John B.

Mancia 12- Mapagpalaya

Key points to take away from the interview

Interview was conducted in an informal and unstructured manner. I only recorded the key
points.
Parenting before

 You must listen to your parents.

 Eat together and chat on the dinner table.
 Not allowing to leave the house after lunch on weekend
 Strict schedule such as eating lunch at 1pm.
 Helping your parents in the garden and land
 Each sibling has a chore to do every day. Alternating roles.
 Make Manong after school.
 All your children have curfew hours.
 Spanking your kids if there is a quarrel between siblings, going home late or leaving without
permission.
 Very obedient to the parents
 Parents are not concerned about their children studying as they are busy with caring for their farms
and gardens.
 Celebrating religious traditions with parents.

Parenting now

 Stricter with children doing chores.

 Generally less strict with disciplining; not common to use spanking as a form of discipline, just
scolding.
 No curfew hours
 Not required to make manong after school
 Not required to celebrate religious traditions as a family; only if you’re interested in going.
 Pushing your children to go to school, study, and finish assignments.
 Up to the kids to choose whether they want to go with them outside.

Filipinos as strongly valuing, prioritizing, and cultivating relational bonds, especially within the family

What remains is the harmony, respect for elders, fulfilling duties and expectations, and deference to
parental authority that are valued. Individual behaviors and achievements reflect on the family and bring
about familial pride or shame. Thus, in the Filipino family it is necessary that one behaves with respect to
the self and the family’s sense of hiya, which is a deeply held value that refers to honor, dignity, and
propriety). Typical disciplining of the parent in response to a child’s undesirable behavior remind the child
to uphold his or her and the parent’s hiya.

Filipino children are likewise expected to obey parental authority and sacrifice individual interests to
prioritize familial obligations. Such understood expectations are captured in the value of utang na
loob (“debt of one’s being”) or the life-long “debt” owed to another person that exists not only because
of receipt of some favor, but because of deep respect and gratitude. Children are expected to possess a
sense of utang na loob towards their parents.
If I become a parent what method will I used to discipline my children?

If I do become one, I would be an authoritative parent. Authoritative parenting is defined by the

combination of high levels of parental responsiveness and high levels of demandingness. The
authoritative parent allows for flexibility and collaborative problem solving with the child when dealing
with behavioral challenges.

I will guide and help my children in their school performance. Specifically, through my direct
involvement with school activities, such as helping with homework or course selection or attending
parent-teacher conferences, and through the specific encouragement of school success, both explicitly
and implicitly, by setting and maintaining high performance standards.

One thing I would like to point out here is that I will ensure that discipling will not involve contact with
my children and will do my best to make them understand and learn from their mistakes without using
violence.