. Everything has
meaning only according to its context. It is their construction, which is going to be based on their
history (their neural net). Once you have the context of their problem, you find the
trigger/synesthesia, that elicits a certain state, and causes the behavior that they want to change.
Then you break state (dissociate) to get them out of the problem/unwanted state (“That’s the way
you’ve been, how do you want to be different?”) so that they are able to access everything else that
is not the problem, which includes resources that they couldn’t access before while they were in
the problem state.
“I think the structure of language patterns is what are they paying attention to, and what’s
everything else that they’re not. And if you want to change it, then follow the Meta Pattern when
using directionalized language.” SMR