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Professor Brantley
English 101
8 November 2018
As a child did you ever feel as if everything that you did had to be perfect because your
parents had engraved that idea into your mind? According to the American Psychological
Association, children age 8 to 17 say they suffer from headaches, sleeplessness and upset
stomachs due to the stress that they are dealing with (Munsey). Parents are constantly putting
pressure on children to do and be the best in academics, sports, and fine arts. Putting too much
pressure on children is doing more harm than good, increasing mental illnesses, risk of suicide,
and self-esteem problems. The rates to these problems can be drastically decreased if parents
Children are experiencing more stress than what they should be. Rather than being able to
have a positive memorable childhood, they are having to worry about being the best child
because their parents are demanding perfection. As shown in the image below, the Cognitive
being praised for the good that they are doing (Morin). Parents think that children should not be
praised for the good because it is expected of them. An example of parents putting an excessive
amount of pressure in academics is children are told that the only grades accepted are A’s. In
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sports, parents may see it as more of an investment, they want their children to possibly get a
scholarship to cut college expenses (Quinn). Because of this, they expect their child to put all of
their time into perfecting their skill instead of allowing them to enjoy the sport and have fun
while they are still children. The kids who feel overwhelmed with all of these demands are the
Stress in a child is caused when a child must learn to adapt or change. It mostly occurs
with negative aspects, such as the demands that are placed on a child and their ability to meet the
standards parents insist be met. Parents want their child to be the best because of how
school is a must to parents so that way their child is able to get accepted to the best colleges,
receive the best education, and in return have the best chance of getting into a good career. The
competitive culture that this country has developed is what has caused parents to ask for
perfection from their child since they want them to grow to live a “good” life.
However, pressure at a young age is not healthy because of the negative effects that stress
has on the child. Stress causes harm to the child’s body and mind. The U.S. National Library of
Medicine states that the physical body is harmed when the child experiences sleep disturbances,
changes in eating habits, headaches, nightmares/bedwetting, and stomach pains. The mental and
emotional harm it causes are anxiety, anger, aggressive behavior (Pellissier). They also have a
greater risk of developing depression. Since a child’s brain is not fully developed, they are at risk
of cognitive damage. A child’s self esteem will decrease; they will feel as if they are not good
enough if they are constantly stressed to perform perfection and do not meet that standard. The
feeling of not being good enough also increases their risk in suicide (Morin). According to
verywellfamily.com, approximately one in five students had contemplated suicide due to the
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enormous pressure from parents to produce “good grades”. Pressure on a child may also have the
opposite outcomes that a parent was expecting. It can cause the child to feel unmotivated and
want to quit (Nauert PhD). This means that a child will not take opportunities that will enhance
their character. Stress on children is a serious problem considering that their health is in danger.
The best way a parent can keep their child from becoming too stressed out is by using
encouragement and affection, rather than demanding that they meet unreasonable expectations.
A child will see that a behavior that was done was praised and it is most likely that they will
repeat that behavior. This is also an example of authoritative parenting. Encouragement can be
shown in academics by offering your child your help with homework. If parents demand
perfection in sports, they will not be encouraging an opportunity for growth, and that is the joy of
playing sports (Quinn). The only bad thing about too much encouragement is that a child may
Another solution to parents reducing a child’s stress due to parental pressure is for them
to accept failure from a child. Parents must not think that every single situation that a child
encounters is going to be life altering (Quinn). Failure is sometimes the best way for a child to
learn because they must be faced with the consequences when choosing to slack off. They are
also able to test their best abilities and they will learn to become resilient. If parents do not teach
their child to deal with failure, when the child fails in the long run, they will not know how to
tolerate it and feel helpless. It can also cause children to give up when not knowing how to deal
The last thing a parent should do is to pay attention to a child’s effort, not just the
outcome (Morin). The outcomes to things are sometimes uncontrollable for a child; however,
their effort is something that they do have the ability to control. This will also help the child not
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be so overwhelmed with the results that their parents expect, but with the beauty in focusing on
their effort to developing skills. A child will also believe in improvement and stay motivated to
try harder.
As you can see, stress amongst children due to the pressure of parents is a situation that
we seem to move passed. People may think that a child has the most care-free life. That is not the
case. All of the stress built up in a child because of pressure is unnecessary and needs to be
changed to reduce a child’s stress level. This will benefit the child physically and emotionally.
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Works Cited
6 Proven Ways To Encourage Kids Effectively (Without Side Effects) - Parenting For
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Munsey, Christopher. “The Kids Aren’t All Right.” American Psychological Association,
Nauart, Rick. “Parents Should Not Put Too Much Pressure on Kids.” Psych Central, 1 Dec. 2016
Pellissier, Hank. “Stress and Your Child's Brain.” Parenting, 13 June 2018
Quinn, Bobbie. “Youth Sports: How Parental Pressures Affect Young Athletes.” Gladiator
Rosen, Rebecca J. “Why Affluent Parents Put So Much Pressure on Their Kids.” Google Search,
Shaw, Gina. “10 Reasons Your Child Might Be Stressed.” WebMD, WebMD, 27 Aug. 2015
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“When Faced With Stress, Depression and Anxiety, Everyone Needs Help to COPE.” When
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