GOOD SEX

WHAT DOES THE CHURCH SAY

ABOUT SEX?
.

DIRTY SEX
(outside of marriage) sex is gross, sinful and
should be avoided at all occasions

PROCREATING SEX
many church leaders (including St. Augustine)
have said: “ONLY FOR PROCREATION”

SILENT SEX
most churches don’t talk about sex,
creating an unsafe environment for questions
WHAT DOES OUR CULTURE SAY
ABOUT SEX?
.

SEX IS THE GOAL

media portrays glorious, passionate sex
all smiles, sweat, moaning, and no clean up

SEX IS “NO BIG DEAL”

everyone does it - just get it out of the way

SELF-GRATIFYING SEX
sex is fun; sex makes me feels good
do what makes you feel good!
WHAT DOES
THE BIBLE
SAY ABOUT
SEX? .
 SONG OF SONGS
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chapters 4 … 5 … 6
SONG OF SONGS 5:1
PRESENTATION TITLE
Drink your fill, O Lovers!
 1 CORINTHIANS 6
12 "I have the right to do anything," you say--but not everything is
beneficial. "I have the right to do anything"--but I will not be
mastered by anything. 13 You say, "Food for the stomach and the
stomach for food, and God will destroy them both." The body,
however, is not meant for sexual immorality but for the Lord, and
the Lord for the body. 14 By his power God raised the Lord from
the dead, and he will raise us also. against their own body.
 1 CORINTHIANS 6
15 Do you not know that your bodies are members of Christ
himself? Shall I then take the members of Christ and unite them
with a prostitute? Never! 16 Do you not know that he who unites
himself with a prostitute is one with her in body? For it is said,
"The two will become one flesh." 17 But whoever is united with
the Lord is one with him in spirit.
 1 CORINTHIANS 6
18 Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a person commits are
outside the body, but whoever sins sexually, sins against their own
body. 19 Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy
Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not
your own; 20 you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with
your bodies.
 1 CORINTHIANS 7
1 Now for the matters you wrote about: "It is good for a man not to
have sexual relations with a woman." 2 But since sexual immorality
is occurring, each man should have sexual relations with his own
wife, and each woman with her own husband. 3 The husband
should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her
husband. 4 The wife does not have authority over her own body
but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not
have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife.
 1 CORINTHIANS 7
5 Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and
for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come
together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack
of self-control. 6 I say this as a concession, not as a command.
INTIMACYCOMMITMENT
 HEBREWS 13:4
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Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure,
for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral.
 SUE BOLIN
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“It is so powerful that it is only safe within a committed, covenant
marriage relationship … God knew what He was doing when He
limited sex to within marriage!”
VULNERABLITITYACCEPTANCE
 THE LANGUAGE OF SEX
PRESENTATION TITLE
“The strongest marriages aren’t just naked in the bedroom, they’re
naked in all parts of the relationship (emotionally, physically, etc.)”
 TIM KELLER
PRESENTATION TITLE
“Sex, as described in the Bible, is a way of saying, I see all of
your imperfections and I am still completely, exclusively, and
permanently committed to you. You are naked to me in all ways,
and I still accept you forever.”

CONNECTIONCONVERSATION
 THE LANGUAGE OF SEX
PRESENTATION TITLE
“The best communication of your life begins when your desire to
understand your mate is greater than your desire to be
understood.”

 TALKABOUTSEX
• PAST LOVERS and
ENCOUNTERS?
• WHO TAUGHT YOU ABOUT
SEX?
• ABUSE or INAPPROPIATE?
• DO YOU LOOK AT PORN?
• DOES SEX HURT?
• TEACHING KIDS ABOUT SEX?
• EMBARRESSED?
(ERECTILE DYSFUNCTION, PREMATURE
EJACTULATION, CAN’T ORGASM)
LOVESELFLESSNESS
 JOHN 15:13

“There is no greater love than to lay down one's life

for one's friends.” ~ Jesus
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how often should we have sex?
 what about sex toys, oral sex,

different positions, and the bizarre?

how can we spice up our sex life?
GOOD SEX