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More than 200 people responded. Many wrote about how they try to teach
their children that terrorists do not reflect them or their faith.
Here is a selection of the responses; they have been edited and condensed.
We hope to hear from more Muslim parents about how the rise in both
anti-Muslim speech and attacks by Islamist extremists is affecting you and
your family. How are you explaining these issues to your children? Please join
the discussion in the comments.
The best inoculation against all the negative rhetoric is for our children to
have a deep understanding of what America and Islam truly stand for.
People always fear the unknown. Just like you are afraid to go down to a dark
basement — you fear what you don’t know. People fear Islam and Muslims
because they don’t know us.
I tell them, be wary, ISIL is trying to recruit you. They want you to feel like
you are not at home here and this is not your country. It is. They want you to
hear the racist voices of the few and think that represents the majority of the
U.S. and Canada.
You need to be very careful of anyone reaching out over the Internet claiming
to be a Muslim. You need to come to a parent right away.
There is no war with the West; the West and Islam are compatible. In fact
Islam is more compatible with the ideas of freedom, tolerance and equality
than most countries that call themselves Muslim are.
Child age 16
Child age 9
Il y avait des graines terribles sur la planète du petit prince... c’étaient les
graines de baobabs. Le sol de la planète en était infesté. Or un baobab, si l’on
s’y prend trop tard, on ne peut jamais plus s’en débarasser. Il encombre
toute la planète. Il la perfore de ses racines. Et si la planète est trop petite, et
si les baobabs sont trop nombreux, ils la font éclater.A ntoine de
Saint-Exupéry, “Le Petit Prince”
Translation: There were terrible seeds on the little prince’s planet... they were
baobab seeds. The planet’s soil was infested with them. Now, a baobab, if you
set about it too late, you can never get rid of it. It takes up the whole planet. It
pierces it with its roots. And if the planet is too small, and if there are too
many baobabs, they will make it burst.
I tell my children that they must work 100 times harder, be 100 times kinder,
and always be well groomed, just to gain public acceptance in these trying
times.
I tell them to always be gentle, soft-spoken, and kind so that they cannot be
associated with the growing global paranoia around “extremist Muslims.”
Child age 2
A few weeks ago, my son’s preschool asked parents to come in and share a
holiday tradition with the class. Since my son is the only Muslim in his class, I
thought this would be a good opportunity to introduce the young children to
Islam and the Islamic holidays of Eid. Then I started reading Facebook posts
of friends and acquaintances describing verbal and physical attacks on
Muslims in schools, parking lots, and buses.
I began to think: “Do I want my son’s peers and teachers to know that he is
Muslim? Will his Christian preschool treat him differently if he identifies as
Muslim?” I hated myself for even asking these questions because I have never
been one to deny or hide my identity.
Hopefully (God-willing) my kids will see what Islam teaches and what it
means to be Muslim from us and NOT from terrorists. Mostly, I want my kids
to be confident Muslims who understand their religion, practice their
religion, and are proud to be Muslim AND American. It is possible. I know.
It’s true in me.
I remind my two eldest that I was born and raised in America and that we
have nothing to fear. I remind them to be good, smile and make lots of
friends. Their friends will always know what a good person you are.
I also tell them that everyone struggles for one thing or another and I give
them examples of our own struggles. I tell them we need to learn how to
overcome our struggles or try to wait them out.
Patient
I tell them to be patient when they get bullied every day because of their
identity at school, and when their teachers tell them to “deal with it.”
We laugh and tell jokes and remember silly moments, just like any family. We
celebrate traditions, like Eid al Adha, Christmas and Ramadan, and we read
about the history of these practices, and the many wise people, like the
prophets and social activists, who have provided knowledge and who have
done positive things for other people.
We talk about how a very small group of bad people have done some bad
things. We are not defined by the actions of a few people, and we make this
very clear to our daughter.
I try to be a strong Muslim woman with good manners; I let them know that I
am not afraid to wear my hijab out and that they should be proud of being
both American and Muslim.
Child age 8
I always tell my kids to not take the news right from the mainstream media,
but rather to do their own research and try to find the facts from multiple
sources.
We all get offended when the criminals happen to be Muslims and the media
calls them terrorists, but no one else is called that name no matter what
religion or ethnicity. This makes my children always ask the question why
only Muslims are called terrorists and not the other mass shooters or
criminals. It is not easy to answer such a question!
Twins age 9
I teach my children the core values of Islam. These core values really make
you a good person. They help you to be caring, conscientious,
community-minded, green, give to charity and spread happiness. These
values do not allow you to be oppressive, wreak terror, kill innocents, or
impose your faith.
This is how I talk to my kids. Not just as a reaction to what extremists are
doing. But so they learn about the true tenets of their Islamic faith.