WHY DO I FEEL HAPPY OR SAD ?

SUKH - DUKH
 ACTION LEADS TO EXPECTATIONS
Every action that we perform in our day to day life creates a set of expectations within us.

Doesn’t matter if that action is performed for

Family

Friends

Corporate

etc
 EXPECTATIONS ARE NOT PURELY DEPENDENT ON MY ACTIONS
The level of expectation is dependent upon my:
o own personal circumstances
o views on particular topic
o ideology
o interpretation and perception - state of mind

Same activity conducted by two people separately will create totally different level of
expectations
 EXPECTATIONS CAN BE DIFFERENT

Joe – Daily wage worker Rama – Daily wage worker – same work as Joe

Family – Single Family – 2 kids

House – Paid Off House – Mortgaged

State of Mind – Never satisfied; worrying about future; State of Mind – has got faith; understands that who has
looking for issues as opposed to what is in hand. given me food till date, will take care of rest

Expectation – Always wanting more to secure future. Gets Expectation – gets $200; satisfied with outcomes.
$300 per day but expects $350 - $400; he believes that will
solve all his issues.
 SUKH DUKH
10 10
achievement of outcomes achievement of outcomes
0
beyond expectation Sukh
below expectation 0
Dukh
Expectation Outcome Expectation Outcome

The key question in this whole process is

Who created the expectation? - ME

Who is quantifying the effort that I inputting into the action? - ME
Is outcome in my control? If yes, then why didn’t achieve what I expected?
 Materialistic SUKH DUKH – Gurbani’s Definition
Gurbani guides us that :
suKu nwhI bhuqY Din Kwty ]
suKu nwhI pyKy inriq nwty ]
suKu nwhI bhu dys kmwey ] 1) We are always looking for materialistic sukh and never wanting
dukh
mwieAw mnhu n vIsrY mWgY dMmw dMm ]
so pRBu iciq n AwveI nwnk nhI krMm ]1] 2) Materialistic comfort (sukh) is short lived

shs Kty lK kau auiT DwvY ]

iqRpiq n AwvY mwieAw pwCY pwvY ] 3) One comfort leads to asking for more; it’s never ending story

jo sMpiq ApnI kir mwnI iCn mih BeI prweI ] 4) The concept of Sukh and Dukh in Maya is self manifested

sUK dUK iesu mn kI ibrQw quJ hI AwgY swrY ]1]

 Outcomes of Keep Asking Materialistic Sukh
imTw kir kY KwieAw kauVw aupijAw swdu ] There is equal and opposite reaction to keep demanding and
BweI mIq suird kIey ibiKAw ricAw bwdu ] expecting sukh of maya.
jWdy iblm n hoveI ivxu nwvY ibsmwdu ]1]

1) More we indulge into certain aspects of materialistic sukh, more

suKu mWgq duKu AwgY AwvY ]
likelihood of them becoming pain over the time
so suKu hmhu n mWigAw BwvY ]1]

ivxu quDu horu ij mMgxw isir duKw kY duK ] 2) We consider all these comforts as Sukh but Gurbani classifies all of
dyih nwmu sMqoKIAw auqrY mn kI BuK ] them as DUKH

suK kau mwgY sBu ko duKu n mwgY koie ]

suKY kau duKu Aglw mnmuiK bUJ n hoie ]
 Materialistic Sukh - Re-Set the Expectation
Key to overcoming the materialistic sukh-dukh
icMqw qw kI kIjIAY jo AnhonI hoie ]
1) Re-set the expectation to ZERO
iehu mwrgu sMswr ko nwnk iQru nhI koie ]51]
2) I am not the Doer – Akal Purakh is the REAL Doer
eynw jMqw kY vis ikCu nwhI quDu vykI jgqu aupwieAw ]
3) Outcome was / is / never will be in my control

jb lgu jwnY muJ qy kCu hoie ]

qb ies kau suKu nwhI koie ]

4
jb ieh jwnY mY ikCu krqw ] 2
qb lgu grB join mih iPrqw ]
0
Sukh
-2

Expectation Outcome
 SUKH DUKH
jo pwvih BWfy ivic vsqu sw inklY ikAw koeI kry
vycwrw ]

My Perspective (jo pwvih BWfy ivic vsqu)

• I am the most deserving person
Greed • I am the most hard worker
• Everyone else is dumb
I am the
Expectations
Doer Outcomes (sw inklY ikAw koeI kry vycwrw)
• Stress – I didn’t get what I thought I
ME deserved
• Someone else got more than what I got
• Someone didn’t support me when I expected
Deserving Goals them to be supportive

I am best
Sukh dukh is purely self manifested concept
created by my own thoughts / viewpoints
 In this whole battle we forgot REAL SUKH DUKH
Gurbani’s talk about Sukh-Dukh, which is beyond time
hm grIb mskIn pRB qyry hir rwKu rwKu vf vfw hy ]
jn nwnk nwmu ADwru tyk hY hir nwmy hI suKu mMfw hy]4]4]
1) Real Sukh is in the sharan of Ram – Accepting the Hukum as
HIS Sweet Will

jau suK kau cwhY sdw srin rwm kI lyh ]

khu nwnk suin ry mnw durlB mwnuK dyh ]27] 2) Making Naam as the basis of life is the Real Sukh

3) In middle of daily battles on short lived comforts and

ieku duKu rwm rwie kwthu myrw ] discomforts, we forgot the REAL sukh or purpose of life
Agin dhY Aru grB bsyrw ]1] rhwau ]

jnmq hI duKu lwgY mrxw Awie kY ]

jnmu mrxu prvwxu hir gux gwie kY ]4]
 How do we Overcome REAL Dukh
imqR Gxyry kir QkI myrw duKu kwtY koie ] Gurbani’s talk about Sukh-Dukh, which is beyond time
imil pRIqm duKu kitAw sbid imlwvw hoie ]
1) Real Sukh is in the sharan of Ram – Accepting the Hukum as
HIS Sweet Will
jw dyKw pRBu Awpxw pRiB dyiKAY duKu jwie ]
jwie puCw iqn sjxw pRBu ikqu ibiD imlY imlwie ]1]
2) Making Naam as the basis of life is the Real Sukh

kUkr kUVu kmweIAY gur inMdw pcY pcwnu ] 3) In middle of daily battles on short lived comforts and
Brmy BUlw duKu Gxo jmu mwir krY Kulhwnu ]mnmuiK suKu n pweIAY discomforts, we forgot the REAL sukh or purpose of life
gurmuiK suKu suBwnu ]3]

Alp suK Cwif prm suK pwvw ]

qb ieh qRIA Euhu kMqu khwvw ]41]
 Summary
Why do I feel Happy or SAD

1) I feel I am the DOER - Bharam

2) Stronger the feeling of DOER, higher the expectations in life

3) I am spending whole life in achieving and grieving about short lived (dis)comforts

4) In the middle of all these meaningless battles, I forgot the REAL meaning of this LIFE – GOBIND Milan ki Eh Teri Bariya