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Shirley J. Davis
Introduction
Copyright 2016 There are some books out there that tell the story of
what it is like to live with Dissociative Identity
Shirley J. Davis Disorder (DID) which have been written by people
who actually have the disorder, but not many. Most of
those works concentrate on the abuse and neglect
ISBN: 13:978-1539948025 which caused the authors to become multiples. This
book will describe in what are believed to be the root
causes of Dissociative Identity Disorder as well as the
accepted treatment and the controversies which
surround this condition. I will also discuss integration
and life beyond therapy, two subjects which have
very little literature written about them. I understand
well and know from a first-hand perspective what
DID is like as I lived and still live with the after
effects of this disorder. I will not dwell on
sensationalism but rather on the facts as they are
known today. It is my hope that people, including
clients and Therapists, will utilize this book as a
resource to achieving improved mental health. Good
luck on your journey.
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Psychological Trauma
One cannot discuss the diagnosis of Dissociative
Identity Disorder without first talking about
psychological trauma. The DSM-IV-TR defines
psychological trauma as:
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helplessness or horror. A person who is traumatized Neglect
will also experience many of the following Bullying
psychological symptoms:
It is important to remember that there is no right or
Shock, denial or disbelief wrong way to experience or express having endured
Confusion, difficulty concentrating trauma either as an adult or a child. We all respond
Anger, irritability, mood swings differently to our circumstances. One person’s hang
Anxiety and fear nail may be another person’s tragedy. It is all up to
Guilt, shame, self-blame our individual abilities to handle stressors in our
Withdrawing from others world.
Feeling sad or hopeless
Feeling disconnected or numb
Insomnia or nightmares
Fatigue
Being startled easily
Racing heartbeat
Edginess and agitation
Aches and pains
Muscle tension
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Alcohol or other substance abuse
Self-mutilation and other forms of self-harm
“Normal” Dissociation
Everyone dissociates. This is a normal phenomenon
every one of us experience several times in our lives.
Some examples of normal dissociation are:
Daydreaming
Highway hypnosis
Blanking out during a conversation
Feeling unfamiliar when looking in the mirror
Feeling dreamlike about other people or the
world
Having a sense that time is slowing down
(especially during a traumatic event)
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Dissociative Disorders Dissociative Identity Disorder
According to The National Alliance for the Mentally
Ill (NAMI) Dissociative Disorders: The prevalence of DID in the general population of
the United States is 1% (1 out of 100) afflicting
“are characterized by an involuntary escape from around 3.2 million people. It is Schizophrenia which
reality characterized by a disconnection between afflicts 3.5 million people in the US.
thoughts, identity, consciousness and memory. People
from all age groups and racial, ethnic and There are five criteria that must be met to meet the
socioeconomic backgrounds can experience a definition given in the DSM-V. They are as
dissociative disorder.” follows:
Some types of this disorder are as follows: 1. Two or more distinct identities or personality states
are present, each with its own relatively
Psychogenic amnesia-the inability to recall enduring pattern of perceiving, relating to and
personally significant memories. thinking about the environment and self.
Psychogenic fugue-memory loss characteristic 2. Amnesia must occur, defined as gaps in the recall
of amnesia, loss of one’s identity and fleeing of everyday events, important personal
from one’s home. information and/or traumatic events.
Depersonalization-this is a feeling of being
detached from yourself or looking at yourself 3. The person must be distressed by the disorder or
from the outside, as an observer would. have trouble functioning in one or more major
Derealization-this is a feeling of detachment life areas because of the disorder.
from the world around you, or a sense that
people or things feel unreal. 4. The disturbance is not part of normal cultural or
Identity confusion-this is a feeling of internal religious practices.
conflict of who you are – having difficulty in
defining yourself. 5. The symptoms are not due to the direct
physiological effects of a substance (such as
It is important to note that all dissociative disorders blackouts or chaotic behavior during alcohol
have their common root cause in severe trauma. intoxication) or a general medical condition
(such as complex partial seizures).
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Dissociative Identity Disorder was formerly known as Generalized anxiety
Multiple Personality Disorder. As can be seen in the Major depression
above number one in the five criteria listed in the Eating disorders
DSM this disorder is characterized by alternating Drug or alcohol dependency
between multiple identities. A person may feel like Body memories
one or more voices are trying to take control in their Severe headaches
head or experience the other personality taking over Unexplained medical symptoms, especially
the body. Often these identities may have unique chronic pain
names, characteristics, mannerisms and voices. Self-harm
People with DID will experience gaps in memory of Suicidal thoughts and behaviors
every day events, personal information and trauma. Flashbacks
Onset for the full disorder at can happen at any age, Relational difficulties
but it is more likely to occur in people who have Issues of shame and poor self-esteem
experienced severe, ongoing trauma before the age of
5. Women are more likely to be diagnosed, as they
more frequently present with acute dissociative
symptoms. Men are more likely to deny symptoms
and trauma histories, and commonly exhibit more
violent behavior, rather than amnesia or fugue states
(a rare psychiatric disorder characterized by
reversible amnesia for personal identity, including the
memories, personality, and other identifying
characteristics of individuality).
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This is the disorder that I have lived with all of my If you believe you live with this disorder or know
life. The abuse I endured began at birth and raged on someone who does please seek or help them seek
for all of my childhood until I was an adolescent. I help. There is no way a person afflicted with this
experienced the alters as parts of myself that I could disorder can “pull themselves together” without the
not access but heard all the same. I thought it was help of a well-trained Therapist. Do not expect to get
normal to have others talking to me and taking over well overnight either. It took me 27 years or arduous
for me when things got too hard. I had no way of work to gain my freedom from the symptoms of DID.
understanding that what I was experiencing on a daily It may take you less time, but it will require a great
basis wasn’t “normal”. When I became an adult this deal from you if you wish to be free. I do not say this
marvelous coping mechanism became a stone around lightly or to frighten you, but to encourage you to
my neck. I found I avoided relationships (especially fight on and never give up. As my Therapist once
the intimate kind) and had “mysterious” things impressed upon me, the best revenge is to get well
happening to and about me all the time. I would find and to live well.
clothes in my closet I didn’t remember buying and
even found large sums of cash in my underwear
drawer that I did not know where it came from. These
anomalies I just put down to a horrific memory and
went on as best I could until one day the memories of
the abuse I had endured began to resurface on its
own. I could not escape the overwhelming emotions
and horrific scenes being played out in my mind and I
knew that if I didn’t get help I would self-destruct.
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what the danger is, and a longer route comes from the
medial prefrontal cortex aka the area of the brain
involved in the final phase of fear reaction to danger
the choice of action to avoid it.
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beer and certain types of strong men’s cologne. The
mixture may trigger a memory fragment of extreme
danger from something that happened fifty years prior
but which is not happening now. The person’s body
will not know the difference as the damaged amygdala
fires a warning signal to the body releasing stress
hormones of a perceived risk that simply isn’t
happening in the now. Thus the person will have all
the sensations and physical response as they did when
the danger was actually happening.
Therapy
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presenting to them (in other words you) than you will trained not to give advice unless a situation absolutely
be wasting your time talking to them. I have had warrants it and to use observation and reflective
Therapists who were total wastes of my time and listening to help you find your way. Don’t enter
effort. They either didn’t have the training to deal therapy expecting your Therapist to have all of the
with my problems and/or they hadn’t the training to answers in a list of things from point A to point B for
deal with the complexity of my needs. Both problems you to do to get well. It doesn’t work that way. A
became apparent rather early on in my treatment and Therapist will help you pick through your
so I moved on looking for someone who could help dysfunctional thinking and distorted beliefs one at a
me. time week by week but they are not soothsayers and
they know that ultimately it is all up to you. You are
Something to keep in mind when choosing a in control of that fifty minutes. If you want to talk
Therapist is to pay attention to their attitude toward about the weather well they will do that. If you want
you. Do they show proper respect and empathy or do to space out and not say a word they will allow you
they feel they are somehow better than you because to. It has been my experience that I needed to go in
they do not have a mental illness? Do they have with an open mind and not plan exactly what I am
expectations for you to get well and to do well or do going to say ahead of time. Come on, you know what
they harbor thoughts of “What’s the use” in their I mean. I’ve spent an inordinate amount of time
minds when dealing with your diagnosis? These are thinking of exactly how and what I’m going to say
very important considerations. If you do find yourself before I ever stepped foot in the door of my
dealing with a Therapist who does not show respect Therapist’s office. Instead think of a main topic and
for you or who expects less than a full recovery for leave it lay until you are sitting safely in the office
you then you have the right to cut off communication chair facing your Therapist, you will find you get
with that person and seek help elsewhere. Do not much better results.
settle for less than professionalism and for someone
who believes in you. The Decision to Get Well
What to Expect and Not to Expect I know it may sound like a no brainer but think about
it. All your life you have struggled with depression
I think one of the worse mistakes people make when and feelings of inadequacy and now you are in a fight
they enter therapy is expecting too much or the wrong for your life. It only makes sense that the first major
things from their Therapist. He/she is only a human decision you will face in therapy is deciding that you
with a high amount of training and a degree. They are are going to get well. Allow me to root you on in this.
not God nor can they read your mind. They are I remember the days of feeling that I would never see
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the light of day again, especially on those instances simply can take no more. I’ve attempted suicide
when I was hospitalized for being exhausted and several times, the first time when I was seven years
suicidal. I can assure you of this, if you fight you will old. Am I proud of this fact? No. I simply state it as a
one day emerge the winner of this horrible fight! Yes, matter of record to say that I do understand where you
there will be some dark days ahead but I guarantee are at and that I hope you will hear my voice, the
you that these days will pass and the sun will shine! I voice of someone who knows and has been there.
know because I’ve sat where you are sitting right now This isn’t a decision that came to me lightly or
and have emerged on the other side a victor. Am I quickly. It took time and a very patient Therapist to
braver or smarter than you? Absolutely not. Is the get me to this point. I love life now and I can say it
abuse I went through less than yours in some degree would take an enormous amount of stress to pull me
that makes me somehow more able to conquer my out of the place where I am now. I am thriving not
past? Nope. If I took the time to outline the abuse I’ve just living and more aware of life than most people
survived you would see that you and I have an awful who have not been through the emotional turmoil I
lot in common. (Comparing my abuse to yours would have will ever be. There is so much for you to look
be useless anyhow, it would be comparing apples to forward to, don’t give up! Live!
oranges) Hang in there, make the decision that you
will get well even if it is to make sure that your
abusers don’t win. Medications
Making the Decision to Live There are no medications that can treat DID but there
are some that can treat the symptoms you may be
I know all too well what it is like going through the experiencing such as major depression. If you need to
first hellish days if not years of therapy. Nine chances take these medications then don’t be afraid to do so.
out of ten it was suicidality which forced you into Be cautious though. Some of the medications given
therapy in the first place. The pain endured during for sleep disturbances and anxiety are highly
therapy is palpable. I understand first hand just how addictive and can make more problems than they
horrendous this process is and I’m saying right here solve. Make sure to keep those appointments with
and now that sooner or later you will need to make your medical professional and keep them posted on
the decision to give up on that kind of negative self- how you are doing. Honesty is the best policy always
talk and defeatism. You will need to make the with the people who control your meds. If you feel
decision that you are going to live. I know how you are abusing a substance than please make sure to
tempting it is to keep the thought of self-destruction say something. It would be a horrible shame for you
on the back burner saved for that moment when you to be making progress in therapy only to have your
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psyche taken over by substance abuse. If you are self-
medicating such as using alcohol or street drugs
please stop. Get help. You are too valuable and have
too much potential to be lost now to their use.
The chaos of living with the realities of what had Six: Reaching Out
been my childhood had begun. Suddenly I was
overrun with emotions and flashbacks of horrendous I began to reach out to others like myself who have
things that I found incomprehensible. The feelings of been victims of childhood trauma. I found two online
worthlessness and helplessness threatened my websites where I was wanted and accepted (they are
existence. I sought and found professional help only listed in the resource section of this work). I found
great comfort in communicating with and hobnobbing
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with these folks who understood me and my condition totally different and perhaps more shallow and with
first hand. The quote that “no man is an island” is so less self-understanding.
true. No one can face these issues without help.
Reaching out helped to dispel the stigma and self- Nine: Resolution
victimization which comes with the knowledge that
one has such a severe mental condition such as DID There came a day when I had remembered all that
which can bring on isolation. was necessary to remember and cried all the tears that
were necessary to cry. I was ready to allow my past to
Seven: Dependence fade into the background in a healthy manner and had
found myself. Had I become enlightened? Yes and
I inevitably became dependent on the care and no. Yes, in the essence that I know who I am and that
concern of my Therapist for a while. This was not I want to be happy, but no in that I am like everyone
harmful as I had a very professional and well- else, struggling to find my path through the maze we
seasoned Therapist who understood this stage well. call life. Welcome to reality.
She became in many ways the mother I never had. I
depended on her to teach me the skills I needed to in
order to become the woman I was intended to be all Ten: Moving On
along. When she retired we parted under great terms
she to a more private life and myself to a wonderful This is where I am now. I left therapy a month ago.
life of wholeness and reality. This does not mean all my problems are behind me or
that I will not need to seek professional help in the
Eight: Acceptance future. It does not mean the flashbacks are gone
forever. What it does mean is that I am at peace with
I finally got to the stage where I could accept my life myself and that I have learned all the skills I need to
both in the past and present as simply being what they proceed into my life unhindered and unafraid. This is
are, no more and no less. I am who I am because of the hoped for outcome of all who enter recovery from
my experiences, and a vital part of acceptance is to childhood trauma and DID.
understand this concept. Where in the beginning
stages I wished I could return to my denial to get out The above stages seem to be laid out nice and neat
of the pain, now I began to be grateful for all of my but one must remember that, just like the stages of
experiences. Good and bad they have shaped and grief, people will go through many of these stages
molded me to the beautiful person who now writes over and over again. Sometimes you will feel you
these words. Without them I would be someone have surfaced from the water of chaos and grief only
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to be knocked back into it the very next day. The
important thing I wish to relay about this is that there
is an end to it. You will not always have to go in and
out of these stages. If you work hard and keep on
trucking one day you’ll awaken and realize you’ve
had more good days than bad that week. You’ll
understand that you’re crying more with your
Therapist and not holding things in like you once did. The Myth and Reality of Integration
You’ll feel the healing happening. This is the
wonderful and enlightening feeling you have to look Not much has been written on the topic of integration.
forward to. It is perhaps one of the least understood aspects of
recovery from Dissociative Identity Disorder.
Bringing up this subject can bring on fits of fear in
the person who is struggling to get free of the
disabling effects of DID on a person’s life. In
classical thinking, and that which has permeated our
society via the perpetuation of myth, is that a person
who exists as a multiple personality somehow must
pull all of their alters into one cohesive personality
just like the “normal” people who we call singletons
(people without multiple personalities). One can see
why some people claim this is akin to murdering the
alters. This classical definition of integration simply
is not a truthful one.
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about full acceptance of all dissociated aspects of I have come to understand as well that I am the leader
oneself.”1 of a beautiful orchestra. Without a leader, an
orchestra can’t make lovely music as there is discord
I wholeheartedly agree with this definition. While my and chaos among the different musical instruments.
brain is not capable of forming one cohesive Only when a great orchestra leader steps up to the
personality out of the fragments brought about by podium and leads the different parts in harmony can
severe child abuse and neglect, I have learned how to the genius of Mozart or Beethoven be truly
cooperate within myself and to operate as a whole appreciated. I became the leader not because I wanted
person. Even though my mind remains splintered I to, (God knows that isn’t true), but because I am the
now own all of my behaviors, feelings and beliefs. personality who lives in the real world and
understands how the present works. All of my alters
What Does Integration Look Like? live in trauma-time, in pieces of my past where the
rules of society didn’t exist or were not well
As has been stated in the above definition, my understood because I was an adolescent or an adult
experiences of the past, present and future belong to fragment. I understand what the laws and expected
me. I take full responsibility for all of my thought norms of our society are and thus I am the best
processes. Sometimes I find this very uncomfortable candidate to be the leader of the orchestra. I am in
as I would like to say, “SHE felt/said that!” but in total control of my life whether I sometimes want to
reality I know that anything and everything felt, said admit that or not. In essence, the buck stops here. If
or done by any other part of myself is being felt, said someone in my system commits a crime I and only I
or done by me. You cannot x-ray my head and see all am responsible for that action. If someone in my
kinds of other people hanging about, I am the only system lies or harms someone else’s feelings I and
person in here. To assign to another personality alone only I am responsible for those behaviors. To say I
the feelings or actions I do and feel is to give away am not is to allow my abusers to continue to have rule
power that weakens me. They are me and I am them. over my life and my future. I will not allow that.
That is perhaps the most important and fundamental
understanding any multiple must come to understand The Benefits of Integration
if they wish to be integrated.
To have control over one’s life is to have a sense of
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Defining Integration, Downing, Rachel L.C.S.W.C., 2003, peace that goes beyond anything I ever knew as a
https://www.sidran.org/resources/for-survivors-and-loved-
ones/understanding-integration splintered and out of control entity. Does that mean I
always enjoy my life? Nope. Some days I desire my
denial and multiplicity back. I admit I sometimes
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wish I could split off and allow someone else to take
the reins but those are but fleeting moments. I
understand deep down that to live a life where you
know what is happening in your life, even if those
things are bad such as when I was diagnosed with
breast cancer, are far better than the chaos of not
knowing or remembering what I have said and done. I Roadmap to a Milestone
enjoy an inner peace knowing that I will go to bed
tonight without the fear of having done or said How did I achieve this milestone in my life termed
something I will regret later. integration? What were the steps I took to become as
whole in my attitudes and thoughts as possible? It
Another benefit of integration is that I can now begin took many years of hard work but I can lay out three
to plan for a future. I have returned to college and get stages of this work.
excellent grades. I am moving forward into the future
unafraid and full of hope. I could never have done Stage One. Finding a safe place. One of the first
this as a separated entity. things my Therapist helped me to do was to find a
safe place in my mind where I could retreat if things
Then again there is the real possibility of being able got too rough out here. I decided to make my safe
to have meaningful and lasting relationships with place a warm and sandy beach with a roaring beach
other people. Always before integration I was so fire made from drift wood. There the water and fire
caught up in my own inner world of turmoil that I are so safe they can be walked on and you cannot get
couldn’t allow myself to be close to anyone in the hurt. The beach became a wonderful place to not only
outside world. Now I am fully capable of enjoying the retreat, but as you will see later, a place to hold
company of others because my emotions are no audience with my alters.
longer colored so darkly by the hurt I experienced in
my childhood. Is this transformation complete? No. I Stage Two. Meeting the others. At first I was terrified
am human and we humans tend to always see other of my alters as I saw them as the enemy within so to
relationships in new ones, but I am as close to speak. I didn’t know all of their names and I had
“normal” in this regard as I ever will be. never met them. I only knew of them because of what
other people had told me and because of the problems
they caused in my life. Soon after starting therapy I
would go to the beach and sit quietly by the fire
waiting. I didn’t understand what I was waiting for,
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but instinctively I knew that this was a vital part of
my recovery. It wasn’t long before I was meeting my
alters. The first to approach me was Bianca, a
precocious 18-year old girl who, it turned out later,
would become my greatest ally. After Bianca came
the 6-year old children and then others of various
ages. Slowly, they grew to know me and I began to
understand something important. These weren’t
enemies out to ruin my life, they were just hurting A Word About False Memories
kids (and a few adults) who needed desperately to be
loved and cared for. I wouldn’t feel comfortable publishing a book about
DID if I didn’t mention something that has been
Stage Three. Becoming my own mother. After I termed “False Memory Syndrome”. After scouring
realized that these parts I had been so afraid of were the Internet looking for information on this topic I
just hurting parts of me I began to feel real empathy found a lot of interesting and conflicting information.
and caring for them. At first I couldn’t understand Can false memories be implanted in humans? Yes.
that I needed to be the mother of all of me. I wanted That has been proven. What is questionable is the
so much for anyone, especially my Therapist, to be extent that people fabricate or are made to form
my mom. I found it painful to acknowledge that my memories of events that did not happen to them.
real mother would never be able to step into the role There are basically two camps to this debate which
of mom in my life, that it was totally my has caught the world of psychiatry off guard and by
responsibility to do so. It was only after I entered a storm.
long-term facility for the mentally ill and was told to
never speak of my disorder or alters again that I On the one hand you have the proponents who say
assumed this role. I realized that someone had to that most people remember things fairly accurately if
protect these fragile parts from harm and that the only not perfectly and that memories of traumatic events
one who could do so was me. I assumed control from can be shoved down deep inside the psyche
that point. There are times, like any parent, when I (repressed) only to be remembered later. On the other
wish I could lay down the mantle of mother to so hand you have the opponents of such thinking who
many personalities (there are so many 6-year olds!) believe just as wholeheartedly that memory is pliable
but to do so would be to give up control of my life. but that memories of something as horrendous as
This is something I do not wish to do ever again. childhood abuse would not be forgotten (repressed).
They claim that unscrupulous or inept Therapists are
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planting false memories of abuse into the minds of I offer this information to you so you can make up
suggestible people causing them to believe a lie. your own mind. I urge you to check it out yourself
online before you make up your mind either way. In
I find it very disquieting that the latter camp has science, it is important to weigh both sides of an
chosen some very unethical methods to collect the argument carefully and to do experiments not looking
data it uses to prove its belief system such as hiring for a certain outcome but expecting answers to come
spies to pose as either clients or Therapists in order to from either direction to or for your position. I urge
infiltrate the sacred office and relationship of the Psychiatrists and Therapists as well as clients
client/Therapist relationship. They justify these means everywhere to insist on further research and that the
by saying that they have uncovered proof in doing so hateful rhetoric which has caused such decisiveness
that some Therapists are fully aware that they are end. Nothing good can ever come of people being so
leading their clients on asking suggestive questions entrenched in their beliefs that they do not share their
and offering them possible scenarios. I am not sitting research methods and results.
in those offices when such interviews take place
which prove or disprove the existence of this
“syndrome” but I find it also very disquieting that no
statistical evidence has been shared with the public or
in the psychiatric community to prove these
potentially damning interviews ever took place. Also
false memory proponents offer as proof of their
innocence the facts that they “dress well, smile and
have good jobs.” What kind of scientific or otherwise
evidence is that? I’ve read document after document
where proof has been offered to the existence of what
is termed “False Memory Syndrome” and have been
surprised to discover that the term “syndrome” isn’t a
term given it by empirically proven evidence which
has been repeated outside of the group which first
gave it its name as one would expect of something as
important as this type of “syndrome” should be. Yet,
it has been used in court battles and in many other
forms to discredit people who have claimed to have
been abused in childhood by their family members.
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How could I have picked up the knowledge of how to
be responsible for my own happiness for instance, if I
was always trying to survive in a situation that was
impossible. The people who raised me were in
survival mode as well and were until they died so
they couldn’t teach me. It took at least one very well-
The Other Side of Therapy trained and patient Therapist to help me learn how to
do these six things and many more on my own.
Around a month ago I ended twenty-seven years of
Now on the other side of therapy I feel strong and
intensive therapy. I had many ups and downs in that
able, two things I thought I would never feel when I
time but I have to say unequivocally it was definitely
began this process. I am truly grateful for the people
worth it. There are basically six things I have gleaned
who helped me to gain the inner peace I experience
from my many years in the client’s chair.
on a daily basis. I am not saying that I will never find
myself seeking out the help of a mental health
1. I have learned to take responsibility for my
professional, but man it feels good to be here. No
own happiness.
longer am I plagued with feelings of wanting to die
2. I have learned to like myself and to depend on
and making plans to do so. No longer am I plagued in
myself.
my dreams and waking hours by flashbacks of
3. I have learned how to handle stressful
horrendous abuse. I no longer find myself splintering
situations and conflicts with myself and
into my alters so I do not face the inevitable loss of
others.
time and having people accuse me of doing and
4. I have learned to love myself with all of my
saying things I do not remember. Here on the other
flaws.
side of therapy there is joy and an almost uncanny
5. I have learned to take care of my needs and to
awareness of the beauty of life that is all around me.
temper my wants.
Sometimes I find this awareness to be a curse because
6. I have learned how to look forward to the
I notice things that most people are simply deaf and
future and to enjoy today.
blind to in our world and I get frustrated but I
wouldn’t trade my life for anything. Yes, I suffered in
Writing that list, it almost appears I should have been
childhood and the past twenty-seven years have
able to accomplish these life changing lessons on my
certainly been a trial but the benefits far outweigh the
own, but that simply isn’t the case. In the world I
downfalls of going on the journey I have just
grew up in there was very little teaching of these
completed.
important things and a whole lot of anger and hurt.
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I wrote this chapter because there is virtually no Resources
literature out there about what to expect when you
leave therapy. I know, I have looked. I wanted to This is only a partial list of all of the resources
encourage anyone who is in therapy or who is available on the web. There are many, many, many
thinking about entering it to understand that there is more resources of information on all the topics
an end to it. The tears will one day cease and you will covered in this book. Remember to look at each one
find yourself wiser and more able than most people using a critical eye. Please, do your own research and
you know. Suddenly every sunset will become lovely be cautious what you believe. There are as many
and the flowers will be more colorful. Children will opinions about Dissociative Identity Disorder, False
be the blessing they were always meant to be and you Memories, and Therapy as there are grains of sand on
will find yourself happier than most. I mean that. the seashore. Use your own mind to choose whom
Even with the knowledge of what happened to you as you should and should not believe.
a child you will be happy. I know that sounds hallow
right now but it is true. The now is so much better
than trauma-time could ever be.
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https://www.nami.org/Learn-More/Mental-
Health-Conditions/Dissociative-Disorders Websites for Research on False Memory
Syndrome
Tartakovsky, Margarita, Dispelling Myths about
Dissociative Identity Disorder, PsychCentral,
http://psychcentral.com/lib/dispelling-myths- Pope, Kenneth S., American Psychologist, Memory,
about-dissociative-identity-disorder/ Abuse, and Science:
Questioning Claims about the False Memory
Waseem, Muhammad MD, Dissociative Identity Syndrome Epidemic,
Disorder, Medscape, http://www.kspope.com/memory/memory.php
http://emedicine.medscape.com/article/916186-
overview Merskey, Harold, Presentation and Management of
International Society for the Study of Trauma and False Memory Syndrome, Advances in Psychiatric
Dissociation Treatment, 1998, Vol. 4, pp. 253-262,
http://www.isst-d.org/ http://apt.rcpsych.org/content/aptrcpsych/4/5/253.f
The Colin Ross Institute for Psychological Trauma, ull.pdf
http://www.rossinst.com False Memory Syndrome Foundation
http://www.fmsfonline.org/
The Sidran Institute
http://www.sidran.org Websites for Brain Research
International Society for the Study of Trauma and Understanding the Effects of Maltreatment on Brain
Dissociation, (2011) 'Guidelines for Treating Development, 2015
Dissociative Identity Disorder in Adults, Third https://www.childwelfare.gov/pubPDFs/brain_dev
Revision: Summary Version', Journal of Trauma & elopment.pdf
Dissociation,
http://www.isst- At What Age is the Brain Fully Developed, Mental
d.org/downloads/2011AdultTreatmentGuidelinesSumm Health Daily,
ary.pdf http://mentalhealthdaily.com/2015/02/18/at-what-
age-is-the-brain-fully-developed/
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Websites for Support
Ivory Garden Dissociative Identity Disorder Support
Group,
http://www.igdid.com
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