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This morning we are task to share with you about the topic “Life change.” I just hope
that our discussions will be of some use to us, either educational, informative, or at least
entertaining. To start w/ our session today, let me share with you a table that lists the
developmental Life Stages in Man, and the corresponding Developmental Tasks
associated with each life stage. EIGHT STAGES OF MAN
This morning our discussion will center on the Psychosocial changes that will occur in
the Middle adulthood which range from 40 – 60 yrs of age, average of 50, this will be a
simple time of reflection. It may lead them to try new things, to make more time for
themselves, to take better care of their health, lose weight, or to take certain leaps such as
starting their own business or making investments. These can be healthy changes if not
done too impulsively.
The developmental task at this stage is Generativity vs. Stagnation. Generativity is the
concern of establishing and guiding the next generation. Socially-valued work and
disciplines are expressions of generativity. Simply having or wanting children does not in
and of itself achieve generativity
Some specifics which could be a source of stress to this age group: BODY CHANGES
HIGHLIGHTS- In spite of the difficult aspects associated with the changes and
adjustments in all dimensions… it can be a positive turning point of one’s life such
that- THE PERSON, CAN TAKE THIS GREAT OPPORTUNITY TO BE TRULY
ALIVE AND TRULY ONE’S SELF… NOT BECAUSE ONE IS FORCED TO,
BUT BECAUSE ONE DESIRES TO BE
1) CAREER.
2) INTIMACY
3) ASSERTIVENESS.
4) FAMILY VIEW
5) VIEW ON DEATH
Midlife crises seem to affect men and women differently If so, are there gender
differences in these triggers? Yes. Researchers have proposed that the triggers for mid-
life crisis differ between men and women, with male…. mid-life crisis more likely to be
caused by work issue. Researchers summarized an earlier work w/c found that, men were
far more likely than women to consider a career event to be a "life turning point" (38% vs
17%); education also had a large difference (19% of men considered it a turning point, vs
6% of women)
3) Say what you feel “I have asthma, so when my partner smokes at home I have
difficulty breathing. But I don't like to ask him to stop - after all, it is his home too!' 'I
bottle up my anger until it all bursts out in one big explosion, and then I feel awful.'
Assertiveness isn't about being aggressive, or always getting your own way. It's about
standing up for yourself, constructively.
Bob and Jenny have two young teenage children. Every Sunday for as long as they
have been a family, they have gone round to Bob's mother's home for Sunday lunch. Bob
doesn't really want to, but thinks it's a way of saving Jenny from cooking on Sundays.
Jenny doesn't want to, but is afraid of hurting Bob's feelings by saying so. The children
don't want to go, either, but feel their parents won't listen if they say so. Bob's mother is
getting old, and increasingly finding the weekly visits an ordeal, but she doesn't mention
this for fear of hurting Bob's feelings, or of failing in her own eyes as a mother and
grandmother. In this situation, nobody is doing what they really want to do, and nobody
is talking about it. It's likely that everybody will end up feeling resentful. In a situation
like this, deadlock can be broken when someone says (and it may well be one of the
children), 'I don't want to go to Gran's on Sunday'. This can open up the possibility of
others saying what they want and feel about how Sundays are in this family. New
negotiations can take place, and there is the possibility that a different way of organising
their Sundays can be found that gives more pleasure to more family members. There is
more satisfaction and less resentment, all round.
lll COMPENSATE
BEFORE NOW
An attractive body says goodbye to youthful figure and face. Now face
with GRACE, SERENITY & HUMOR, learn to
accept the inevitable “sags and bulges” in their
bodies
II. COMMUNICATE
III. COMPENSATE
IV. BALANCE
V. SPIRITUAL LIVES AND GROWTH ISSUES. This will be taken up by Dr. Marge
– FACING GOD
– FORGIVENESS AND HEALING
– COMMUNICATIONS- OPENNESS
– TRUST AND OBEDIENCE
– GAINING THE WISDOM (ACCEPTING THE GOOD AND THE BAD; THE
IDEAL AND THE REAL).
– GIVING AND SHARING
A closing thought :
“Midlife doesn't need to bring crisis. Sometimes, it just brings change, in the form of
reinvention”