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Isa Corcoran
3/30/18
COM 366-A
Dr. Mutua
Reflection Paper: Option 2
relationships. Whether it’s greeting a stranger on the street or forming a friendship with a peer
involved in similar activity that you are involved in, interpersonal relationships are at the core of
interacting with the world around you. Within the realm of interpersonal relationships fall
as, “relationships that are formed between individuals from different cultures” (Nakayama 391).
These relationships range from platonic to romantic and in this paper I will be focusing on and
My parents, Philip and Giovanna Corcoran, have enriched my life, not only by bringing
me into this world, but by raising me in a multicultural household. From a very young age, my
parents stressed the importance of embracing my two cultures because of the knowledge the
unique, invaluable elements each of the cultures I was raised in to bring to my life. I am also an
incredibly inquisitive individual so I would always ask my parents about other intercultural
couples like them and I quickly realized that many of their other friends in intercultural
relationships did not have that same willingness to accommodate their spouse and their spouse’s
family like my parents did with each other. With this in mind, I was able to observe my parents’
relationship as I was growing up and now, as an adult, I am able to understand the cultural
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differences that added to their relationship and the differences that added difficulty to their
relationship.
One of the most important elements that impacted their relationship was language. My
mother is a Venezuelan-Italian woman who grew up in Caracas, Venezuela and claims Spanish
as her mother tongue. My father, however, is and Irish-American man raised in New England
who only took French classes in school. When my parents first met when they were students at
Georgetown University, my mother spoke English but still struggled with communicating herself
effectively in an unfamiliar language and my dad spoke no Spanish. As they became better
friends and subsequently dated for five years, my father taught himself Spanish because he
understood how important it was to integrate himself into my mother’s Spanish speaking family.
He became so dedicated on being a part of my mom’s family that they were married in
Venezuela and my parents only spoke to my sisters and me in Spanish until age five. This is an
important element of intercultural relationships because it not only highlights the learning that
comes from being in an intercultural relationship but it also shows the willingness all partners
parents’ case, the language component of intercultural relationships truly became a bonding
experience for them because it allowed them to learn about each other’s heritage and learn more
about the world around them, but it became very difficult and created conflict when one
individual or the other couldn’t communicate effectively with the other. According to Thomas K.
Nakayama, “of course, every husband and wife develop their own idiosyncratic way of relating
to each other, but intercultural marriage poses consistent challenges,” (Nakayama 418).
One challenge that my mother described to me when I interviewed her for this paper is
that when she was still learning English, she was not able to keep up with my dad’s incredibly
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fast-speaking family. She struggled with code switching and explained that many times when she
was with his family, she found it challenging to keep up with what they were saying, so much of
the meaning or the semantics of the conversations were lost in translation. This was also
heightened because some of the expressions or sayings in Spanish that my mother would use to
express herself don’t have a direct, reciprocal term or phrase in English (and vice versa), so it
became frustrating when my mother and father felt like they were simultaneously not
Along with some issues that language barriers pose, intercultural relationships add so
many opportunities for learning and new experiences to people’s daily lives. My parents’
relationship and their mutual willingness to learn and understand each other’s culture attributed
to immense amounts of growth and achievement, not only as a couple but as individuals. As a
couple, they have learned to communicate with each other well and when an argument or
kerfuffle arises, they are able to address the issue by using clear, direct language to address the
issue. On an individual level, my father who was once an incredibly stoic, somewhat
emotionally-guarded man is now able to communicate his feelings more effectively and has
become more warm and open to new experiences while simultaneously maintaining some of his
stereotypical New England stoicism. My mother now has a better grasp on the English language
and through my dad, has learned about American culture and cultural practices and to an extent
has fused her American cultural knowledge with her ingrained Venezuelan cultural knowledge.
each other, but they were able to overcome their struggles and successfully raise 3 bilingual
daughters with a propensity for learning about different cultures. Through my parents’ teaching,
my sisters and I were able to learn about the dichotomous natures of our parents’ cultures while
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simultaneously blending them and creating our own family culture. We spend time with both
sides of our family and we occasionally bring the two sides together for big family gatherings.
We made our ‘new normal’ a unique, blended, bilingual version of the traditional suburban