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shame, and self-directed hostility (Brown & Siegel, 1988). Just like adults,
depressed children tend to blame themselves for bad events and accredit the
environment for good events--they do not give themselves credit when due (
This is a famous quote, though I'm not sure where it came from. I believe we all should think of
each other more as family rather than being so selfish and only thinking "me, me, me". I think the
solutions to many of these problems lie in a good education and a good upbringing. I have seen
parents barely raise their kids, thinking it's the school's job to teach them everything they need to
know about life. Meanwhile, many teachers are overworked, and have to deal with so many
different kids (or they're simply not good teachers) and so how can they be responsible for raising
20 kids each day? The teachers sometimes try to enlist the parents' help, but the parents are
sometimes too busy, or afraid to admit their child has a problem. Or the parents try to get the
school to cooperate in helping their child, but the school is too busy or they deny there is a
problem.
Here are some things I just thought of now that are important to teach children:
- to think independently, to solve problems on their own, not depend too much on others
- to think critically, not just accept what is in front of them, but to investigate and learn the truth
for themselves
- to have high morals, to not tolerate other's bad behavior around them, to stick up for others, and
help others in need
- to learn basic things for "survival" in their part of the world. This may mean growing their own
food, or it could mean knowing how to take a public bus to the food store, It could include healthy
food choices, and being able to do things like wash their clothes, do minor repairs on their house or
car or bicycle, etc.
Sometimes when my son gets a bit too dependent on me, and asks me to do too many things, I
remind him:
"My job as your parent is not to do everything for you, it's to teach you how to do it for
yourself"
When your older you have more responsibilities. This is the time where you
experiment, finding who you are. Of course, parents intervene into your life alot
and say no too nearly anything, cause teens to rebel.. Strains the relationship.
Depression, angst, hormones just makes things even better...
Children who use violence usually come from conflictive families; as has been
shown by a number of research studies. The psychologist, Arantzazu Bellido, has
reaffirmed this phenomenon for the Autonomous Community of the Basque
Country (CAV-EAE). She undertook surveys with a number of families in the
Basque province of Bizkaia, adapting previously used questionnaires to this end
and creating new ones specifically designed for this study. Ms Bellido
demonstrated that, effectively, there is a direct relationship between a child's
behaviour and their family environment. She has written her results and
conclusions for her PhD thesis, presented at the University of the Basque Country
(UPV/EHU).
The PhD thesis was entitled Family context and aggressive behaviour in 8-year-
old children. For her research Ms Bellido visited a number of schools in the
Basque province of Bizkaia, undertaking questionnaires in 251 families with
children of eight years of age. The researcher based her methodology on the
ecological model; i.e. apart from the child, she took factors into account that
have effect on the context in which he or she develops. Thus, the children, as
well as their family members, friends and school mates, took part in the survey.
The questionnaires used in the research had been adapted to the case of the
CAV-EAE; the task of adaptation was, in fact, one of contributions of Ms Bellido's
thesis. On the one hand, she used a number of questionnaires previously used
and validated in Spain and adapted them to the CAV-EAE. Ms Bellido also created
new questionnaires. For example, she drew up a questionnaire analysing the
views of parents regarding the process of children growing up and other ones
which gathered demographic and socio-economic data.